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Has anyone ever had an abortion?

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Just curious. I get really scared about getting pregnant. I am very sensible, but a couple of times contraception has failed and i get extremely worried about being pregnant. Thing is, i wouldnt keep the baby for several reasons. But im scared of having an abortion, just the idea of knowing your pregnant as well. Has anyone ever had one? What was it like? Did you get badly affected by it?

Please please please i dont want any opinions on abortion itself or a 30 page long debate about it i just want to hear the experiences of those who have had one, at a young age. Did you feel cheap and slutty for getting pregnant or do you know it was simply a mistake? One you couldnt really control...it just happened? Or did you have one for medical reasons?

Thanks

Reply 1

Sparkly-student

Nor me....Im not sure I could even if I needed to to be honest....

Reply 2

*Star*Guitar*

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I haven't had one but I get worried about getting pregnant, it's a scary thought at a young age. And I take precautions so I would be peed off to say the least if it failed but ****** can happen, so I'd rather the option of abortion was available to me.

Reply 3

qubog

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Nope, never been pregnant and abortion is illegal over here anyway

Reply 4

BabyBee

I am pregnant, not planned, and i DID use contraception.
But i couldn't have an abortion so I don't know how it feels.
I do however think you need to think carefully about why you would have one.
I'm not anti-abortion, i just think it's a decision that needs thought.
Have you thought about other forms of contraception to help ease the worry?
The coil, or even the injection can ensure mistakes (i.e. missing a day on the pill) don't happen.

Reply 5

fatal

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qubog

Nope, never been pregnant and abortion is illegal over here anyway

I hate that, it makes me panic so much more because I know that I couldnt just go to Belfast and get it sorted :frown:

Reply 6

jenren22

OP

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Yes i have. I was on the combined pill but i had to come off it as i got thrombosis. Since then i have just used condoms until i could decide what to do next. I went through quite a bit of stress after hospital. Now i have been given the mini pill to use as well as condoms but i cant start it until my period comes but it has not yet come. My cycle can be pretty irregular, but its never been quite as late as this. I have taken two pregnancy tests, one a week ago and one yesterday, both negative. Thing is, the condom broke twice hence my worrying, but there was no sperm at the time. I do suffer from anxiety sometimes, some times more than others, and i am also on warfarin medication, so that could cause the late period i just get so worried! The baby wouldnt survive on warfarin so i would probably have a miscarriage anyway, plus i am not ready for a baby. I am only 18.

Thanks xx

Reply 7

dita_parlo

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I got pregnant at age 21 and I had always thought that if I ever got pregnant at a *young* age I would have an abortion. However, actually being pregnant totally changed my mind. I didn't feel slutty at all, I had used all the precautions available to me and well, nbthing is 100% effective. I think the thing that made me totally against having the abortion was, as you say, the actuality of BEING pregnant. It was fine saying "oh yea if I got pregnant I'd have an abortion"... but actually experiencing it was different.
I have friends who have had abortions who don't seem to be affected at all by it... And ones who were.

Reply 8

jenren22

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dita_parlo

I got pregnant at age 21 and I had always thought that if I ever got pregnant at a *young* age I would have an abortion. However, actually being pregnant totally changed my mind. I didn't feel slutty at all, I had used all the precautions available to me and well, nbthing is 100% effective. I think the thing that made me totally against having the abortion was, as you say, the actuality of BEING pregnant. It was fine saying "oh yea if I got pregnant I'd have an abortion"... but actually experiencing it was different.
I have friends who have had abortions who don't seem to be affected at all by it... And ones who were.

Yea...i guess it probably wont be as bad as i think. Did you actually have an abortion then?

Reply 9

dita_parlo

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No unfortunately I miscarried.

Reply 10

The Strangest Quark

I've never had an abortion, and really hope I never have to, but were I to have the misfortune to become pregnant now (unlikely, thankfully), I wouldn't hesitate to have one. I don't doubt it would be a rather nasty experience, but far preferable to abandoning all of my hopes and dreams, not to mention control of my own body :frown:

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I'd be interested to hear any experiences.

