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    Describing my situation as briefly as possible...

    During my gap year (2014), I worked at a clinic as a HCA/phlebotomist for about 8 months so I got to know all the staff pretty well, albeit had few interactions with the the doctors. My baby face and naivety meant that all the staff gave me special treatment and the nurses looked out for me, which was nice.

    I returned to the clinic last summer (2016) since the clinic was lacking staff and also, needed to earn money so it was nice to be back with a more mature mindset and appearance. One doctor (53 years), whom I'd known 2 years ago, started showing particular interest in me and slowly it went from fine dining to a sexual relationship (I lost my virginity to him). Since returning to third year of university, he visits me every 2 weeks from my home city (3 hour train journey) and I always prepare home-cooked food and we have sex too. He brings me a gift every time.

    Sometimes I wonder if he's using me for sex - Do you think this is the case? I want to break it off but finding it difficult because he showers me with affection and gifts and tells me he'd help me with finding jobs after graduating this year at university. I'd feel like it'd be an insult to say no.

    Sometimes I feel like I love him because of all the favours he does for me but I feel disgusted about our 32 year age gap and the fact that he's older than my own father by 12 years. I wish I wasn't in this position...

    How would you handle this?
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    To be honest this is all down to what your impression of him is. We don't know who he is, how he treats you, what kind of body language he gives off etc. Maybe take it slow, is my best answer, tell him you need space and maybe have sex with him less often? See if his demeanor changes and go from there.
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    To be honest this is all down to what your impression of him is. We don't know who he is, how he treats you, what kind of body language he gives off etc. Maybe take it slow, is my best answer, tell him you need space and maybe have sex with him less often? See if his demeanor changes and go from there.
    Thank you for your response. I am going to do that over the summer.
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    If he's not married and he's genuinely affectionate and loving towards you I don't see any problem with this.
 
 
 
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