Should I quit?

Basically, my situation is that I am a young mature student (22) who had been living with a girlfriend for the past 3 years. We recently split up and I had to move out of our home and am now living in student accomodation. The reason I originally decided to go back into education was because I had a massive passion for my subject; I had a pretty good job with good prospects so coming to university was, if anything, a bad career move.

The situation I am in now is that I miss my ex very much and am hating living where I am and finding it very difficult to get on with other students and the whole 'student lifestyle'. I don't know whether it is just that I am just too used to a 'normal' life and 'normal' people or whether this whole student thing just isn't for me. My room is small and noisy and it feels like I am living in a zoo full of 18 year old monkeys who know nothing and care about nothing other than sex and getting pissed every night. Where I am living has come to feel like a prison and I am finding that my only solace is to get hopelessly drunk every night until I can sleep. I don't have anyone I can talk too and feel desperately alone. I try and connect with people but have generally found them to be naive, cold, indifferent and arrogant.

I am wondering whether it would be worth quitting university and pursuing my passion (my degree subject) in my spare time or, considering that my going back into FT education was probably a factor in my seperation with my partner (whom I miss terribly) and everything else I gave up (my own home, car, comfortable salary etc. etc.) I should try and persevere with it and hope things get better next year.

At the moment I feel pretty low and stuck and would appreciate any advice.

(Please keep this anonymous)

Reply 1

Trigger

18

If i were you, i would quit and get back to what makes you happy and pursue the degree part time. At 22 you dont want to be living with 18 year old morons. I have got myself into the same situation and i feel for you mate.

Reply 2

Carl

14

does your uni hqve postgrad only accom? It seems the root of your problem is that your roomates are intolerable, in which case, moving home will make your lifestyle a lot easier. Try talking to the Residences Office in your uni. If you love your uni subject it hardly seems worth leaving just because you live with some unruly morons.

Reply 3

matt@internet

12

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Carl

does your uni hqve postgrad only accom? It seems the root of your problem is that your roomates are intolerable, in which case, moving home will make your lifestyle a lot easier. Try talking to the Residences Office in your uni. If you love your uni subject it hardly seems worth leaving just because you live with some unruly morons.

It isn't neccesarily just my roommates, it is everyone in the building, the local pubs, the lectures, the university campus etc. I started uni last year but was living with my partner then so things weren't so bad but now I just feel so lonely. I am not able to get into the offical uni accomodation (oversubscribed + I am a late transfer from another university) and to be honest, after looking at a lot of private 'student accomodation' i.e. the only stuff I can afford; it all seems much the same.

Reply 5

Bismarck

13

Try finding a house in the general vicinity of your uni you can move into. Don't quit just because of stupid roommates. And while most uni students are like that, I think you'll be able to find like minded individuals if you try hard enough.

Reply 6

Trigger

18

Looks like im too happy to quit :redface:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Trigger

Looks like im too happy to quit :redface:

Good for you.

I think that even if quitting were the best thing to do, it is my stubborn nature that wouldn't let me do that.

Reply 8

Trigger

18

Same here

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Trigger

Shame here :hmpf:

LOL. I don't think I understand. I can't even tell if you are taking the mick.

Reply 10

Trigger

18

^o) im not taking the mick, im having the same problems you are.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Trigger

^o) im not taking the mick, im having the same problems you are.

In that case I apologise.

Reply 12

Purple

18

I know how you feel eventhough I am supposed to be younger than all my flatmates :rolleyes:

Reply 13

Trigger

18

No worries, weirdest convo all night.

Reply 14

as cruel as school children

10

Anonymous

Basically, my situation is that I am a young mature student (22) who had been living with a girlfriend for the past 3 years. We recently split up and I had to move out of our home and am now living in student accomodation. The reason I originally decided to go back into education was because I had a massive passion for my subject; I had a pretty good job with good prospects so coming to university was, if anything, a bad career move.

The situation I am in now is that I miss my ex very much and am hating living where I am and finding it very difficult to get on with other students and the whole 'student lifestyle'. I don't know whether it is just that I am just too used to a 'normal' life and 'normal' people or whether this whole student thing just isn't for me. My room is small and noisy and it feels like I am living in a zoo full of 18 year old monkeys who know nothing and care about nothing other than sex and getting pissed every night. Where I am living has come to feel like a prison and I am finding that my only solace is to get hopelessly drunk every night until I can sleep. I don't have anyone I can talk too and feel desperately alone. I try and connect with people but have generally found them to be naive, cold, indifferent and arrogant.

I am wondering whether it would be worth quitting university and pursuing my passion (my degree subject) in my spare time or, considering that my going back into FT education was probably a factor in my seperation with my partner (whom I miss terribly) and everything else I gave up (my own home, car, comfortable salary etc. etc.) I should try and persevere with it and hope things get better next year.

At the moment I feel pretty low and stuck and would appreciate any advice.

(Please keep this anonymous)

no offence, but what did you expect? i'm sorry that it is affecting your studies and that it didn't work out with the missus, but that's what uni life is all about -- getting wasted and laid

Reply 15

Bismarck

13

Pulling A Fast One

no offence, but what did you expect? i'm sorry that it is affecting your studies and that it didn't work out with the missus, but that's what uni life is all about -- getting wasted and laid

Maybe he thought students actually used their brain more often than a certain other body part?

Reply 16

Trigger

18

Pulling A Fast One

no offence, but what did you expect? i'm sorry that it is affecting your studies and that it didn't work out with the missus, but that's what uni life is all about -- getting wasted and laid