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Confussed :S

Heya
I really need some help. I'm 16 and I have been dating this guy who is 18 nearly 19 for over a year or so on/off. When I started college a few weeks ago my stepmum said I would meet someone and forget about this guy who had been messing me around because he kept arranging to meet up with me but then when it came around to the day he was meant to be meeting me he would come up with some excuse.

Well my stepmum was correct when I went to college I met a lovely boy (or so I thought) and he started to mess me around then dumped me 3 weeks into the relationship. Two days after this guy dumped me I got back with my ex. Everything was going great, he came out with me when he said he would and so on but now he's back to the way he was before, for example last night we were meant to go to the beach and watch the sunset but he said he had to go to play cricket but i got told by a friend of mine she saw him out drinking in town, and today he said he had cricket then phoned me and said he could meet up for an hour then I recieved another text saying he couldn't meet up at all because of cricket but his friend told me he is going out drinking with him. So now I am questioning why is he lying about going out with mates, what is he getting upto? if I can really trust him?

And on top of all this I think I could still have feelings for this other guy at college as I see him everyday and he is best friends with my friend who I hang out with all the time but I know he fancies her and there is no way that we could possibly get back together. I'm so confussed and don't know what to do about it. I've tried to talk to my counsoller(sp?) but it doesn't work because I can't explain it to her and I keep thinking she would just call me a stupid girl.
What should I do? I'm really confussed :s-smilie:

Reply 1

You should dump the boy. You don't deserve to be lied to or constantly stood up. He's using you because you're young and a bit more niave than someone his own age and in his circle of friends.

Being single is better than being in a bad relationship, basically. Sure, you can handle a bit of abuse for a while, but it will start to eat away at you and could really mess you up in the long run.

Reply 2

truthfully...... try and forget about both of them.

the first guy sounds like he only wants u around when its convenient for him, and would much rather spend his time with the lads. the fact thats he's lying to you also doesnt bode well.

the second guy just souns like he doesnt know who he wants either, and i think thats no good for you.

stay clear of both of them and enjoy being single for a while, go out with ur girl mates and stop thinking about relationships for a while.

xxx

Reply 3

Tell him to **** off.


A kid like that is no good.

Reply 4

Come on, a guy who plays cricket can't be all bad! :p:

Reply 5

I thought the point was that he wasn't playing cricket :wink:

I don't understand how people can do stuff like this. In a relationship I'll never lie about not being able to do something, I'll just tell the girl I've got other plans. If she can't deal with that she's not right for me.

Reply 6

It sounds like he is just mucking you around for fun, god why do people do that :s-smilie: