help- conversation problems!!

well i know alot of what i post is to do with lack of confidence etc, but it is a problem i'm finding really hard to overcome.

well the thing is that ive been looking to try get a job. I'd been having no luck for ages and recently ive applied for this other vacancy (which i'm really hopeing i get *fingers crossed*) and i know a guy who works there as he used to work at another practice, where i did work experience at. I just want to know how you start to socialise with people at work who are older than you like late 20's early 30's.

This is because at previous jobs i had, i was just so shy that i just went to work, and only really talked about work with the people there. Whereas alot of the others were going out socialising aswell. I just find it really hard to make friends and to have long conversations. I also think that people just look at me and consider me boring and unattractive and abit dumb. The guy who i mentioned before always smiles at me, makes jokes, and winks at me when i see him :s-smilie:

is he just trying to be friendly? Please any help on appearing more confident (as i really want this job) and also having better conversations with people would be apprieciated. Oh and sorry for another pathetic post by me :frown:

Reply 1

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Hi Little Miss Shy

How are you this evening?

Just to reply to your post. I think I felt like that not too long ago starting in the city especially with people who are a lot older than me. I was and probably still am one of the youngest working in this company.

You know at times you feel you just talk about work, but you know, don't think of it as work. Think of it as just a group of people, friends if you have to and even if you don't know them, be yourself!!

Firstly just go and introduce yourself, tell them your name, ask them how they are how there day is going, tell them a bit about you, what you like doing.. etc.. try to talk and find ac ommon interest.

Take an interest in them is the second point, you may find something you both enjoy and something you both can talk about!! No one is bad at socialising, its just we all need practice.

Thirdly, just smile.. It won't hurt and it will help people to comfort to you. Soon you will find people that you bond with more, don't expect miracle results.

And lastly, keep positive, just find something you've found interesting in the paper, the news, something you saw, anything, it won't sound stupid, it will sound like you're well read, interesting, bubbly, confident and just a happy go lucky person!! :-)

It seems well to be working for me, and well theres always gossip about and thats always a goo dthing to keep you interested and people will naturally warm to you if you follow that advice... I think :-)

Good luck with it, pm if you need anymore help and let me know how it goes..

Remember keep smiling and keep positive!! :-)

Also about that guy.. He may actually just like you :wink: