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Reply 20

Saffie

11

OP, did you come up with this thread after watching 'neighbours'?

Reply 21

Bubblebee

15

TML

Not necessarily, Bubblebee :smile:

You found my secret identity! YOU MUST DIE :p:

Reply 22

Francophobia

1

Of course I'd tell him!

Reply 23

Dionysus

15

Of course, and if a girlfriend told me, I'd support her to the end.

Reply 24

- skyhigh -

14

Tell of course. You will need all the support you can get.

Reply 25

SilverWings

14

I wouldn't feel obligated to, but I probably would.

Reply 26

Helenia

20

How is it selfish to tell them? It's more selfish to hide it and lie to them about why you have to go to the hospital every week and your hair is falling out/you're vomming all over the place/losing loads of weight etc. It's not that easy to hide most forms of cancer or its treatment. Far better for them to know and be there for you throughout than to have it hidden from them and have to find out some other way, or if the worst happens.

I can see why some people would either break up or get away somehow if they felt they couldn't deal with it, but to continue to go out with someone and lie to them is wrong.

Reply 27

username21537

2

I'd tell her because I know that I'd want to know and support if she found out herself that she had it, and know she would expect and do the same.

Reply 28

Saffie

11

Helenia

How is it selfish to tell them? It's more selfish to hide it and lie to them about why you have to go to the hospital every week and your hair is falling out/you're vomming all over the place/losing loads of weight etc. It's not that easy to hide most forms of cancer or its treatment. Far better for them to know and be there for you throughout than to have it hidden from them and have to find out some other way, or if the worst happens.

I can see why some people would either break up or get away somehow if they felt they couldn't deal with it, but to continue to go out with someone and lie to them is wrong.

I wouldn't call telling someone selfish, but I can see that it might be 'nicer' not to.

I.e. Your partner leaving you and thinking they're a **** would be easier to deal with than watching your partner die/fight for his life. So breaking up and losing contact with you partner might be seen as the nicer thing to do.

It was better depicted in 'neighbours' yesterday.

Reply 29

h82think

14

I would tell my bf if I had cancer, as if I knew I was going to die, I would want to help him find a replacement for me- as the saddest part of dying would be knowing that my bf would be alone :frown:

Reply 30

fake plastic love

11

I only wouldnt tell him if it was a very new relationship. If you're serious together then of course I would tell him. I think at times like that you are more than allowed to be "selfish" (although I would never consider it that!)

Reply 31

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

How arrogant is to to assume they'd curl up in a little ball and spend the rest of their (your?) days bawling their eyes out? Of course tell them; To do anything else would be an insult to your opinion of their mentality as much as the relationship's trust.

Reply 32

trouttrout

Tell her and then do as much together as possible..... that'd be a horrible situation.

Reply 33

MissHero

1

Of course I'd tell them. I can't think of any reason why not to.

Reply 34

ßlαcksωαn

17

um yeah ofcourse....

Reply 35

73337

18

Is 6 weeks too long to wait for results? Thanks.

Reply 36

devilsthorn

OP

1

Saffie

OP, did you come up with this thread after watching 'neighbours'?

I don't watch neighbours. I don't even have access to a TV in my halls. Lol, the last option in the poll is piling up. I know you all secretly love me! :biggrin:

Reply 37

Lara C.

3

deffinately best to tell, cause it means your going to have to round up and summarise all the things you want to do in life before you do die. one benefit from that is others would be able to help you achieve/experience them.

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