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Don't know what he wants!!!!

Hi at uni theres this guy, he keeps chatting to me and i don't know what he wants, on the sly he keeps saying nice comments about me and am just like ok. I just get really worried because i can tell when someone wants to be your friend and when someone wants something more. I already got a boyfriend so I don't know what to do. I mean he doesn't know that I got a boyfriend but i think he may have a crush on me or wants to be m8s. I find it really hard because sometimes I can't tell what he wants, maybe am looking at things too seriously but he doesn't bother the other girls there as much as he bothers me. I'm just really confused :s-smilie:

. . . I don't know whether am looking into things which aren't there i guess or should i tell ma bf about this but am worried about his reaction to this. What shall i do coz am really confused :s-smilie:

Reply 1

fargo89

13

just mention that you have a boyfriend while the guys around. not necessarily to him in particular. then see what happens.

Reply 2

fargo89

13

or screw him, your choice.

Reply 3

Mizz_Gigglez

OP

i know but his a really nice guy i mean his nice as a friend but sometimes he can be a bit too friendly i guess, am just worried if he tries it on with me i guess

Reply 4

A Y A Z

11

Ask him what he wants. Thats it.

Reply 5

Red Dust

10

chrisbellx

just mention that you have a boyfriend while the guys around. not necessarily to him in particular. then see what happens.

I agree. If he's a decent guy, he'll back off once he knows you have a boyfriend. Or he'll at least tone the flirting down. He fancies you, and until you give him a reason why you can't be together, he's probably going to keep flirting and thinking he has a chance with you.

Reply 6

username47781

20

Well if he does try it on, just politely tell him no.

Reply 7

qubog

12

I feel sorry for the poor lad, he deserves to know that you aren't interested

Reply 8

D-Day

10

I can't blame him for trying something if he has no idea you're not single. Tell him.

Reply 9

rosetinted

2

The guy seems to fancy you a bit, he doesn't know you're in a relationship. Why do you make it sound sinister? He hasn't got some sodding dark purpose. He's chatting to you, being friendly and testing the waters. In his mind he's a single guy, you're a single girl and he wants to see if anything can develop.

Let him know you're taken, subtly. If he carries on, he's a git.

Reply 10

Mizz_Gigglez

OP

rosetinted

The guy seems to fancy you a bit, he doesn't know you're in a relationship. Why do you make it sound sinister? He hasn't got some sodding dark purpose. He's chatting to you, being friendly and testing the waters. In his mind he's a single guy, you're a single girl and he wants to see if anything can develop.

Let him know you're taken, subtly. If he carries on, he's a git.

I don't make it sound sinister he just keeps bothering me and I don't know what to do!!! I reckon am just gonna say next time i see him that i got a boyfriend and if he carries on then i guess he is a git :smile:

lol. The problem was i didn't want to say anything just in case he was being friendly and then it would have made me look stupid in assuming he fancied me. How can you tell if a lad fancies you? I mean this guy keeps chatting to me and saying nice stuff to me and everytime i'm with a group of m8s he always comes over to chat to me. Its like he wants to be my m8 but is that what it could be . . . that he just want to be m8s or do you reckon he does fancy me deep down, i just feel really confused :s-smilie:

I don't want to take it the wrong way if he does want to be m8s because i would be the only one who would end up looking stupid!!

Reply 11

devilsthorn

1

Maybe he doesn't fancy the OP at all.

Reply 12

LooksLikeJesus

1

Mizz_Gigglez

I don't make it sound sinister he just keeps bothering me and I don't know what to do!!! I reckon am just gonna say next time i see him that i got a boyfriend and if he carries on then i guess he is a git :smile:

lol. The problem was i didn't want to say anything just in case he was being friendly and then it would have made me look stupid in assuming he fancied me. How can you tell if a lad fancies you? I mean this guy keeps chatting to me and saying nice stuff to me and everytime i'm with a group of m8s he always comes over to chat to me. Its like he wants to be my m8 but is that what it could be . . . that he just want to be m8s or do you reckon he does fancy me deep down, i just feel really confused :s-smilie:

I don't want to take it the wrong way if he does want to be m8s because i would be the only one who would end up looking stupid!!

Well, you don't say "Oh, I have a boyfriend, so go away" or anything... Just talk about your boyfriend in a casual way, like if he's going to come down to see you, or something, or if you said something stupid on the phone to him, or he to you, something you can just randomly talk about :smile:

Reply 13

Mizz_Gigglez

OP

ok i brought it casually up that i got a boyfriend but he still keeps bugging me. I mean he went quiet when i was chatting about him and then the next day was back to himself again. Now I really don't get what his problem is. And he also had the cheek to say that all relationships don't last long. What is that supposed to mean!!!!

Reply 14

DodgyTrousers

7

I think so long as you're obvious with your adoration of your boyfriend, he won't make a move. That's providing he actually does want anything more than friendship, some people just seem to flirt naturally.
I also compliment my female friends if they look nice, or do something cool, but it doesn't mean I want to bed them.

Don't know what he wants!!!!

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