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Getting tempted to hire an escort, need opinions

I'm 20 years old and have never been in a relationship before and have never actually had sex or done anything with a woman before. All of my housemates are in relationships and at night you can hear them with their boyfriend/girlfriends and its just depressing that I'm always on my own. I can be quite shy and quiet which is part of the reason I have always been single I guess. It's getting my down still being a virgin so I am just thinking it might be useful for me to visit an escort for an hour. I don't know how I will feel afterwards though. Does anyone have any opinions on if I should do it or not and why or does anyone have any experience with this that they can share? Thanks

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I have been with them and lost my virginity to a prostitute, which is cheaper and better value(like you go to them, in soho for example)

It'll give you the experience but it won't fulfill your sex drive very much and it's very expensive- it would be way more fulfilling to find a girl you see that's hot on the street, or you have the spark with-someone you connect woth and then you explore more with- unfortunately I have been bad at this.

But escorts will just be over quick and drain your wallet
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Yeah I haven't actually met anyone that I just have a spark with. Every girl I've ever liked and asked out has rejected me. The money side of things isn't too bad for me as I can spare enough to pay for it.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 20 years old and have never been in a relationship before and have never actually had sex or done anything with a woman before. All of my housemates are in relationships and at night you can hear them with their boyfriend/girlfriends and its just depressing that I'm always on my own. I can be quite shy and quiet which is part of the reason I have always been single I guess. It's getting my down still being a virgin so I am just thinking it might be useful for me to visit an escort for an hour. I don't know how I will feel afterwards though. Does anyone have any opinions on if I should do it or not and why or does anyone have any experience with this that they can share? Thanks


paying money for sex is the most stupid and desperate thing you can ever do....

go do some hobbies and find some work
Just...wait, OP. In the future, you'll have to explain that I think too.
Sex IN an escort is something else entirely, but they're not the best of cars
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Original post by study beats
paying money for sex is the most stupid and desperate thing you can ever do....

go do some hobbies and find some work


I have hobbies and I have a part time job but I haven't met anyone I like at either of them. The only person I liked at the society I joined rejected me.
Original post by Anonymous
I have hobbies and I have a part time job but I haven't met anyone I like at either of them. The only person I liked at the society I joined rejected me.


i am confused about what your goals are? is it to just get laid?
Reply 8
I would say it's a bad idea. The sex will be rushed and rubbish and it does nothing to further your aim to find a relationship. It's also by and large an abuse of vulnerable women. Sexual frustration is awful but I thing best to keep up the efforts to find a gf. 20 is pretty young and success does come.
Reply 9
Original post by study beats
i am confused about what your goals are? is it to just get laid?


Well I'm getting feeling down that I'm still a virgin and currently every time I try to get with someone or even ask someone out in a date I get rejected so it doesn't look like that's going to change anytime soon so it's looking like the only way I'll be able to have sex is to go to as escort.
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
every time I try to get with someone or even ask someone out in a date I get rejected
Do you know why you get rejected or are you clueless?
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 20 years old and have never been in a relationship before and have never actually had sex or done anything with a woman before. All of my housemates are in relationships and at night you can hear them with their boyfriend/girlfriends and its just depressing that I'm always on my own. I can be quite shy and quiet which is part of the reason I have always been single I guess. It's getting my down still being a virgin so I am just thinking it might be useful for me to visit an escort for an hour. I don't know how I will feel afterwards though. Does anyone have any opinions on if I should do it or not and why or does anyone have any experience with this that they can share? Thanks


I'd say whatever, do it if I didn't read your situation. I knew a boy just like you considering prostitutes. He thought he was ugly and hopeless, but nowadays he's quite handsome now he has confidence. He's also not a virgin anymore. Just keep looking, you're only 20. Internet date!
Original post by Anonymous
I have hobbies and I have a part time job but I haven't met anyone I like at either of them. The only person I liked at the society I joined rejected me.


You need to stop with this attitude!!! You just haven't found her yet. You're NOT going to be a 60 year old virgin. That does NOT happen. Ever.

People get rejected - that's life. It's not something wrong with you; there are plenty reasons why someone does not want a relationship. These reasons could be because of their careers, studying, and even personal issues. Knowing that you're around the age of 20, it is understandable that some people are not ready to settle down yet. Some people do enjoy being single.

One of the main things you must carry with you is confidence. Confidence is one of the most attractive things in a person, believe it or not. I don't mean going out and shouting at everyone you see and being loud and energetic, I mean that you need to loosen up.

