Anyone else not into clubbing/drinking??

The whole clubbing/bar hopping nights out just don't appeal to me (I'm 20 year old male btw). Most of the time the emphasis is on drinking with the whole 'pre-drinks' now and the constant pressure to drink. I've had a few friends turn on me because I'm not into this whole culture.

I have nothing against anyone who does enjoy these nights out but its very rare to find anyone that isn't (or someone who doesn't give you a hard time about it).

I much prefer nights out like a nice meal, drink in the pub, cinema, bowling etc. Or a nice chilled night in with a film. I think there's too much pressure on people these days to go out clubbing and bar hopping as its the 'normal thing to do'.

Anyone else feel the same or is it just me?

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Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Kinda in the same boat. I'm 18 now, so there's a crap load of pressure to "go town" or start drinking loads at parties. I've never really gotten drunk tbh, I've just heard so many stories about people having no recollection of what they did and doing stupid sh**.

I have a bit of a history with drugs (not things like heroin) but I know I can stay in control on drugs and not forget everything that happened. I feel much more comfortable doing this but it's socially unacceptable to say "nah, I'd rather not drink. Do you wanna get high instead?" out of my own very small friendship circle.

Reply 2

AllProAzza

Yeah I think theres too much preassure on people at this age to do things like that as its 'what everyone does'. I've known people who hate drinking and going out, but still do it anyway due to peer pressure and not wanting to sound 'boring'.I also used to work behind a bar so I saw the typical night goers on a daily basis. They'd usually spend about £20 each on drinks then move onto the next bar/pub or go clubbing.Like I say, I'm not against people who enjoy this, but it's not me and the trouble is finding like minded people.

Reply 3

Aztec Chic

Yeah I'm like you I suppose. I'm not the biggest drinker and go out clubbing like a few times a year. I too prefer a more chilled night out. I'm soon going to uni so it would be interesting to see how that works out. Gotta hope that people will understand that I won't always wanna go out and get wasted a couple times a week

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by AllProAzza

No- I feel the same way. Although I do like the 'dancing' side of nights out, as you said, there's not much focus on anything but drinking anymore. I hate it when everybody around you is so drunk, it's not even possible to hold a decent conversation with anybody.

(Pretty weird and old-fashioned of me, I know, but I would love there to be dance halls and twentieth century ballroom dancing events or even good old discos still around for my kind-of socialising! )

Much prefer spending a night in with a film, or even a good book. I'm a little worried for when I go to university, as I expect it'll be difficult for me to make friends, not being into drinking. Especially during freshers...

Reply 5

Truflais

I got super drunk last night and went clubbing...won't be doing it again anytime soon. I love going to the pub and clubbing can be fun occasionally but definitely couldn't do either all the time. Know loads of people who aren't into it so you're not alone.

Reply 6

desaf1

Yes I don't do either

Reply 7

MKaur18

I dont! Why not have fun at home? Popcorn n netflix 🍿 Yaaass

Reply 8

peanutbutterjam

I've only been clubbing once and I didn't really enjoy it. Sometimes people made fun of me for not liking the night life but whatever.

I wouldn't rule out clubbing forever though, I'll definitely try it again during freshers week.

Reply 9

Integer

I wouldn't be against clubbing but I don't like drinking

Reply 10

Bang Outta Order

I went to a house party last night from half 7 and obv got wasted and ate a bunch of kebabs now I feel like ass and couldn't sleep. Now Idk if this is to do with drinking or the kebabs but I keep burping up chunks 😩

Reply 11

Bang Outta Order

Original post by Integer

I wouldn't be against clubbing but I don't like drinking

try going clubbing without drinking tho.

I'd wager on just staying in.

Reply 12

AllProAzza

Original post by Precious Illusions

I think I'm more the chilled out type. Just don't know why everyone asumes your boring for not doing those things.

I'm glad I'm not the only one though!

Reply 13

AllProAzza

I'm the same! I'm more into my running. I suppose its just finding like minded people

Reply 14

AllProAzza

Original post by MKaur18

I dont! Why not have fun at home? Popcorn n netflix 🍿 Yaaass

Thats more like it!! 🙌

Reply 15

AlgeBrains

I drink occasionally, but I'm not a huge fan of clubs; they're too loud.

Reply 16

username917703

Original post by 0to100

lol

Reply 17

InArduisFouette

what you will find is that even by the end of your uni years things will have moved on in terms of what people consider a good night out , and this also depends on your circle of friends ... and finding your ecological niche ...

Reply 18

PalindromeGirl

Original post by AllProAzza

You aren't alone, I'm 18 and while my experience is evidently going to be limited, from the experiences I've had, there is a huge culture of clubbing these days. I choose not to for a number of reasons, including differing music tastes and an intense claustrophobia which plagues my life :colondollar:

I tend to stick to very relaxed pubs that I know, because I feel safer. I think for some young women, the prospect of clubs is also off putting because of the risk of personal safety, it is so easy for me to drink too much, so when I'm in a more relaxed space I can pace myself and stick to my limit. Getting so intoxicated that you pass out is a sure fire way to ruin everyone's night. So I agree :h:

Reply 19

AllProAzza

Original post by PalindromeGirl

Completely agree!! I think on nights out to clubs, everyone pressures everyone else to drink, even the people who don't drink. Pubs are much nicer as its more about relaxed conversation over a drink or two 😁