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moved from small island to big city, feeling down

Hello, I'm not sure if i'm entering this in the right area so forgive me if i'm doing this wrong, I'm a bit new to forums.

A month or so ago like a lot of people on here, i moved from home to my uni in a big city and I'm feeling a bit down like I don't really fit in. I moved from a wee island in the Hebrides, i don't want to say which one becuase the population is under 3000 and it'd be dead obvious to people who knew me who i was!!

Where I come from, everyone knows everyone else and if there's someone you don't know, they tend to know someone you know. if you drive down the road, everyone waves to everyone else. I've never really had to make friends, we've all known each other for ever. Moving to this city has been such a shock and i'm not sure if i'm really coping.

for example today I thought i'd go on my own shopping in the city centre because I need some nice new clothes for winter. the big shopping centre is just so huge and scary, I'm not some kind of naive country bumpkin, i've been to cities before, but why did they need to put all the stereos in the shops so loud? Blindfold me and put me in Top Shop, Republic or a nightclub and I couldn't tell you where I was, it's silly, I just want to shop not get my ears blasted out with music and i can't concentrate. :s-smilie:

it's just all getting to me a little bit, you can't slow down in the street because people will push you out of the way and get annoyed, everyone is so stressed, lots of people don't smile and it's making me feel a bit sad and lonely. i'm dead embarrassed because i know everyone will think i'm silly. it's not all bad, I love going out to gigs and dancing around like a mad thing :biggrin:

Reply 1

In two short words. Same here.

Reply 2

Conversely, I can't imagine not living in, or at least close to, a major city. It's a nice idea for a few weeks, but doesn't it get extremely boring after a while?

Reply 3

hebridean
Hello, I'm not sure if i'm entering this in the right area so forgive me if i'm doing this wrong, I'm a bit new to forums.

A month or so ago like a lot of people on here, i moved from home to my uni in a big city and I'm feeling a bit down like I don't really fit in. I moved from a wee island in the Hebrides, i don't want to say which one becuase the population is under 3000 and it'd be dead obvious to people who knew me who i was!!

Where I come from, everyone knows everyone else and if there's someone you don't know, they tend to know someone you know. if you drive down the road, everyone waves to everyone else. I've never really had to make friends, we've all known each other for ever. Moving to this city has been such a shock and i'm not sure if i'm really coping.

for example today I thought i'd go on my own shopping in the city centre because I need some nice new clothes for winter. the big shopping centre is just so huge and scary, I'm not some kind of naive country bumpkin, i've been to cities before, but why did they need to put all the stereos in the shops so loud? Blindfold me and put me in Top Shop, Republic or a nightclub and I couldn't tell you where I was, it's silly, I just want to shop not get my ears blasted out with music and i can't concentrate. :s-smilie:

it's just all getting to me a little bit, you can't slow down in the street because people will push you out of the way and get annoyed, everyone is so stressed, lots of people don't smile and it's making me feel a bit sad and lonely. i'm dead embarrassed because i know everyone will think i'm silly. it's not all bad, I love going out to gigs and dancing around like a mad thing :biggrin:

You'll learn to love it I suspect. It's about a change in mentality really; learn to embrace the positive aspects to the city. Try to appreciate the anonymity of walking through a mass of people, the diversity of the people you encounter, the sights, sounds and smells, the places away from the crowds when you want a quieter moment, personalise the city a bit - get to know it and find places of your own, a statue in a park or a quiet cafe. Also, if it's the sounds that are bugging you, download some cow mooing noises or something and plug in your iPod! :p:

Personally I love London and miss it when I'm not there. There's just something so cool about getting on the Tube and hearing conversations in 5 different languages in the same carriage of the train. I was born there, but a lot of people come to love the city life.

Reply 4

I can guess it might not be easy for you!
I think it's something you'll learn to live with, even if you don't love the city i'm sure you'll get used to the different lifestyle.

The posters above are right, appreciate the things that make the city what it is!

I live kinda half in the country half in the city. I always said I don't think i could live in the city, i'm a country girl, but you got to remember that it's not forever, you can go home and you can live at home once your degrees over!!

Reply 5

Which city are you in?