My heads ****ed , i dont know what to think at the monent... help please..

Right thanks for even clicking this i need some serious advice and fast!.

Me and my GF of a year are going through a rough patch at the moment to put it shortly.
She says shes fed up up having to nag me , and feels like my mum more than my girlfriend and says i need common sence.

We broke up , and got back together the next day

this is where the list of dogey stuff comes in....

Firstly when we were arguing she said " I dont know what i want anymore "
and has been saying that for the last 3 weeks ( even though most days were out together happy ETC , she still says it )

She also said when we broke up that she needed someone older and/or more mature than me.

As if that isnt enough to make someone uneasy / insecure enough the list goes on.

Her ex BF has started talking to her around the time that we broke up.

Hes been texting her a LOT always starting with stuff like " Hey babe " and finishing with lots of "x x x x x" 's.

He asked her to go watch his school footy team play a match , and she went on her own because her mate couldnt go with her because she was doing something.

I saw him in the street next day with his mate and they stared at me all the way down the road.

Weve stopped having sex since we broke up and got back together ( she says the reasons are that she feels fat which she moans about a lot , even though it didnt stop us before , she also says its because of whats going on with us at the moment )

She got a text a while ago saying the same sort of stuff , but it was from an unknown number , saying the same stuff as her ex has been saying to start / end his msg's " Heya baby " "xxxxxx" etc. Then she got this ex's number in her phone about a day after. I asked her if it was him and she got in a piss and said no its not ETC.

She started talking to him again at one of her friends bday parties at a club.

Shes going to a party on saturday night and hes gonna be there.

She told me they were talking and he was buying her drinks and stuff.

Shes told me he cheated on her loads and she would never get back with him ( but with all of the above it sounds like a cover up to me )

what should i do? i want to talk to her about it as its ****ing me up , but she gets pissy most of the time when i ask her about stuff like this and says im accusing her , how can i talk to her without her feeling this.
Fast help is needed , thanks...

Reply 1

Symph

Dump her and move on :s

It sounds like you don't trust her, and probably with good reason if she's being defensive about her texts and in general, avoiding sex with you and you are continuously arguing. Why did you even get back together? Perhaps you're just going in different directions, try talking to her again and if she doesn't relent then leave her to it (though that is easier said than done).

Reply 2

FluffyDinosaur

oh and when i read one of her msgs from a girl mate erlier she gota Really funny and said stuff like "you dont just read other peoples txt's " etc
even though she reads mine without asking....
Saw a msg from her ex with " hey babe , what you doin? sorry i didnt tb the other night had no credit . xxxxx "

oh and she deletes her inbox / sentbox on a regular basis...

Reply 3

FluffyDinosaur

please , i need more help...

Reply 4

username47781

Sounds like she is just looking for excuses to get rid of you but when it finally comes to it she can't go through with it.

I think the first thing you both need to do is talk and ask each other what exactly do you both want.

Reply 5

FluffyDinosaur

im gonna talk about it when she gets back from visiting her cousins ( monday ) if it goes tits up and she gets really pissy , thats it i think , no matter how hards its gna be for me to do it , ive got to , i cant go on like this , i feel so ****e and scared.

Reply 6

SoundDevastation

She obviously doesnt know what she wants... you've been together a while, she probably doesnt know if she wants it to be really long-term, maybe a little bored, and attention from her ex is never going to help.

If shes that confused then shes obviously not 100% with you. make it easy for her and dump her.

Reply 7

JC.

I think the pair of you need to sit down and talk things through and come to some sort of amiable solution.

Dont sit there and critisise each other though. You should each bring to the table things that you love about the relationship and things you feel need to be worked on.

You also both need to agree that you wont blow up at each other during the conversation.

Reply 8

qubog

I think she wants you to dump her so she doesn't have to feel bad about being the dumper. What a bitch! Get rid quick

Reply 9

h82think

To be honest, you do not sound compatible for a relationship together. You both want different things out of a relationship. You both want someone to look after the both of you, you want a caring mother figure, and she wants a strong man.

My advise: I think you should break up.