don't want to seem weird...

mods: please don't do-anon this as people here know who i am

basically, i had a very harsh rejection recently and it's taken me a while to get over. I still don't really feel over it and obviously need to just move on and meet other women.

anyway, i noticed a girl on here at the same Uni as i and thought she looked quite nice and seemed to be into the same stuff as me. i've sent her a few messages and she sent me a few back. still, it disquiets me a little - she definitely seems like the sort of easy-going girl i'd like to go have a drink or whatever with, even if just as a friend, although i feel that if i asked her that over the internet it's just a bit...odd. it probably doesn't make me look good asking out for a meet over the net and i'd worry she'd think i'm weird. My only solace is that she seems incredibly easy-going, so she's not likely to be disgusted at the suggestion, but considering i barely know her, i wouldn't feel right, especially considering i worry enough about sending her messages as i don't want her to think i'm some lecherous guy surfing the net for women.

i dunno, what to do? she walked past me the other day on campus and looked quite nice, and unlike most girls, is shorter than me. i guess maybe i should just message her more and see where it goes?

thanks in advance!

Reply 1

Meliae

I wonder if she'll reply to this... Or maybe that's what you're hoping for?

Anyway... as you've seen her on campus, why not try asking her in person instead of messaging her? Plus, that way you might get a better idea of how you'll get on offline.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

it was very much luck that i even saw her really. i wouldn't feel right at all just going up to her and saying "hey you post on tsr me too".

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

Just tell her you want to post in her forum.

Reply 4

Mikemaria

I know its hard approaching her but the rouble is , if you dont do something its only a matter of time before youll be watching her at campus hand in hand with another guy and youll be thinking if only.........

Reply 5

Papaya

Anonymous

but considering i barely know her, i wouldn't feel right, especially considering i worry enough about sending her messages as i don't want her to think i'm some lecherous guy surfing the net for women.

As you barely know her, find out if she already has a boyfriend first? :p:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

i know that she's single.

Reply 7

Saffie

just ask if she wants to meet for a drink/cinema/whatever That's probably the least weird thing you can do, falling when you haven't met would be worse.

I'm meeting a couple of TSRers for tea and cake soon, it's not that weird. I think if you subscribed you'd see there are a lot of people who are very friendly, there are TSR meets too. Some TSR people even went to Amsterdam together last month despite never having met before!

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

ok sounds good, so i should just ask her if she fancies meeting at our campus bar or something for a drink?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

another thing - she's a fresher and i'm not, and i dont wanna get in the way of her making new friends and getting acquainted and stuff...

Reply 10

Georgiahoneybee

Yeah, that sounds perfect.
You're only asking her to meet up for a casual drink, there's nothing "weird" about that. I'm sure she'll be very flattered.
Hope it goes well!

Reply 11

noodles!

Just say to her that you'd like to meet up seeing as you're at the same uni so there's no point just talking online. And see where it goes from there.

Reply 12

CJPT89

To be honest, take it easy. By thinking it's a big deal you're making it a big deal. If some girl on here from my Uni said she'd like to meet I'd meet her fair enough, I wouldn't freak out and find it weird.