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I lied.. and gave him wrong impression

You know when you're talking to someone and the conversation is really flowing and whatnot. Well yesterday I was talking to this guy friend of mine.. we haven't been friends for long but he told me that he liked me, and he said this in a very flattering way. Anway, he then asked me how I feel about him. In the spur of the moment, I started going on about stuff that i didn't actually mean. For example, I told him that I had started developing feelings for him too. It came out of my mouth without any thought what-so-ever. Now I feel realy bad because his really excited about where this is going. He even was like he wants to take me out on Saturday. I can't say I've given him the wrong impression.. because the impression I gave him is I like you. How do you think I can reverse the situation now?? Help. I know it's my fault, and I never meant for it to be like this.

Reply 1

PMB

just go out, have a good time and explain that youd rather just stay friends
im sure he'd rather know

Reply 2

Lolly-88

13

Just tell him that you like him but you're not really interested in things going any further because you're not looking to get involved with anyone at the moment

Reply 3

Joanna May

15

It's not really "giving him the impression", is it? I really don't see how you can get out of this. Or even how you managed to get into it in the first place.

Reply 4

Sundous

1

Joanna May

It's not really "giving him the impression", is it? I really don't see how you can get out of this. Or even how you managed to get into it in the first place.

Anyway, just telling the truth is basically what you have to do :smile:

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Reply 5

Georgiahoneybee

1

Saying you gave him the wrong impression implies maybe he misinterpreted what you were saying. But by the sounds of it, what you were saying was perfectly clear. Or at least he thought it was.
Personally I think the best thing, and the fairest thing to do, would be to tell him the truth. You're not interested in him, the situation just took you by surprise and you accidently said things you didn't mean, and that you're sorry for getting his hopes up.
I know others have suggested going out with him and seeing how it goes, but to me that just seems like getting his hopes up even more. By all means go out with him as friends, but not before he knows how you really feel.

Reply 6

asdasta

15

Lolly-88

Just tell him that you like him but you're not really interested in things going any further because you're not looking to get involved with anyone at the moment

Do NOT say this - it doesn't give the poor guy any closure and makes it sound like something may happen in the future. Just be honest and tell him how it is.

Reply 7

ForeverIsMyName

15

Send him an anonymous email with the link to this thread on it.

Simple, elegant and heartbreaking.

Reply 8

generalebriety

16

asdasta

Do NOT say this - it doesn't give the poor guy any closure and makes it sound like something may happen in the future. Just be honest and tell him how it is.

I don't even see the point in the thread. No matter what happens, you're gonna have to tell him the truth in one form or another. And the more you lie, the worse it'll get... if you tell him you like him but you don't want anything to happen, the poor guy will expect he still has a chance.

Some may say he's got exactly the right impression of you through this - that you're a liar.

Reply 9

Profesh

20

Then you'll hopefully resolve to give him a more accurate impression by admitting that you lied and wilfully deceived him in the most reprehensible way.

Best of luck with that.

Reply 10

Bedshaped

14

Profesh

Then you'll hopefully resolve to give him a more accurate impression by admitting that you lied and wilfully deceived him in the most reprehensible way.

Best of luck with that.

Profesh I know this isn't the time or the place, but will you marry me?

Reply 11

dumbdunc

Go out. Then ring him up and say that you're really sorry but during the course of the date you've realised you just don't feel that way about him. But you still want to be friends.

A girl said this to me, and I didn't take offence or question whether she'd strung me along or not. He'll probably just take it in his stride.

Reply 12

Vampyrcorn

14

Tell him that you're so glad you've finally found each other and tell him you want to get married as soon as possible.

He'll freak out and run a mile. ;yes;

Of course, that could backfire horribly...

Reply 13

Profesh

20

dumbdunc

Go out. Then ring him up and say that you're really sorry but during the course of the date you've realised you just don't feel that way about him. But you still want to be friends.

A girl said this to me, and I didn't take offence or question whether she'd strung me along or not. He'll probably just take it in his stride.

Avert an otherwise inevitable (and much-deserved) reckoning by deflecting blame onto the other party, both exonerating yourself and needlessly demeaning their attitude, conduct and character in the process? Sort of like "it's not you, it's me", only the complete reverse?

God, that's brilliant.

Reply 14

Profesh

20

Bedshaped

Profesh I know this isn't the time or the place, but will you marry me?

That's the second one in as many days, from as many genders. Am I missing something, here (apart from a spouse)?

Reply 15

Kater Murr

20

Wow - it'll be embarrassing to tell them you lied, eh?

If I were you I'd go on a few dates and then say "I really thought it might work, but it isn't..." just to save face.

Honestly. I'm the kind of person who looks around a boring shop if I notice I'm going the wrong way and don't want to look foolish by turning 'round on the spot.

Do it.

Reply 16

Profesh

20

You evidently care more about saving face than for preserving your friend's self-esteem, or else the solution would be patently obvious; so either BornUnderPunches' or dumbdunc's advice should be just the panacea you're looking for.

Reply 17

rosetinted

2

Honesty is the best policy. If you do go on a couple of dates and then tell him you aren't interested he is going to wonder what he did to put you off. Better to say something like "I was thinking about what we talked about the other day and I'm flattered that you are interested in me. However I realised that what I said wasn't entirely true, I do like you, but not in a relationshippy way. I'm sorry I lead you on, but I thought you should know."

Reply 18

Profesh

20

rosetinted

Honesty is the best policy. If you do go on a couple of dates and then tell him you aren't interested he is going to wonder what he did to put you off. Better to say something like "I was thinking about what we talked about the other day and I'm flattered that you are interested in me. However I realised that what I said wasn't entirely true, I do like you, but not in a relationshippy way. I'm sorry I lead you on, but I thought you should know."

Ah; the 'morally and humanly acceptable' route. That takes me back.

Reply 19

Maya Hale

Profesh

That's the second one in as many days, from as many genders. Am I missing something, here (apart from a spouse)?

How about me?

kashmir noir could be 1 of my bridesmaids :rolleyes:

I lied.. and gave him wrong impression

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