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Would you tell your girlfriend/boyfriend if you found out you have cancer?

devilsthorn

Would you tell your girlfriend/boyfriend?

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Reply 1

Melancholy

Probably.

Reply 2

Llamaaa

I would definitely tell him, because I would need his support and he has a right to know

Reply 3

*pink_sapphires*

I'd want to be in a totally honest relationship. I couldn't lie to someone. My best friend died of cancer and I saw the pain and suffering she went through. There is no way that I could go through all that without him knowing. I wouldn't be mentally strong enough either to think of some stupid lie to get round it. It would only hurt him more when he found out that I had lied and I had cancer. (because he would find out from someone!) Telling the truth is easiest and the best way to get support

Reply 4

Sunnydazzleeyes

I would not tell my bf if i had cancer

But I would like to know if I my bf had cancer

Reply 5

HockeyMademoiselle

Depends, if the relationship is serious then I think that you need to, if not, then I think it may be easier just to break it off and not tell them.

Through such a time you need someone to support you and if they can be that person and love you then that's great.
If you survive it and everything then maybe it would make you closer as a couple afterwards?

Reply 6

Angelil

Of course I would. He would probably be one of the first people I told. Why wouldn't I want his support? He would be really hurt if I didn't tell him.

Plus, not being funny but it's not exactly something you can hide if you start losing your hair and whatnot.

Reply 7

HockeyMademoiselle

Angelil

Plus, not being funny but it's not exactly something you can hide if you start losing your hair and whatnot.

Yeah that's what I thought, but I guess that it depends on entirely what type of cancer you have as to how easily it would be to hide it.

Reply 8

hollylily

Deffo.

Reply 9

PatchTheCatch

Would depend how close I was with them, could of only just met them and could be in the first month of courting in which case no but maybe after a substantial amount of time ^^
I wanted to say stop trolling just cause it would be funny ^^
But aye, cancer's ****ed up

Reply 10

Unregistered

Of course i'd tell them, they'd no doubt want to be there and you can make plans for your final days/weeks/months.

What a waste of a life if you cut out people you love the most when it counts the most.

Reply 11

Wangers

Tell them, definatly. Then proceed to make my final months memorable to the people I love, so they remember me as a great guy who loved life and fought the son of a ***** every painful step of the way, because life isn't just about how much you get out of it, its about how you affect others as well. What dosn't destroy you will make you stronger, and if you have to give it your life, then you damm well owe it to your friends, family and yourself not to give up without a damm good fight.

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light

Do not go gentle, Dylan Thomas.

Reply 12

castroneves

Of course, blimey keeping secrets of any form is bad news, let alone something like this.

Reply 13

Bubblebee

Yes, but I wouldn't tell my parents. Is that wrong?

Reply 14

Wangers

Elles

Just re. the last 2 posts: "cancer" = imminent death is far from true.

Though maybe it makes for better drama when being hypothetical.

This is true, I was mearly refering to the preferable attitude and the necesary spirit..

Reply 15

devilsthorn

I see... so most people are selfish enough to be willing to put their partner through the process of watching you slowly die, then have them live on with a wound inside them forever.

EDIT: ROFL! Finally someone polled the last option! ^_^

Reply 16

FoeGeddaBowDeet

Why the hell wouldn't you tell them? Everybody is also going on like it's terminal, but cancer is not a death sentence - you may well have a good chance of surviving and a better one I might add if you have the support of your loved ones instead of increasing your stress levels by hiding it from everybody.

Reply 17

RosiePosiePuddingAndPie

I would tell him. He would want to know, and be able to support me. And I would need his support.

I don't think it's selfish to tell them, even if they would have to watch you slowly die (and like others have pointed out, cancer can be survived). You can't help your illness, and they're called your loved one for a reason. If they really care, they'd want to support you :smile:

Reply 18

Melancholy

Abeille

Yes, but I wouldn't tell my parents. Is that wrong?

Not necessarily, Bubblebee :smile:

Reply 19

JC.

I went out with a girl who had breast cancer a few years back.
When she told me about it... life kinda stopped in its tracks. Everything changes when something like that happens.
I went with her to the hospital when she had her operation. She had a silicon implant put in after they removed what ever they needed to remove.
We were very very close, but her parents moved her some 300 odd miles away when she had recovered. (we were both 16 at the time) The last I heard of her, she was married and doing well.

Tell him. If he doesnt support you then he isnt the sort of bloke you want around anyway. :smile: