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Feel so unwanted

Please keep this anon it's embarassing. Basically i've had quite a few bfs but the relationships have ended for a number of reasons, now most of my friends are in a relationship and really happy/in love etc and i feel so alone, i feel like everyone fancies my friends and that they're all so pretty compared to me and that no one really wants me at all. Even this evening one of my friends was saying how pretty my other friends are and i just feel so..worthless, ugly, fat... no one notices me and i'm never going to have a bf or a guy who fancies me again, every guy i've liked at uni so far is out of my league, has a gf or eyeing up my friends :frown:

Reply 1

Geotrini

Maybe it is just not your time yet! You must LOVE yourself before you love anyone. Maybe it is time you sit down and see who you really are. Get comfortable with being yourself, learn to live happily with yourself before you go back into the "game" again. Maybe things might turn out differently the next time!!!

Reply 2

fake plastic love

11

If you've had quite a few boyfriends in the past then you obviously attract people, and it will happen again! It could happen tomorrow for all you know :smile:

Reply 3

SmilerNuts

15

Post a pic so we can all judge you! :p:

Reply 4

Laevis

13

fake plastic love

If you've had quite a few boyfriends in the past then you obviously attract people, and it will happen again! It could happen tomorrow for all you know :smile:

Stalker alert! Stalker alert! :p:

Serious note, i agree with fake plastic love. Unless your looks have changed dramatically then i don't see why you wont continue to attract guys in the future. It's probably just a confidence thing ;yes;

Just have to wait for the right guy to come along, it could happen tomorrow :ninja:

Reply 5

RaulS1987

Geotrini

Maybe it is just not your time yet! You must LOVE yourself before you love anyone. Maybe it is time you sit down and see who you really are. Get comfortable with being yourself, learn to live happily with yourself before you go back into the "game" again. Maybe things might turn out differently the next time!!!

This quote sucks. Ive been happy with myself yadda yadda which led to me enjoying single life quite a bit, and such not really bothering to even pursue girls for a relationship. You become lazy if you become too happy with being single! STAY AWAY!! Return while you can! :P :biggrin:

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

I have to say I too know how the OP is feeling - kinda sucks being single whilst all your friends have fella's. All I can say is your young free and single - enjoy it :biggrin:

I am. Not the end of the world.

Reply 7

Mikemaria

Anonymous

Please keep this anon it's embarassing. Basically i've had quite a few bfs but the relationships have ended for a number of reasons, now most of my friends are in a relationship and really happy/in love etc and i feel so alone, i feel like everyone fancies my friends and that they're all so pretty compared to me and that no one really wants me at all. Even this evening one of my friends was saying how pretty my other friends are and i just feel so..worthless, ugly, fat... no one notices me and i'm never going to have a bf or a guy who fancies me again, every guy i've liked at uni so far is out of my league, has a gf or eyeing up my friends :frown:

Hey
i used to hang around with this guy who looked like Brad Pitt , all the girls used to drool over him and me? they never even noticed I was there. I found hapiness in the end. I would suppose be lying if i said this league system didnt exist so yes , its a bit if a crude word but at the end of the day looks arent everything ,I have friends who will back me up on this.
We cant al look like film stars , dolly birds or whatever , and would we want to anyway? it doesnt make us any cleverer does .it.
Be patient , everything will work itself out.

Reply 8

edward_wells90

Anonymous

Please keep this anon it's embarassing. Basically i've had quite a few bfs but the relationships have ended for a number of reasons, now most of my friends are in a relationship and really happy/in love etc and i feel so alone, i feel like everyone fancies my friends and that they're all so pretty compared to me and that no one really wants me at all. Even this evening one of my friends was saying how pretty my other friends are and i just feel so..worthless, ugly, fat... no one notices me and i'm never going to have a bf or a guy who fancies me again, every guy i've liked at uni so far is out of my league, has a gf or eyeing up my friends :frown:

So could you post up pics of ur friends ?

Reply 9

RaulS1987

edward_wells90

So could you post up pics of ur friends ?

Somebodies looking for fapping material :wink:

Reply 10

Francophobia

1

If you've quite a few boyfriends in the past, then the chances are that you're more attractive than you believe yourself to be. Looks aren't everything: I know a lot of girls in long-term relationships who -- let me put this diplomatically -- don't fit the cultural standard of beauty by any stretch of the imagination.
On the other hand, low self-esteem and lack of confidence make it very difficult to find love. That, not your looks, is probably the real issue.

Reply 11

Saffie

11

more people have fancied me than my friends at uni, but I'm the one who's forever single. Looks aren't that important. Ugly people have strings of boyfriends and there are some attractive people who have had very few.

I think more important factors are your behaviour when you go out (e.g. do you make an effort to chat people up?) and then it depends on whether you make the effort to persue someone and you need to have an amenable personality too!

Reply 12

MissHero

1

Try to be more confident, it's amazing how differently people react to you when you are comfortable with yourself. You're clearly not worthless, or ugly, or anything else that you're describing yourself as, if you were really that bad you'd not have had relationships in the past. You will meet new people, but it is not the most important thing and you should not define yourself by who does or does not fancy you, that's a tiny part of who you are! Just go out for a dance with your friends, and enjoy yourself without thinking about men... if it's easier, try going out with friends that are not in relationships every now and then, because despite what I've said it's not fun when everyone else is banging on about how happy they are!

Be happy as you are, and other things will follow.

Reply 13

jrt87

Anonymous

Please keep this anon it's embarassing. Basically i've had quite a few bfs but the relationships have ended for a number of reasons, now most of my friends are in a relationship and really happy/in love etc and i feel so alone, i feel like everyone fancies my friends and that they're all so pretty compared to me and that no one really wants me at all. Even this evening one of my friends was saying how pretty my other friends are and i just feel so..worthless, ugly, fat... no one notices me and i'm never going to have a bf or a guy who fancies me again, every guy i've liked at uni so far is out of my league, has a gf or eyeing up my friends :frown:

Firstly there's no such thing as a "league". That absurd superficial rubbish really pisses me off - personally ranks up there alongside dance shows, guys showing off their children's boxers and misuse of the word "indie". Get that entire fabricated concept out your head now!

Secondly, stop thinking about it. By thinking about it, you reinforce the ideas of being "unwanted", then you live up to it, thus reinforcing further and so on until you enter a cycle of despair. Just "give up" entirely for a little while. Get yourself into a position of strength (through friends, academic work, other achievements) whereby your content alone. Then, your naturally ooze more confidence whether your aware or not, and your likely to find someone unexpectedly. Sorry if I'm sounding harsh and rather Nietzschen about this, however people who hinge their happiness on being with someone really need to get a grip, it's just dangerous and unhealthy.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks guys, just feeling especially lonley at the mo :frown:

Reply 15

devilsthorn

1

Anonymous

Thanks guys, just feeling especially lonley at the mo :frown:

You had boyfriends in the past? What went wrong with them?

Reply 16

NickEM

Laevis

i agree with fake plastic love.

Sorry, I just found that highly amusing.

Reply 17

Laevis

13

NickEM

Sorry, I just found that highly amusing.

Hehe, i can see how (taken out of context :p:

) that would be hillarious :biggrin:

Reply 18

HeadShock

If you ever need anyone to chat to, pm me or add me to msn.

Reply 19

Jonatan

13

Oh do I know how the OP feels... Well, except the fat part, I'm skinny enough to play Xylophone on my ribs... but I guess that sort of works out the same when you take gender stereotypes into consideration...

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