This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- Pending CAS
- My bf went to a party where his ex was
- I feel like a weirdo
- Can you get into medical school without work experience?
- My boyfriend uses porn instead of pictures of me, why does it upset me so much?
- Driving test fail
- Really bad teacher attachment issues
- A villager: short story
- Last thing you ate
- GCSEs form a nerodivergent
- Obsessive friend
- Should I start studying for A levels?
- What the hell IB???
- Have you ever felt a closeness with someone you don't really know??
- How do I prevent my mom from getting back with my abusive father?
- So confused about this guys behaviour…
- friends.. how?
- Does Allah control everything
- Loneliness and Hope (An ongoing experience) - Long post/read
- Make it More Hairstyle-ey !!
Feel almost ashamed of tender or sincere feelings
Edit-I should add that the general way of our culture seems to be robust, piss taking, lugubriousness and all other means of seemingly hiding real emotions.
Why are we English so weird in this way?
Why are we English so weird in this way?
Reply 1
It just seems so perverse where I'm made to feel weird for emotions that i regard as completely normal. It's as though people put some contrived shield up to show themselves to not be wet, to be flippant, declare themselves above such feelings. To imply that sincerity is boring.
Reply 2
how old are you? :/
Reply 3
Probably not articulating it quite as well as I want. Some of it can't be put into words. I do think the English are very messed up about emotion though.
Reply 4
Somewhat Damaged
how old are you? :/
18
Reply 6
M.A.H
chav?
not at all no.
Reply 7
Just be yourself and don't worry what others think. Human emotions can provide the best feelings & experiences as well as the worst. That's what life's all about...the good and the bad. The people that criticise or mock such feelings are the ones missing out.
Reply 8
I guess I mean to say that even if I feel ashamed of my nobility or sincerity. Like these lugubrious, highly intellligent, charismatic, posturing, anti-emotion types, make me feel like that way of being is shameful, that you should aspire to their ways. I'm sorry it's not very clear but those are the best words I can find
Reply 9
redef1ne
Just be yourself and don't worry what others think. Human emotions can provide the best feelings & experiences as well as the worst. That's what life's all about...the good and the bad. The people that criticise or mock such feelings are the ones missing out.
thanks, I try to be but these folk are so irritating. And when they are charismatic it has the effect of making you feel a bit unusual about it
Reply 10
Anonymous
thanks, I try to be but these folk are so irritating. And when they are charismatic it has the effect of making you feel a bit unusual about it
Often when people are exceptionally vocal/extroverted in putting across their opinions on a particular subject they're doing it to compensate for something. They probably have the same feelings as you do, they just put on a front to hide their sensitivity and portray a stronger and stereotypically more masculine image.
Reply 11
redef1ne
Often when people are exceptionally vocal/extroverted in putting across their opinions on a particular subject they're doing it to compensate for something. They probably have the same feelings as you do, they just put on a front to hide their sensitivity and portray a stronger and stereotypically more masculine image.
Yeah, I guess it's not that they make overt statements about it or anything, it's just their attitude and demeanour that I read these things from.
I don't think so much it's even a masculinity issue, after all there's nothing unmasculine about sincerity or feeling passion for someone. It's more like one of sincerity vs pretense. But thanks.
Reply 12
Anonymous
Yeah, I guess it's not that they make overt statements about it or anything, it's just their attitude and demeanour that I read these things from.
I don't think so much it's even a masculinity issue, after all there's nothing unmasculine about sincerity or feeling passion for someone. It's more like one of sincerity vs pretense. But thanks.
I don't think so much it's even a masculinity issue, after all there's nothing unmasculine about sincerity or feeling passion for someone. It's more like one of sincerity vs pretense. But thanks.
Yeah, that's what I mean. They're putting on an act by portraying that attitude, to represent themselves in a certain way. And in my view it's far better to be true to yourself and outwardly embrace emotions than act out a facade to hide them.