Reply 11

jenren22

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The Strangest Quark

I wouldn't hesitate to have one. I don't doubt it would be a rather nasty experience, but far preferable to abandoning all of my hopes and dreams, not to mention control of my own body :frown:

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Thats the way i see it. I dont want to encourage opposing opinions but i have to put myself first and i am in my first year of uni, i wouldnt drop everything to have a child, especially an unplanned one. It would destroy me :frown:

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Reply 12

cpj1987

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jenren22

Thats the way i see it. I dont want to encourage opposing opinions but i have to put myself first and i am in my first year of uni, i wouldnt drop everything to have a child, especially an unplanned one. It would destroy me :frown:

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I think I'd be different. I mean, hopefully I'd never be in this situation, but you can never say never. If I was to get pregnant around about now, I'd stay at university for the rest of the year (which I'm sure I'd be able to manage), then have the baby, and take a year out to bring it up myself before arranging childcare and going back to university for my final year. Luckily, if I got pregnant in my final year, I'd hopefully be able to finish anyway before the baby was born.

I definitely couldn't have an abortion though; once I had that life inside me, it would be my child and I couldn't get rid of it. I'd find a way of bringing that child up properly, and hopefully have the support of my Mum, since she got pregnant with me at 17 and would hopefully be understanding, even though I now live 200 miles away from her...

Reply 13

qubog

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fatal

I hate that, it makes me panic so much more because I know that I couldnt just go to Belfast and get it sorted :frown:

I don't really mind, I think it encourages some of the young people here to be a bit more cautious. I know I usually use two forms of contraception because I can't just go and have an abortion. (I wouldn't anyway but that's irrelevant). A lot of people in other countries think its a real breach of civil rights and whatnot but its not like there are young women all over Belfast having back street abortions

Reply 14

Number6

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dita_parlo

No unfortunately I miscarried.

Poor you

To reply to the OP - I've never been pregnant so I really don't know what I'd do. I'd like to think I'd do the best for the kid (and if that meant aborting it because I couldn't support it, then that's what's best) but I don't think anyone can know until they are in that situation.

Reply 15

LinziP123

I haven't been in that situation, but i don't agree with abortion, unless it's in extreme situations. There's plenty of contraception methods around and if you're mature enough to make a baby you should take responsibility. I don't agree with people who say it's best for the baby unless you lived in complete and utter poverty, there's a lot of help around.

Reply 16

quintsy

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I've never had an abortion, but I think if I were to become pregnant now I would probably feel almost like I had no choice but to not go through with the pregnancy. I know that sounds terrible, but I don't have the maturity or financial stability to raise a child; I've only just finished my GCSEs after all, and I go to a school where it is pretty much assumed that you will do A levels and go on to university. If I had a child I would probably see it as a sibling as opposed to my own, which wouldn't be fair. Of course, if I was pregnant I might feel like I couldn't abort it, and even if I did go through with it I'd probably think about it for the rest of my life, wondering if I made the right decision.

dita_parlo

No unfortunately I miscarried.

I'm so sorry to hear that. :hugs:

Reply 17

jenren22

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LinziP123

I haven't been in that situation, but i don't agree with abortion, unless it's in extreme situations. There's plenty of contraception methods around and if you're mature enough to make a baby you should take responsibility. I don't agree with people who say it's best for the baby unless you lived in complete and utter poverty, there's a lot of help around.

There are plenty of contraception methods around, but it doesnt mean they are all 100% effective. It is possible to get pregnant even if you are on two methods of contraception. It only takes a split of a condom or a missed pill. Even if you seriously do not want to get pregnant (like me) it can still happen.

Reply 18

Democracy

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dita_parlo

No unfortunately I miscarried.

Oh no...I'm really sorry :frown:

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

I got pregnant almost a year ago.
I was 15 and the baby was due right in the middle of my gcses.
They only way I could see myself going was the have an abortion. I mean, the school I go to, you're pretty much expected to get great A levels and go on to Uni.

But unfortunately before I got around to having an abortion, I miscarried.
And i really to hate to say it, but I was glad that I miscarried rather than went through an abortion.
And if i had had that baby, two..three, lives would have been put through a lot of hardship. I think it was for the best.

Even though it does make me sad and i sometimes i think about the baby...whether it was a boy or a girl...what it would have been like to hold...

Has anyone ever had an abortion?

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