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Long distance relationship

Right been out with this guy all summer, went to uni in October. When I left he said he stay in contact with me and he will see me in the Christmas holidays when I get back. I sent him a long email and a text and he has not replied to any of them. I rang him up last monday and I told him what I've been up to and he listened etc and how much I miss him I asked him if he had any credit yet and he said no. I cannot stop thinking about him, I really like him. I do not understand why he has not been in touch and I am angry that i meet him and he is not making any effort also he is my first boyfriend and I feel used grrness. He lives at home and i go to uni (long distance relationship)! Why has he stop talking to me? I am so angry with him :mad:

Should I just move on? I just do not know what to do :frown:

Reply 1

h82think

I think you need to have an honest conversation with your bf to find out what he wants. I do think it is odd though how little contact he has have.

Reply 2

MentalSarcasm

Ditto what H82 said.

The fact that he isn't even responding to emails is not a good sign. Not suggesting that he may have found someone else, but he just might not be happy with the idea of a long distance relationship and just doesn't know how to tell you he wants to end it.

Reply 3

username47781

As the others said you need to actually ask him if he still wants this, because he does not sound as enthusiastic as you. A lot of long distance relationships never work out for one reason or another.

They are possible but it requires a lot of effort from both sides and if he is not putting the effort in then, it will not work.

Reply 4

dobbs

Why not suggest he comes up to visit you for a weekend or something? How far is the "long distance" - surely not so far that he can't catch a train/plane to come see you for the weekend. Just visiting you for a short amount of time could make him realise what he was missing :wink:

Reply 5

Hylean

how long is this long distance relationship?

in general, long distance equates to relationship doom, sorry to say. unless it's just a few hours up the road or whatever.

Reply 6

Sunnydazzleeyes

I am in Nottingham and he is in the south east of kent

Reply 7

dobbs

Sunnydazzleeyes

I am in Nottingham and he is in the south east of kent

Pfft that's nothing! Tell him to get his ass up to Nottingham for the weekend! Then remind him what he's missing :wink:

Reply 8

Hylean

i have no knowledge whatsoever of english geography. how many miles is that?

Reply 9

Sunnydazzleeyes

It is 3 and a half to 4 hours on the train. I do not know how many miles that is.

Reply 10

Hylean

pah, like dobbs said, that's nothing. get him to where you are, or go to him, and sort the guy out.

Reply 11

dobbs

Sunnydazzleeyes

It is 3 and a half to 4 hours on the train. I do not know how many miles that is.

He's your boyfriend and has been all summer - I don't see how there is a big deal with him travelling for that amount of time if he's coming to see you for a whole weekend? Though depends on cost and what he's actually doing at home - but I'm sure you can work around it - offer to pay some of the train fare if it's really expensive.

Plus, even if you simply suggest to him that he comes to visit you then he may realise that he means more to you than maybe he thought - maybe he's feeling "left behind" and that you'll meet someone "better" at University? Who knows...you could just ask him if there is something up? :smile:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

My boyfriend lives quite a way away (we're both at uni) and you just have to make the effort to see eachother. My boyf moved away first, and I didn't hear from him from a while, I was a bit worried and tbh very annoyed! Anyway, I rang him and we had a chat, and it turned out that he didn't want to chat to me too much because he missed me and didn't want to think about how long it was before he could see me again! (Also, probably due to the fact that he was very drunk at Freshers :s-smilie:

- I'm not naive!)

Anyway, the point I am making is that it can work, we didn't see eachother for three weeks, but it makes it all the better when you see eachother.

Plus, as a Brucy Bonus.... if you book train tickets well in advance you can get them for sooooo much cheaper! (London --> Birmingham £10!!!!!) xxxxxx

Reply 13

_:_Emo_Cheerleader_:_

Definitely talk to him to see what he really wants. Be totally honest about what you want, too.

Dobbs makes some extremely valid points, too.

Reply 14

suicidal_dream

long distance can work but you both need to put in the effort - if he's not trying then it sounds like he cant handle long distance.

Reply 15

Somewhat Damaged

Hylean

how long is this long distance relationship?

in general, long distance equates to relationship doom, sorry to say. unless it's just a few hours up the road or whatever.

America - England with occasional visits.
Canada - England.
Hawaii - America.

I don't think they're doomed. :|
They've been together for a long time...
all three couples. :biggrin:

Not all at doomed. :P
I'm sure they could wokr through this if they both tried hard enough/.

And pardon my awful typing - lay down.

Reply 16

Hylean

Somewhat Damaged

America - England with occasional visits.
Canada - England.
Hawaii - America.

I don't think they're doomed. :|
They've been together for a long time...
all three couples. :biggrin:

Not all at doomed. :P
I'm sure they could wokr through this if they both tried hard enough/.

And pardon my awful typing - lay down.

heh, i did say in general. :wink:

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