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Relationship worries and doubts - really complicated!

Basically ive been in a relationship with this guy for about 7 months now, he is 36 and im 20, were both in the 3rd (and final) year of our degree programmes (same degree and uni etc) and live together in the city. He has 2 children from his previous relationship, which lasted 10 years and so basically I know i have to deal with the fact he is going to have to see/be in the company of his ex at least once a week - but I know its for the kids (there 4 and 9 months) but it still gets to me immensly and I just cant stop it :frown:

When ever she calls I try to not think about it and what there talking about and just try to deal with it but its impossible!! She can be so rude and mean to him as well and he just takes it. The annoying thing is I love this guy soooo much and dont want to lose him or not be in this relationship because of my inability to deal with his Ex.... :frown::frown:

An example - he called and said he would have his daugthers on the tuesday - thursday and she said 'no no no no no!!! you will have them wednesday to thursday' so fine excepted that, on tuesday she called our uni tutor ranting and raving to talk to him cause he was 'suppose' to have picked his girls up that day but had gone to uni instead - he said nothing, just went and got them - and im like why?! she said no, so we changed plans which we had to then change again to suit her

It might not seem much but it happens all the time, its almost like she goes out her way to be a nusance and pain in the rear!!

Am i being stupid or silly??

Sorry for the rant but opinions/comments from anyone but particularly people in similar situations bvery much appriciated :smile:

Sorry for the essay (been waiting ages to rant about this :frown:)

Reply 1

Only problem going out with an older guy with children, it's the fact he comes with a lot of baggage. You are not being silly, it is understandable to be worried and paranoid.

But remember he is with you now not her.

Reply 2

I know how you're feeling! My guy is 33, his 2 kids live in spain, and his ex wife if making it very difficult for them to be a part of his life.
Not only that, he lives with his most recent ex and she treats him like crap and he just takes it!

So yea, I'm just here to see what people say, and I'm for moral support if you need it :smile: