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A very odd conversation after a few glasses

I was with an old friend of my parents, he lives near uni and we often go to concerts together as i'm 40 years to young for my taste!! Anyway, eating this lovely meal, we had a few beers and he just says 'i don't want a discussion but are you getting any sex? i can see this kinda thing might frustrate you, and i wondered if you'd like me to arrange anything for you?'. We left it as he'll investigate and get back......... and he has!!

OK, perhaps now i need to say a bit about myself......... I have cerebral palsy which i admit can make me look a bit 'slow', and yes, i do believe i wouldn't be a virgin if i wasn't disabled. BUT, i also know a lot of people like and respect me, I seem to have acquaintences -ok, not really close ones i admit- in all corners of the university and a lot of people seem to tell me i'm a legend. And i do make an impact on women [just not in that way yet], my very best friend is one and i'm her v best friend too!

So, I don't know......... Should i say yes or not?? seems a bit of a cop out on one hand... I don't know, I would really appreciate some sex, in fact i'm randy to a point of finding it hard not to go stiff when my best friend -female- hugs me, but that way....... i don't know:confused: Thoughts?? Would i just regret it??
oh, i'm nearly 20

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Reply 1

You seem like a decent chap, and you admit you feel like it's a bit of a cop out. So, no - don't do it.

Reply 2

I feel for you. I don't have any disabilities, but I am very shy and under-confident and find it hard to talk to people.

In my opinion, you should go for it. I've actually considered it myself. If it will relieve yourself and make you feel happier about yourself and your body then it will surely be a positive experience.

Reply 3

Fleshlight.

Reply 4

Nope, as I say to the rest of the male virgins on here asking if they should go to a prostitute, the right woman will come along, its just a matter of waiting!

Reply 5

I've read some of your other posts, and well you do sound like an amazing chap. Yeah you have problems but any woman worth her salt is going to be able to see past them and see that you are a real nice guy.
Although I'm normally in the sex-is-just-sex camp, I really don't think you want to do this... in your heart of hearts you must know that it isn't how you want to remember your first time. :smile: You will find the right girl eventually.

Reply 6

If you aren't sure you want to but you don't want to rule it out either, maybe you could postpone it? You could tell your friend you want to think about it and see how you feel in a few months. Don't do it just because the opportunity is here. :smile:

Reply 7

You and millions of boys out there wanting to get laid. I say don't get a prostitute, just wait for nature to eventually bring that glorious moment...probably when you least expect it.
"Michael...your a teenage boy. BREATHING increases your libido" - Susan from My family

Reply 8

Abeille
I've read some of your other posts, and well you do sound like an amazing chap.
But I'm anon:confused:

Reply 9

I know, I work for MI5 and I just sort of figured it out. :ninja:

Reply 10

Abeille
I've read some of your other posts, and well you do sound like an amazing chap. Yeah you have problems but any woman worth her salt is going to be able to see past them and see that you are a real nice guy.
Although I'm normally in the sex-is-just-sex camp, I really don't think you want to do this... in your heart of hearts you must know that it isn't how you want to remember your first time. :smile: You will find the right girl eventually.


How? He's anonymous...
:eek: Do you have... *trembles*... powers?

Reply 11

If I've got the wrong end of the stick and you aren't who I think you are, then I appologise but I'd give the same advice I think :smile:

Reply 12

Read this on the BBC today. Might be of interest.

Reply 13

Its your choice. This isn't a decision that I would advice that you take lightly so have a think about it and if you really think that it is what you want and the opportunity has presented itself then I would go for it.

Just make sure it is what you want first.

Reply 14

Abeille
If I've got the wrong end of the stick and you aren't who I think you are, then I appologise but I'd give the same advice I think :smile:
I'm the one who occasionally gets frustrated to the point of making himself believe he's deeply in love with his best friend........ which I'm NOT, its just the combination of frustration and having a girl who really cares.

Got the right one??

Reply 15

Aye, I sent you a PM. :smile:

Reply 16

Anonymous
But I'm anon:confused:


It's pretty bloody obvious who you are.

Reply 17

Don't be a meanie Profesh.

Reply 18

Abeille
Don't be a meanie Profesh.


True vindictiveness would entail disclosing their identity to the huddled masses.

Still, given that their entire contribution thus far has basically consisted of laments pertaining to either cerebral palsy or cerebral palsy and their putative consequent inability to get laid, the deduction hardly required a feat of Holmesian ingenuity on my part.

Reply 19

Profesh
True vindictiveness would entail disclosing their identity to the huddled masses.

Still, given that their entire contribution thus far has basically consisted of laments pertaining to either cerebral palsy or cerebral palsy and their putative consequent inability to get laid, the deduction hardly required a feat of Holmesian ingenuity on my part.


You know you want to :wink:
I haven't seen anyone on here talking about having cerebral palsy before...

Unless I've missed someone with the username 'PalSEysRuLeO.K.'... but I don't think I have.