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I asked her out and now things are awkward...

So this girl has been dropping me alot of signs of interest, so I decided to ask her out, but she said she can't cause she was busy, we still had a nice convo after that so I thought she was indeed really busy. But now whenever I see her she kinda ignores me, before, she starts conversations and stuff but now it's kinda awkward...

I don't know whats going on... Should I just confront her about this and tell her straight up that I like her and see what kind of response I'll get?

Reply 1

gruffyddd

1

If you've already asked her out then it'll be clear that you like her in that way, but if she's declined I'm afraid the feeling's probably not mutual. You could confront her to spell it out for her, but this is might also lose you your friendship.

Perhaps you should just carry on as normal for a while. If she continues to show you these "signs of interest" you could always ask her out again, but if she's "busy" again then I think her position is obvious.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

seeing how she is already ignoring me it can't be that much worse could it lol.

Im not sure if it was clearly asking her out, i asked if she wanted to go to wonderland with me, at the time she said maybe, so we carried on talking about other stuff and she was smiling the whole time, then that night she told me she was busy then started ignoring me whenever i saw her after that....

Reply 3

pumpkin7

13

aha. she knows you like her and she doesn't like you so now it's awkward.

move on mate :p:

Reply 4

Mr. Ed

10

Anonymous

i asked if she wanted to go to wonderland with me

That sounds like some kind of drug-related euphemism... please enlighten me. :p:

Reply 5

pumpkin7

13

maybe it's where alice goes with all her mates on a weekend?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

pumpkin7

aha. she knows you like her and she doesn't like you so now it's awkward.

move on mate :p:

is there anything i can do? I see her alot and I don't want it to be like that all the time lol

Reply 7

The Basilisk

It's not necessarily that she doesn't like you, she may just see you in a different light now - let things smoothen out, be cool with her and she'll be cool with you.

Don't confront her, she'll think you're weird.

Reply 8

mollymustard

14

I'd try and arrange to meet up again! She may have been making an excuse but she may have been genuinely busy.
As for the ignoring thing, she may be trying to let you down gently or she may just be embarrased she couldnt make it or something.

You never know with these situations, and as you've said you probably dont have much to lose.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

would it be better for me to ask her to do something else, or just tell her how I feel about her, see if she feels the same way then plan a date?

Reply 10

fargo89

13

just leave it, id say. if shes genuinely interested then she'll say something like "what about that date" etc.

Reply 11

The Basilisk

Ask her to do something else - don't talk about feelings just yet, not while things are already akward.

Reply 12

The Basilisk

chrisbellx

just leave it, id say. if shes genuinely interested then she'll say something like "what about that date" etc.

Hehe... She wouldn't. She'd probably want him to bring it up again in a non akward manner.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

I just dont get it arggg

She gave me so many signs like poking me, touching me to get attention, looking at me then smile and look down/away when i look back, her face sometimes even goes a lil red when I'm talking to her, sometimes she wouldn't look at me when we r talking, i jsut thought that she was shy.

Now this... weirrrrrd

Reply 14

The Basilisk

Anonymous

I just dont get it arggg

She gave me so many signs like poking me, touching me to get attention, looking at me then smile and look down/away when i look back, her face sometimes even goes a lil red when I'm talking to her, sometimes she wouldn't look at me when we r talking, i jsut thought that she was shy.

Now this... weirrrrrd

Wow, that's even a sign that I've used - aww, it'll come together... just be patient. At least now you know the ball's in your court, and if she's shy you just need to find the right approach - this will come once you really get to know her.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

The Basilisk

Wow, that's even a sign that I've used - aww, it'll come together... just be patient. At least now you know the ball's in your court, and if she's shy you just need to find the right approach - this will come once you really get to know her.

well i thought she liked me cause of the signs, and asked her out, she said she was busy and is now ignoring me, how do i get to know if she runs off everytime I see her lol.

Reply 16

The Basilisk

Anonymous

well i thought she liked me cause of the signs, and asked her out, she said she was busy and is now ignoring me, how do i get to know if she runs off everytime I see her lol.

Make her think you don't care and don't make it obvious that you're concerned by her scurrying off. She'll realize that you're safe and not overly interested in her - basically, next time you talk to her make sure that it is her who comes to you and not the other way round. :wink:

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

it's just everything that she's done ever since I asked her out says she doesn't like me, I wish I could just just tell her I like her and get a straight answer for once....

Reply 18

ph9

10

just tell her if that's what you want to do. you know her 100% better than any of us do. perhaps you're right and she is just shy. if so, it's doubtful she'll be opening up to any feelings she may have for you any time soon so you know, you might as well take the plunge

Reply 19

supahme

ok I'm going to give you some really good advice.
My guy-friend told me this and its so true.
Girls tend to say no when you ask them out like that. You need to be WAY more casual so that they feel comfortable. See the whole "DATE" deal makes girls feel a bit strange. i don't know how to explain it.
be like..."hey I'm going to be at _______ this weekend. Are you coming or are you going to be boring and stay at home?"

Something like that

I asked her out and now things are awkward...

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