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ex-girlfriend working in same place as me

This could be potentially very messy. She's not spoken to me for over a year and I only found out today that she's working in the same place as me. Not the same office luckily but I have to pass her dept every morning on my way into work so this is going to be something on me mind.

Any advice welcome.

Reply 1

I_am_the_mob

1

I would just be civil... perhaps say "hello"
After that it's up to her

Reply 2

BigScouser

OP

That was my initial plan. Just find it a bit inconvenient that a part of my past is now cropping up again. Like fate has dealt me a cruel hand but I'll see what happens.

Reply 3

TKnightrider

Well im afraid chickening out isnt an option. Be fair and be civil like if she smiles smile back dont ignore her. You dont have to chat to her but maybe say hi when u pass her. If its bothering you that much just get a new job or not let her get on your mind. I wouldn't.

Reply 4

prettygreeneyes99

9

Doesnt sound like a huge problem... just be polite, say hi, how are you etc. And if she starts being a cow she'll just be the one who looks stupid not you :smile:

Reply 5

dh00001

16

yep a little passing hello would be best. its going to be awkward but trying to advoid one another makes it worse. just try and imagine them as another face.

Reply 6

BigScouser

OP

There's actually more to it than her just being an ex so kind of complicates things.

Reply 7

TKnightrider

BigScouser

There's actually more to it than her just being an ex so kind of complicates things.

Well if your embarrased by a past problem with her or you or her have been horrible then maybe this is the time to straighten things out?

Reply 8

BigScouser

OP

Possibly. But when she has had no contact with me for over a year I'm wondering if it would make the situation worse.

Reply 9

HereFishyFishy

13

Email something along the lines of "Hi X, I know we haven't talked for a while but as we're now working in the same building I thought I'd say hello and break the ice. I know we'll never be good friends, but no hard feelings. Hope all's well."

Something civil and generic would do.

Reply 10

TKnightrider

Laces

Email something along the lines of "Hi X, I know we haven't talked for a while but as we're now working in the same building I thought I'd say hello and break the ice. I know we'll never be good friends, but no hard feelings. Hope all's well."

Something civil and generic would do.

Or prehaps you could go to her face to face as she will have more respect for you if you get a bit of bottle and do it to her face. Im not saying at all that you dont have bottle but she will respect you if you approch her and say hey we havnt talked in yonks how u doin? New boyfriend? Sound approachable for next time and you never know you might be able to talk to her again?

Reply 11

HereFishyFishy

13

TKnightrider

Or prehaps you could go to her face to face as she will have more respect for you if you get a bit of bottle and do it to her face. Im not saying at all that you dont have bottle but she will respect you if you approch her and say hey we havnt talked in yonks how u doin? New boyfriend? Sound approachable for next time and you never know you might be able to talk to her again?

No way! Don't launch in and ask about a new boyfriend. She could totally get the wrong impression.
If they work in different departments, I should think email would be sufficient. It's not like they're *really* going to talk anyway.

Reply 12

BigScouser

OP

Sent her an email last night. Not sure about emailing her over the work one as she might get the wrong impression.

Reply 13

TKnightrider

BigScouser

Sent her an email last night. Not sure about emailing her over the work one as she might get the wrong impression.

Hidding behind a screen is not going to help matters. Ok youve sentit. Now go see her and talk to her.

Reply 14

BigScouser

OP

Can't just go into her department and strike up conversation with her. Both got jobs to do.

Reply 15

TKnightrider

BigScouser

Can't just go into her department and strike up conversation with her. Both got jobs to do.

Yes i am aware of that. How about you say to her lets talk things over and not get all het up. It might just make your life easier.

Reply 16

BigScouser

OP

I'll send her a text and see what happens from there.

Reply 17

TKnightrider

BigScouser

I'll send her a text and see what happens from there.

Good man.

You will feel better!

Reply 18

BigScouser

OP

Even if she doesn't text back?

Reply 19

TKnightrider

BigScouser

Even if she doesn't text back?

Gosh.

Give it a day or so if no reply she is clearing being a pain and isnt mature enough to take responsability. If it persists just ignore her and show how you have moved on and really could give a flying flip :wink:

regards

ex-girlfriend working in same place as me

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