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Myspace memories & gf

I'm still not over my ex gf and would prefer if she didn't see this :smile:

We broke up some months ago after a serious relationship. She did some very bad stuff and I think that it was in our best interest that we didn't speak anymore. Obviously she didn't agree and tried and tried every day to phone up or to facebook me etc. Basically she's put in more effort into trying to get me back than keep me in the first place, so i never pick up the phone. Even though she says she's changed and or is in the process of it, something in which is, I believe, some truth. In essence she was (is?) a very big manipulator and because I didn't stick up to it, she did what ever she wanted. ANYWAY, the crux of the matter is, I'm told I should change my internet profiles and the like to being single, take her photos off etc, but i just can't bring myself to it.

It's odd, Love is based on friendship and trust. she put herself before me always and cheated on me too (you may remember posts about her going to visit her 'other bf' for her birthday), so neither of those two basics are there, yet i do love her, despite everything. The only way I can rationalise this, is firstly that I love her like a daughter (although, of course still amorously) or secondly: I'm delusional.

What do you guys reckon? Before the event of facebook these things were much easier. Damn instant communication :p:

Reply 1

username47781

20

You need to stop contacting her and you need to delete her numbers and email address. In time you should forget about her.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

There isn't any communication. In fact she's stopped phoning now, actually since wednesday. Funnily enough she must have phoned about 9 times that day, mostly while i was in lectures. In any case I don't pick up.

Reply 3

Shuffler

13

what did she do to you? seems pretty bad

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Licit

what did she do to you? seems pretty bad

It's not relevant really, as I think both she and I have put those things in the past.

Reply 5

Shuffler

13

Anonymous

It's not relevant really, as I think both she and I have put those things in the past.

sorry am just a nosey bugger :smile:

Well the best thing todo in my opinion is to keep blocking her out.

Reply 6

Dream_Catcher

1

Well I guess there's to propectives for keeping the photo's etc: A) To remember the fun times you both had together B) To remember not to make the same mistake again.

But saying this if your still in love with her and may go back to her if your looking at her photo's I think it would be best to get rid of them so your not tempted to do the same thing again. You both broke up for a reason....

Reply 7

kaylee:)

Rock Fan

You need to stop contacting her and you need to delete her numbers and email address. In time you should forget about her.

Yeah I agree with you on this lol. He shoudl stop bothering with her. I know some of my X's have caused em loadsa hassle after we split. Just blank her. Forget her blah de dah de dah

K xx

Reply 8

username47781

20

kaylee:)

Yeah I agree with you on this lol. He shoudl stop bothering with her. I know some of my X's have caused em loadsa hassle after we split. Just blank her. Forget her blah de dah de dah

K xx

something we agree on at least :p:

Reply 9

FlyingIsis

1

Anonymous

I'm still not over my ex gf and would prefer if she didn't see this :smile:

We broke up some months ago after a serious relationship. She did some very bad stuff and I think that it was in our best interest that we didn't speak anymore. Obviously she didn't agree and tried and tried every day to phone up or to facebook me etc. Basically she's put in more effort into trying to get me back than keep me in the first place, so i never pick up the phone. Even though she says she's changed and or is in the process of it, something in which is, I believe, some truth. In essence she was (is?) a very big manipulator and because I didn't stick up to it, she did what ever she wanted. ANYWAY, the crux of the matter is, I'm told I should change my internet profiles and the like to being single, take her photos off etc, but i just can't bring myself to it.

It's odd, Love is based on friendship and trust. she put herself before me always and cheated on me too (you may remember posts about her going to visit her 'other bf' for her birthday), so neither of those two basics are there, yet i do love her, despite everything. The only way I can rationalise this, is firstly that I love her like a daughter (although, of course still amorously) or secondly: I'm delusional.

What do you guys reckon? Before the event of facebook these things were much easier. Damn instant communication :p:

I think you should decide how exactly you feel about her, if it is as you say more of a paternal affection then obviously the relationship will go nowhere and fb blocking should ensue. If there is something deeper there, maybe you should reconsider.
You must also decide whether you want a life without her or whether what you have/had means enough to you to try and resolve it.
I don´t think she is trying to manipulate you, she really only wants what is best for you, and even if that means her stopping all contact with you, however painful, she will do it.
You should meditate upon it and decide how you really feel
Signs are everywhere.
xxx

Reply 10

L i b

19

Anonymous

The only way I can rationalise this, is firstly that I love her like a daughter (although, of course still amorously)

Weeeeeeey.

Reply 11

Jadie.Babie

I really doubt shes a changed person. If shes cheated on you once then she will cheat again no doubt.
I know it hurts, I've been there myself love.
You have to do whats best for you and that may mean changing your numbers, facebook stuf and all that. Thats what i did and i've moved on :smile:

Still doesnt help the heartache though.

Reply 12

Profesh

20

Anonymous

I'm still not over my ex gf and would prefer if she didn't see this :smile:

We broke up some months ago after a serious relationship. She did some very bad stuff and I think that it was in our best interest that we didn't speak anymore. Obviously she didn't agree and tried and tried every day to phone up or to facebook me etc. Basically she's put in more effort into trying to get me back than keep me in the first place, so i never pick up the phone. Even though she says she's changed and or is in the process of it, something in which is, I believe, some truth. In essence she was (is?) a very big manipulator and because I didn't stick up to it, she did what ever she wanted. ANYWAY, the crux of the matter is, I'm told I should change my internet profiles and the like to being single, take her photos off etc, but i just can't bring myself to it.

It's odd, Love is based on friendship and trust. she put herself before me always and cheated on me too (you may remember posts about her going to visit her 'other bf' for her birthday), so neither of those two basics are there, yet i do love her, despite everything. The only way I can rationalise this, is firstly that I love her like a daughter (although, of course still amorously) or secondly: I'm delusional.

What do you guys reckon? Before the event of facebook these things were much easier. Damn instant communication :p:

Then you must. Give up the ghost. Erase or otherwise dispose of every picture and memento of her in your possession. Oh, and listen to this.

It gets easier over time: my record to-date is half-an-hour from the moment of realisation, and I can attest feeling significantly better almost immediately afterwards. The resulting sense of catharsis is not to be underestimated.

Reply 13

$loth

1

If you want to get over her I think it would be best to remove any memories of her from your profiles.

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