He ignores me

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Hey there, this is a story with a punch line.

I met this guy about a week ago as we both go to the same college and we got on seemingly really well. Just like normal friendly conversation. We happened to be talking alone and none of his friends were around.

The odd thing is that every time I've seen him since he's deliberately looked at the floor, or away and i'm the one who's always said hi. At one point we passed on the stairs (he was with a friend) and he tried to do the same thing so i stopped him and just asked him a few questions about his football match n things and he got a bit nervous.

Once i went and sat down with his friends where one of mine was there too and asked me if i wanted to join. He just ignored me infact never even looked at me even though i was sitting next to him. It's quite weird. :confused:

What's up with that?

So the weirdest part is that, i'm a guy and not gay, and that type of behaviour i've only seen in guys towards girls or vice versa. I just find his reaction really odd. :frown:

Reply 1

Toy Soldier

3

Possible options:

1) He thinks you're a gay and that you want to bum him
2) He's a gay and he wants to bum you
3) You're one of these people who won't take a hint when someone finds you annoying and doesn't want to be your friend.

Reply 2

SilverWings

14

4) He's generally a nervous guy

Reply 3

Innuendo_anonymous

SilverWings

4) He's generally a nervous guy

Yeah i think he could be shy/nervous too.

Reply 4

Totally Tom

18

I have this problem with a girl at school. We talk on msn, but whenever we are in school its always ever me that says hello or starts a conversation. I really like her and have no idea if she likes me and I'm confused and everything else.

I find it difficult to talk to her though, she is ALWAYS with her friends and you just can't get a moment alone or anything.

Arr. Any hints?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Toy Soldier

Possible options:

1) He thinks you're a gay and that you want to bum him
2) He's a gay and he wants to bum you
3) You're one of these people who won't take a hint when someone finds you annoying and doesn't want to be your friend.

Why should it be any of those? He's not a nervous guy and doesn't appear shy. we were just talking like any other two fellas would. just totally normally. Why should he think i'm gay? He's at least not overtly gay as i've seen him with a girl. but that's the only logical answer.

3) People have never said i was annoying. And in any case he was the one who started talking to me. no way, guys don't react like that, and neither do girls for that matter in respect to 3)

who cares anyway

Reply 6

steve789

its just sounds that hes nervous, and takes a while to adopt to new places and people

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

hamtomilton

I have this problem with a girl at school. We talk on msn, but whenever we are in school its always ever me that says hello or starts a conversation. I really like her and have no idea if she likes me and I'm confused and everything else.

I find it difficult to talk to her though, she is ALWAYS with her friends and you just can't get a moment alone or anything.

Arr. Any hints?

Hmm well, the logical (who the hell knows what logical is when it comes to this issue in puberty) answer is that she feels pressured by her peers not to talk to you, whether this is concious or subconscious. Secondly, your story gives actually little insight into her reactions. If she actually stares through you and tries to ignore you when you're talking this means that she doesn't want to talk to you full stop. This means on msn either. was it her that added you? i bet not.

On the other hand, if she's animated when she talks to you... she fancies you. Interestingly if she is quite shy with you face to face you can still tell whether she warms to you or not.

Well just ask her why she doesn't talk to you in school. easily solved, don't push too much incase she doesn't feel confident about you and thinks you're coming over too strongly.
Really tbh with girls it shouldn't be that hard, if she ignores you in person, just forget her, you're making the effort she's not. there'll be many others who dont.

Reply 8

icapturethecastle

16

-might just be nervous...
-if it gets too weird u could always take him to one side and ask/confront
-take the hint

:rolleyes:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

steve789

its just sounds that hes nervous, and takes a while to adopt to new places and people

Genuinely i don't believe he's nervous because he talks to a big group of mates he's made, who i suppose live on his corridor. He chats up some girls i've seen so i find it hard to believe he'd be nervous talking to me, after we talked about totally benale things like football which we're both really into and into the same teams n what not. If you can picture it, he's a big, tall center forward... so nervous doesn't make any sense.
And it's not as if i'm seven foot and built like a sh't house door.
never mind, that's his problem.

He ignores me

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