Guy having to choose between two of us

Alright here's the situation. I really fancy this guy, we get on so well, but so does this other girl (who I'm also friends with). He told me he's taking her out later this week just as mates, to say thanks for a favour - I know that she sees it as more than this and is hoping for something to happen. This evening I was fed up of not knowing where I stood, went right out and told him what she felt and that he should tell her he sees them as just mates so no one's hurt too much. I then told him how I felt and he was like oh, ok I didn't know that and he'd have to have a think. I said there wasn't much to think about as he obviously didn't feel the same way; he said that "from a guy's point of view it's always nice to have a girlfriend you can talk to" :rolleyes:

and that he liked both of us. I said I only wanted to go out with someone that actually liked me back, not someone who just thought it was nice to have a gf. He said he'd have to have a long think and choose, and he'd tell me later by text when he's "sorted it out". :eek:

On the one hand, I don't want to put up with this crap about just wanting a girlfriend, I want someone who wants me for me. On the other hand I really care about him... I reckon he'll choose her because she lives so much closer to him and it'll pretty much be a long distance thing if it's me, especially as he apparently likes us equally. I feel kind of messed around though. I can't believe he didn't realise either of us liked him like that (I thought I'd made it completely obvious?) :s-smilie:

Sorry for the majorly long post, I'm a bit confused and don't know whether it would even be a good idea to go ahead with it if he chose me over her... it would probably end in tears seeing as he doesn't even really like me that much (although he says he does) :confused:

Argh! Opinions? Advice? Anything? :frown:

Reply 1

dobbs

From what you've said it sounds like she is the "better option" (though that's in your opinion, you may just be putting yourself down), so if he does end up 'choosing' you then surely that shows you that he does feel something for you, because you're long distance and all that - no guy would go for a long distance relationship if he didn't actually feel something for the girl.

Anyway, I think you should just wait to see what he says. He might have just said that to make you feel better, as he really likes the other girl and was looking forward to the night out (which he had claimed was just a regular night out, but was expecting it more as a date...maybe) and so is seeing what comes of it.

As I say, wait it out, if he does come around to "choosing" you then you need to talk to him and ask him why he chose you - what made him decide that you were better than her.

Reply 2

arpeggio

Thanks for the advice, it was clear from the conversation that he had absolutely no idea that she liked him though so I think he was telling the truth about that.

Hmm looks like I'll have to wait and see...