Am I selfish for being bored by relationships?

I don't know if this is abnormal, but all the pleasure I derive seems to be from being alone, and dreaming of something different to the people around me.
My dreams are more about what I do and where I go, escapism, books, music etc, and relationships don't feature. In fact when I'm around my sis and her husband and baby, and we have all the family conversations about when me and my sis were babies and about their new baby, it just seems sad almost depressing---kind of like thats their dream but to me it seems limited.
I trya nd be nice cos it's expected of me, maybe I'm horrible but all that selflessness and family stuff just bores the crap out of me, and family memories just seem sentimental and pointless, kind of like people should be applying their mind to something more interesting.

I am some kind of sociopath or is this how many people feel?

Reply 1

cpj1987

At the moment, it's how I feel. Not to that extent; I mean, my friends are the most important people in the world to me, as are some family members. However, a relationship isn't something I want at the moment; because I'm happy being single and living my life my way at the moment. :smile:

I guess that's what you mean, not wanting to be in a relationship yourself, because there's too many other things you want to experience on your own? Not that I'd say no if I did meet someone I wanted to be with.

I guess for me, it's because I'm at university; and it'll all change once I'm out there in the big real world. :p:

Reply 2

Saffie

you can still do the relationship or even family thing and have a life.

But you have to be careful you don't let either become your life, which a lot of people do, including your sister it seems. If it makes them happy then good for them, but it's perfectly understandable to want something more.

If you're bored, why don't you read this, your post reminded me of it :smile:

http://property.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/property/article2752191.ece

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

i don't think they even ake it totally their life, they dont, but i just cant be bothered with that kind of conventional life at all...

makes me think I may be wierd in that respect

Reply 4

Saffie

Anonymous

i don't think they even ake it totally their life, they dont, but i just cant be bothered with that kind of conventional life at all...

makes me think I may be wierd in that respect

i don't think you are.
A lot of people live very happy/exciting lives without being in relationships much of the time.

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