You don't need to be shy around anyone. No one is in the position to judge you. Even if they do, it does not matter, because they aren't God! Everyone hates someone, don't they? Bullies have enemies who they wrestle with, too, don't they?

Talk to people like they are humans. If you want a girl who will love you, you must show her that you are a good guy. Don't just slip away and sulk down in a chair once being rejected. Pick yourself up and keep going. Never give up!!

Plus, if you are so anxious about your virginity, I know of many girls who would adore a husband who is also a virgin (myself included).

I know you must think that you're never going to find your "dream girl", but don't stop looking, because there is over 7 billion people on this tiny planet, so she's definitely here!

Good luck and stay strong :h:
Sounds like it is a confidence problem. What have you done to improve your confidence? Sports help a lot, team sports particularly, but things like boxing/MMA where you can interact with people but performance is solely down to you are fine. If not, join a gym, free weights.

I know the feeling. I lost mine quite late at 22(maybe 23 actually). I had lots of experiences prior though, but anxiety really got the better of me, other **** also which I don't want to get into though.

You'd be better going on a dating site, not tinder (or similar) and just being honest in your profile that you are sky etc, let them know early you never did it also. Using an escort for getting rid of the v-plates is sort of pointless, it wouldn't fix the issue. They;ll not be staying the night at yours, so you'll still feel lonely at night and depressed that others are having mutual fun for free around you. Using an escort will allow you to say, 'hey at least I'm not a virgin', but who cares really. If you hit 39, then definitely, but at 20 it is sort of pointless (maybe not as late as 39 but you get the point, you still have time). Try find someone to have fun with, it will improve your social skills regarding girls and performance in bed. If it is anything like what happened to me, she'll rip your heart out in the end, but the experience was worth it and the lesson learned to stay the **** away from girls like her invaluable...got to slay a few dragons to get to the princess, and if your using escorts, then you're paying someone to slay an iguana while they tell you its a dragon.
Original post by tapir
Do you know why you get rejected or are you clueless?


I'm clueless. I don't actually know why any of them rejected me.
Original post by Anonymous
Sounds like it is a confidence problem. What have you done to improve your confidence? Sports help a lot, team sports particularly, but things like boxing/MMA where you can interact with people but performance is solely down to you are fine. If not, join a gym, free weights.

I know the feeling. I lost mine quite late at 22(maybe 23 actually). I had lots of experiences prior though, but anxiety really got the better of me, other **** also which I don't want to get into though.

You'd be better going on a dating site, not tinder (or similar) and just being honest in your profile that you are sky etc, let them know early you never did it also. Using an escort for getting rid of the v-plates is sort of pointless, it wouldn't fix the issue. They;ll not be staying the night at yours, so you'll still feel lonely at night and depressed that others are having mutual fun for free around you. Using an escort will allow you to say, 'hey at least I'm not a virgin', but who cares really. If you hit 39, then definitely, but at 20 it is sort of pointless (maybe not as late as 39 but you get the point, you still have time). Try find someone to have fun with, it will improve your social skills regarding girls and performance in bed. If it is anything like what happened to me, she'll rip your heart out in the end, but the experience was worth it and the lesson learned to stay the **** away from girls like her invaluable...got to slay a few dragons to get to the princess, and if your using escorts, then you're paying someone to slay an iguana while they tell you its a dragon.


I tried a dating site, I messaged quite a lot of people and got no replies back.
Original post by Anonymous
Well I'm getting feeling down that I'm still a virgin and currently every time I try to get with someone or even ask someone out in a date I get rejected so it doesn't look like that's going to change anytime soon so it's looking like the only way I'll be able to have sex is to go to as escort.


its ok to be a virgin
For the right price I'll be whatever you want me to be.
Just imagine afterwards, you actually meet a girl you like, and she asks "how did you lose your virginity?" you'll be gutted that it wasn't to her and that you actually stooped so low to pay someone for sex
Reply 19
Original post by Anonymous
I'm clueless. I don't actually know why any of them rejected me.
You should ask them why. The next time they reject you, say "You think I'm ugly?". If they say "no", then ask, "What is it then? Be honest."

They'll tell you. Then you wont be so clueless anymore. It could be something as simple as freshening your breath. I think a lot of women are dishonest because they're afraid of being hurtful/offensive. Being lied to and feeling clueless on top of being rejected is just as hurtful(if not, more so) than just being brutally honest.
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