Uni & Me!

Hi,

I'm not sure what I'm looking for from this post, but I think I will benefit from other people's opinions/similar experiences etc...

I've been at uni for four weeks now, and I'm feeling like it's a rollercoaster of emotions! Fresher's was good and I met lots of people but only speak to a few of them now. I've not been out properly yet even though I'm in a big city, just to the pub and stuff with a few people. I've met some really nice people and never have to sit on my own during breaks or whatever at uni, but I find that I'm missing my own life! I feel like I'm not going out enough, not meeting enough people and it seems like everyone else is out getting drunk every night! I'm not actually homesick, but I'm missing all the stuff I used to do, including college and the people there (even though I never thought I would say that!) I'm not depressed and I don't want to go home as when I do go out and socialise with people I feel much happier. I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced emotional up's and down's since moving away?

xxxx

Reply 1

randdom

20

Going to University from home is always going to be a bit transition and will take some adjusting to. If you don't feel like you are going out and meeting enough people then why not join some new societies and get to know people who have similar interests. Close friendships take time to build up so as time goes on you will get to know people better and you will hopefully feel happier. With regards to sitting alone in lectures or breaks in lectures it might be hard but just pluck up the courage to talk to people on your course and you will soon find that you settle right it.

I found the first half a term at uni tough but it gets easier. :smile:

Reply 2

Sunnydazzleeyes

10

yeah sounds a lil like me

i meet lots of people on my first week

i got so drunk on alcohol on the first week. I always forget people's name when I drunk so when i see them again, it is like hi spoke last night whats your name again. which sounds pretty rude. Plus when I m drunk im a completely different person and have a different personality.

I've made myself a deal not to drink for the next 3 weeks and start doing other things other than pubbing even if it was pubbing i have j2o or coke!!!

So i have settled down with my new course and embedded myself with work. I have met some people in my course and made some nice mates in my course and we I think we could becoming best mates. Especially when sober i think you could become a better friend to someone then when you are wastered. We go shopping, cinema, iceskating etc instead of wasting money on drinking (money just goes down the drain).

Emotionalling my first week was happy happy happy

Now I am pretty more down to earth kind of girl like what i am like back at home and care more about my self and my new friends who know me for what i am really like and is happy about that.

Reply 3

Sunnydazzleeyes

10

Also i think you should go to the city and see what it has to offer with some mates. Have lunch, go to the cinema, take pictures!

Reply 4

magic_unicorn

12

I think its an essential part of settling in at uni. Theres alot of changes and personal quiet time allows you to process your feelings. So just let it roll over you and enjoy going out and exploring the city and learning about living independantly and all the ups and downs that come with it. You'll feel more settled in time. Uni is what you make of it, so get out there and make things happen!
Have fun :smile:

Reply 5

BabyBee

I think it takes time, I think because you are so used to one way of life, give it time :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

I am in my third year!

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I am in my third year!

Yeah.... and?

Reply 8

Notepadmed

randdom

Going to University from home is always going to be a bit transition and will take some adjusting to. If you don't feel like you are going out and meeting enough people then why not join some new societies and get to know people who have similar interests. Close friendships take time to build up so as time goes on you will get to know people better and you will hopefully feel happier. With regards to sitting alone in lectures or breaks in lectures it might be hard but just pluck up the courage to talk to people on your course and you will soon find that you settle right it.

I found the first half a term at uni tough but it gets easier. :smile:

OP and this Some times is dificult t fit in you findit better and enjoyable when your settle inn!!

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

I am in my thirdy year! I have another year to make friends and then i am totally screwed!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I am in my thirdy year! I have another year to make friends and then i am totally screwed!

Why, are u in the same situation as me, the OP?
x

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

hey, i am in exactly the same position, 4th week of uni in london....i go through these wave of emotions where the highs are really high and the lows are really low...its crazy...when i am at home i am really comfortable sitting alone in my room for hours just doing my own thing...but at uni i cant sit in my room alone for a second...i feel like i NEED to be around people, like i am missing out if i dont...and it sort of drives u crazy...i havent really allowed myself any time to myself...my freshers was great 2...but i feel like i have aquaintences rather than friends...to the OP, what uni are u at?? feel free to PM if u wish

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