Reply 13
You're calling yourself noble? 
Maybe they think you're being insincere, or throwing around emotions without really understanding them. It can be embarrassing watching a massive display of histrionics.
Emotions are a very private thing - they can be uncomfortable and painful, and they put people in a position of vulnerability. They're also sometimes seriously cringeworthy, and you should be careful about who you voice them to. Also, remember that, just because you feel a certain way, doesn't mean your friends or whoever have experienced that feeling, and it may not be appropriate to discuss it with them, so of course they're gonna ridicule you.
Maybe they think you're being insincere, or throwing around emotions without really understanding them. It can be embarrassing watching a massive display of histrionics.
Emotions are a very private thing - they can be uncomfortable and painful, and they put people in a position of vulnerability. They're also sometimes seriously cringeworthy, and you should be careful about who you voice them to. Also, remember that, just because you feel a certain way, doesn't mean your friends or whoever have experienced that feeling, and it may not be appropriate to discuss it with them, so of course they're gonna ridicule you.
Reply 15
nougat
You're calling yourself noble?
Maybe they think you're being insincere, or throwing around emotions without really understanding them. It can be embarrassing watching a massive display of histrionics.
Emotions are a very private thing - they can be uncomfortable and painful, and they put people in a position of vulnerability. They're also sometimes seriously cringeworthy, and you should be careful about who you voice them to. Also, remember that, just because you feel a certain way, doesn't mean your friends or whoever have experienced that feeling, and it may not be appropriate to discuss it with them, so of course they're gonna ridicule you.
Maybe they think you're being insincere, or throwing around emotions without really understanding them. It can be embarrassing watching a massive display of histrionics.
Emotions are a very private thing - they can be uncomfortable and painful, and they put people in a position of vulnerability. They're also sometimes seriously cringeworthy, and you should be careful about who you voice them to. Also, remember that, just because you feel a certain way, doesn't mean your friends or whoever have experienced that feeling, and it may not be appropriate to discuss it with them, so of course they're gonna ridicule you.
I see what you're saying, but I clearly haven't explained myself way. I'm not talking about anything very intimate. Just anormal level of sincere friendliness. some of these intellectual types are so arsy they deride that ass if it's some kind of wet sentimentality--again, it's nothing they say and it may just be the way I percieve it, but it seems that is what they're feeling. i don't display huge emotion, I've been told the reverse, but it's more the derision of any kind of emotional sincerity I object to.
Reply 16
Poica
If you go around saying "I'm noble and sincere" then I'm not surprised people make fun of you. I would.
As I say, i'm not articulating it well. I know that *******s.
Reply 17
Pfft, you don't have to run around like an emo with your heart on your sleeve to be sincere or convey emotion. You also don't have to announce your feelings to the world. What's important is that the relevant people can see how you feel - and you don't always have to be overt about them to make sure that happens. That's why you don't "see it" everywhere... you're not really looking.
Related discussions
- Pending CAS
- My bf went to a party where his ex was
- I feel like a weirdo
- Can you get into medical school without work experience?
- My boyfriend uses porn instead of pictures of me, why does it upset me so much?
- Driving test fail
- Really bad teacher attachment issues
- A villager: short story
- Last thing you ate
- GCSEs form a nerodivergent
- Obsessive friend
- Should I start studying for A levels?
- What the hell IB???
- Have you ever felt a closeness with someone you don't really know??
- How do I prevent my mom from getting back with my abusive father?
- So confused about this guys behaviour…
- friends.. how?
- Does Allah control everything
- Loneliness and Hope (An ongoing experience) - Long post/read
- Make it More Hairstyle-ey !!
Latest
Trending
Last reply 2 months ago
Engineering vs. Medicine: Stuck Between Dreams and ExpectationsLast reply 2 months ago
heyyy , im new heree and im willing to have some friends xxxLast reply 2 months ago
Im 16 and never had a gf and it doesnt feel ok.
