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Trust

whenever i meet somebody new-i doubt them highly,i become very suspicious of them-because al the close friends ive had have somehow betrayed me or hurt me-and these arent friends who i gave my trsut to easily-those were friends who i built years of trust with and spend long periods of time with..do other people find it hard to trust friends

Trust is a luxury i cant afford <-what does that exactly mean?

Reply 1

When having friends there is always a risk of getting hurt, but hopefully the pros would out weigh the con of someone betraying you.

Reply 2

What makes you think people want the honour of you putting your special trust in them?

Reply 3

im both trusting and not, il open up sometimes very easily, but other times i might think about it. i think if people have betrayed you the you are mroe likely to think "hmm why bother" about it. but not everyone in the world is like that, its just some are.
i think trust is a risk but unless you intend to be solitary all your life its a risk youd ahev to take, maybe if only a little,.

Reply 4

shar7p
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the people im becoming friends with i cant trust even though they trust me


Are you that anon person?

Reply 5

Trust isn't something easy for me either. I have been hurt before and so I do think - Well, why bother?


But you cannot keep making a generalisation of everyone you meet, that they will all hurt you.

Your older then you were before, your obviously learning from your mistakes.
But these people arn't the people who hurt you - open up a little to them.

Of course I don't mean going telling them your lifes secrets instantly, just build some kind of ground trust with them - you'll get trust back.

Not everyone is out to hurt you. :frown:

Reply 6

I think it's normal to have walls up to some extent. Maybe that's because I've always been like that though.