Argh, so annoying!!

Please keep anon as its a touchy subject for me.

Okay, me and my ex split up almost 4 months ago now and there honestly hasn't been one single day where I haven't thought about her. This is probably because of the way she broke up with me saying that she thought I'd be her next bf (in a year because I'd be moving to a uni a lot closer to her) and just didn't want a relationship while there was a huge distance between us (3-4 hour journey once every two to three weeks due to cost). And the fact that when I started to get over her, something small would happen such as her blanking me all of a sudden and other stuff like this.

Anyway, today I was browsing my myspace profile and was having a look at some of the comments people have left over the year (its all on one page since I don't really use myspace like msn and leaves loads of comments) and I noticed that for some reason my ex has deleted all her comments appart from one, in the last day or two. And I just don't get why she's done that after almost 4 months?

Theres loads of other little things which I know I'm over-analysing but cant help it, like the fact that she doesn't keep her new bf at no1. on her myspace profile whereas she did for me, and how I'm still on her top friends even though we don't speak.

The thing is I don't want to realise these things, or even think about my ex but she just ends up popping up in my head whenever I'm alone. Its just really annoying how I can't stop thinking about her even though its been 4 months. I know that it will eventually get better, but its honestly like a god damn yoyo. I have some major down points and some major good points. More goodd than bad, but it seems like its a constant pain because its impossible to go a day without thinking about her.

Just any advice, opinions or general thoughts on this would be a great help.

Thanks in advance.

Reply 1

fairycakes

12

hey,

i'm sorry you feel so bad about your ex. you need to let her go and stop thinking about her. this time last year, i was like you. me and my ex broke up that aug and he was away in italy on his year. i was stalking him al the time on facebook, phoning him, he occupied all my thoughts. it really wsn't helpful. i just didn't want to get over him. i honstly believed we would get back together. i shoul have just tried harder to forget about him, it would have saved so much heartache. personally my life got better when i stopped talking to him and totally shut him out of my life. i got more involved with other people (not romantically), and made lots of new memories with friends. our situations are not totally similar, except the small problem of how hard it is to get over someone.

my advice is to please try to save ureself even more hurt and just try harder to forget about her. immerse ureself in new people and ure new life without her. there is no point in thinking about her for the timoe being. the time for nostalgia and reminicing is not now while everything is still raw.

don't worry about the fact it's been 4 months. take as long as you need. you want to get over her properly, not half heartedly and in a couple months time it'll all come back.

i hope i've helped. take care.

xxxx

Reply 2

username47781

20

First thing you need to do is cut her out your life, because otherwise you will just never get over her.

Reply 3

warrior-1

2

Life is too short to worry about these little things- jus move on and enjoy life!

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

fairycakes

hey,

i'm sorry you feel so bad about your ex. you need to let her go and stop thinking about her. this time last year, i was like you. me and my ex broke up that aug and he was away in italy on his year. i was stalking him al the time on facebook, phoning him, he occupied all my thoughts. it really wsn't helpful. i just didn't want to get over him. i honstly believed we would get back together. i shoul have just tried harder to forget about him, it would have saved so much heartache. personally my life got better when i stopped talking to him and totally shut him out of my life. i got more involved with other people (not romantically), and made lots of new memories with friends. our situations are not totally similar, except the small problem of how hard it is to get over someone.

my advice is to please try to save ureself even more hurt and just try harder to forget about her. immerse ureself in new people and ure new life without her. there is no point in thinking about her for the timoe being. the time for nostalgia and reminicing is not now while everything is still raw.

don't worry about the fact it's been 4 months. take as long as you need. you want to get over her properly, not half heartedly and in a couple months time it'll all come back.

i hope i've helped. take care.

xxxx

Hey thanks for the reply (and to all the other people who have replied).

I know what you mean, the problem is I'm going out doing that sort of stuff (not talked to her in ages, do more stuff with mates etc). Like last night I went to my mates while he had a few people over which I wouldn't normally do because I'm pretty shy but I went down and had a right laugh. But when it came to everyone leaving I just stayed and slept on the floor and it was like BANG and she was in my head, and it was worse than its ever been before, it really felt like I was never going to get over her. However this morning I feel great and she doesn't pop in my head at all. Thats whats so annoying, its not like constant heartache over her, its more like short burst of LOTS and LOTS of heartache which is so annoying. I even have the odd dream about every once in a while which is pretty bad because I end up getting back together with her in it and then wake up and realise it was just a dream.

Not actually sure what I'm posting this for now because I feel great but I'm sure by the end of tonight or tomorrow she'll be back in my head lol.

So is it just time I need d'ya think?

Thanks for your replies guys :smile:

Reply 5

h82think

14

I suggest you forget about it and move on.

Argh, so annoying!!

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