No boyfriend, no close friends

I am 23 and never had a boyfriend. Last night I saw a guy who we kind of had a thing going and now he has a new girlfriend, I fell so rubbish.
I think it is just the case that no one I really like has come along, but I sometimes just think that to make myself feel better. Now I am just chucking myself at any guy possible.
I have put on so much weight at Uni I feel sick.
I do not have many close friends and starting to feel alone. I have no friends at home and at Uni I know people through sports but even my flatmate does not want to spend time with me.
Feeling really isolated and bet you will just say join clubs etc, but I just think I am boring.
No idea what to do.
Please keep as anon as boss uses this site!

Reply 1

babylove

Aww. Don't worry. Everything happens for a reason. Even if some people find you boring others will find you interesting so don't think so little of yourself. As for making friends, what type of person are you because different types of people make friends in different ways.

Could it be that you start speaking to people and they talk back but then you wait for them to speak to you again? Maybe you should try (if you don't already) to make a little bit more effort. Try and make conversation with people when you see them rather than just 'hi' and bye. It could also be that they think that you don't really want to be close friends if you don't really show it. They might think 'oh she already has friends and don't really wanna be friends with me.' They might think you have friends elsewhere. Have you ever suggested eating anywhere together, or going to see a film or going shopping or anything?

They might also think that you are a person that likes to be my herself. For example if you don't really maintain conversation.

But really I think you need to describe the situation a little bit more for us to fully understand what is happening and why it might be happening.