Meeting awkwardness

I have been messaging a girl online on and off for 2 years - I am a female who is looking for friendship. I was already going out with my boyfriend when this started. Thing is I would like to meet her offline and I know its best to meet in a safe place etc.

I have never told him I still chat to people as he is still 'old-fashioned' about everyone being a nutter on the net and would wonder why I have been 'hiding things'. I don't know what excuse I could give if I did meet her and he says how do I know her - as he'll probably say you never mentioned her before.

I just don't want him to hold me back as I have very few true friends and would love to meet new people. Its strange cos if you make friends at hobbies and nightclubs no-one frowns upon this. Any ideas?

Reply 1

Saffie

11

just meet her (in public, safely etc)

if he asks how you know her, just tell him the truth. & By then it's too late for him to go "OMGWTF she'll be a nutter", or if he does you can categorically tell him he's wrong :wink:

Reply 2

mollymustard

14

I agree with Saffie.
Meet her and don't let him hold you back.
I spose he might be a bit peeved when/if he finds out but I think you should just go for it.

Reply 3

FreeBird

Yeah I agree, just meet up with her. If you don't you could be missing out on a great friendship. I'm sure he won't stand in your way :smile:

Get him to meet her the next time, too.

Reply 4

supahme

Um i'd still be careful meeting this girl.
You can never be too sure with online chatrooms.
Sorry I know this isn't what you want to hear but its my opinion. You're boyfriend may not just think that way because hes "old-fashioned" but also because he is concerned and cautious.

And actually I think his way of thinking is more modern than old-fashioned. Old-fashioned is ignorant and innocent where as modern is wise and smart.

Reply 5

Ichamackalooloo

2

Just meet in a public place, but keep your wits about you. Have you spoken to her on the phone?

Good luck with this & your bf.

Reply 6

Jamin

12

Your bf sounds like a bit of a control freak if you dont trust him enough to tell him. I reckon you should tell him you wanna meet up with this friend but you could ask him to come with you if he is worried that your friend isnt who she says she is.

Reply 7

kazi

please please please don't be so eager to prove your boyfreind wrong that you are willing to endanger your self!

make sure the place is in a really realy really public place!

Reply 8

FreeBird

Thing is, this girl is probably thinking the same thing. I totally agree with being ultra safe, but if she's feeling cautious about meeting someone new aswell, you dont want to make her feel worse by saying youre bringing your bf along too.

Just make sure its in a totally safe public place when you meet her, and stay in the public place the whole time youre with her. and get your bf to pick you up when youre saying bye, that way you get home safely, he gets to make sure you're alright and he can meet her too.

Reply 9

Jamin

12

FreeBird

Thing is, this girl is probably thinking the same thing. I totally agree with being ultra safe, but if she's feeling cautious about meeting someone new aswell, you dont want to make her feel worse by saying youre bringing your bf along too.

Just make sure its in a totally safe public place when you meet her, and stay in the public place the whole time youre with her. and get your bf to pick you up when youre saying bye, that way you get home safely, he gets to make sure you're alright and he can meet her too.

ooh yeah, ignore what i said and go with that, its much better :biggrin:

wooo

Reply 10

SilverWings

14

She's really a 52 year old man, you know.

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