What should i do?!

I split up with my girlfriend two weeks ago. Im 22 she is 18 and I wasn'ts sure if it was what she wanted any more so i gave her some space for a week. We were madly in love with each other and still are; at least I know I am.
I went to see a mate for a week and am going back to where my girlfriend lives on Sunday.

I spoke to her after being apart for a week and I knew straight away that I wanted her back more than anything. But then she told me she had kissed some guy during the week were apart. Now I know that this ins't technically cheating... but I can't get over it! Why did she do that? A week being split up... we'd been together 1 and a half years but known each other longer and been thru a lot together. Surely a week is too short a time to get over someone? I could never even consider kissing another girl for a long while. At the moment never ever, I know that would change but you can see what I'm saying yes.

She's regreful and says it means nothing, but she knows the lad and i obviously think she wanted it to happen... she says she was just drunk.

I love this girl to pieces... but I don't think it'll ever be the same her having kissed someone else. I always thought of her as mine and mine only.... now I don't know what to think!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you :frown:

Reply 1

prettygreeneyes99

It could have been a rebound type thing. In all likliness it probably didnt mean anything... Some people are just different, if they split up/go on a break with someone then the first thing they go and do is go out and do stuff with someone else, but some people cant even contemplate doing anything like that for a while... if she regrets it, has told you it means nothing and you werent together anyway, there's not really any reason you shouldnt be able to forgive her... also, she told you which was probably the right thing to do instead of you having to hear it from someone else..

Reply 2

trouttrout

True yes... but she's meant to be mine. All i see his her kissing someone else.... and it kills me!

Reply 3

prettygreeneyes99

Well if you were giving eachother space an in effect 'on a break' then she can do pretty much what she likes. Its not really a nice thing to do, but if she was drunk, told you about it and has pretty much tried to make amends for it then you should forgive her. Its not like she slept with him is it? Its harsh and I can understand it hurting you, but people do make mistakes every so often, so if you love her as much as you say you do then I think you should try and make an effort to move on from it :smile:

Reply 4

randdom

You were apart at the time she could well have been upset by your break up and just wanted some comfort. If you really like her you have to consider if this is really something that you are willing to throw away a relationship over this.

Reply 5

trouttrout

Cool.... just think I might not be able to couch her for a while like. Was a split but you don't go kissing other people as far as I'm concerned no matter how pissed you are... you try fix things!

Reply 6

trouttrout

Plus I agree kisses can mean nothing yes.... but I know her too well... the lad she knew..... and she wouldn't kiss just 'coz she was pissed.... she'll have wanted to.... for whatever reason!