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Interested in your opinions

I've got advice of my friends before so i doubt any of you guys or gals - as experienced as you may be could help but.. i just want to know what you think.

Theres this girl (as there always is) this girl is my ex. We went a few years ago now, she broke up with me, i know the reason why she did it through another person but at the time my ex came up with some excuse in order to end it. I wont go into details as its complicated.

The relationship didnt end on the best of terms, we talked friendly for few months- she used to say she was still in love with me but usually our convos ended in fights and after a while we just stopped talking altogether.

I was really in love with this girl - quite literally she meant the world to me and for the past two years i've never stopped thinking about her, i've tried to move on but i just can't..years later i still think about her every day.

Then about a week ago she contacts me out of the blue - is distressed because her boyfriend has broken up with her and i, perhaps foolishly, arrange to meet her. Which i did - before we met up on that day i was very nervous and anxious thinking that she was going to be a totally different girl but she wasnt, she was just as i remember'd her.
Now my life up until this point was pretty lously, nothing to be that happy about but when i was with her i was immensely happy and we got on really really well.. and we said we'd meet up again soon. As friends of course, i doubt that we'd get back together.
Now it seems to have opened old wounds, all the love that i felt for her has come flooding back..and it hurts. If only you lot could feel how much it does

Reply 1

mailmerge

Sounds like a pretty fairytale story to me.

I think if you're getting on so well, that's great and I'd never shut out that chance of you getting back together. Although you shouldn't try to push it on her after your second outing, I'm sure she's enjoying herself too. If she really means this much to you, then friendship would never work so well anyway.

She's got you infatuated and it's only been one meeting.

Reply 2

Cunning Linguist

Maybe she wants to get back with you too. Why else would she contact you out of the blue? An why would she want to meet you again?

Reply 3

squeak

i think it's all well and good, but be careful she isn't playing you.

she broke up with you, then when she's done with her new bf she calls you back up. will she do it again?

of course, this could be a fairy tale ending and you might have your happy ending :smile:

Reply 4

ro-ro

Just be careful because sometimes in the mist of a ****ty breakup an old relationship can seem like a bed of roses in comparison as it was a while ago and the arguing and problems aren't raw. I know sometimes when the going gets tough I long for my nice first love instead of the guy that has just upset me somehow.

I'd just take your time and not rush into anything. Don't write it off as an option but also don't count your chickens before they hatch.

Reply 5

smoosabitmega

you must remember why you broke up in the first place, and question her motives.

Reply 6

kaylee:)

Yeah i agree with pretty much everyone else. Becareful then see what happens. You dont want to make things anymore complicated do ya?

K xx

GOODLUCK!!

Reply 7

graemematt

You know in these situations where an anonymous person posts, I sometimes like to pretend the OP is actually a girl and she's talking about a lesbian infatuation. Makes it much more interesting. :smile:

Because to be honest, this sort of thing happens all the time, and I'm fairly sure you know what to do for yourself. If you don't, follow the advice here...just meet up with her again but be apprehensive. She will be fragile and confused though having just broken up with her boyfriend...

Reply 8

Dream_Catcher

All girl who breaks up with a guy only to coming running back to him after her lastest hasn't worked out isn't worth the bother. Get over her or she'll walk all over you.