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Can't cope at uni anymore

Bubbly_blonde

Im just over a month into my university life and i really not liking it, is anyone else in the same position as me?

Reply 1

miki_da_magpie

2

Why dont you like it?

Reply 2

Bubbly_blonde

OP

No one seems to want to talk to me and im trying soo hard to make new friends also im running out of money and i want to go home i really do.

Reply 3

miki_da_magpie

2

Hm, Im sure people are not-not wanting to talk to you. Do you live in halls or flats? Are you in any societies yet? Most of my friends (outside my housemates) are either from my course or from societies im in. Running out of money? Yea, think most student have that problem, you're definately not alone in that. Do you have a student loan? Have you looked for a job yet? Do you like your course?
Its sounds as if you jsut havent settled down comfortably yet. The first few months of uni are really hectic, I know its easy to feel lost and want to give up. Try to find some positives in what youre doing. Go to some events you like doing and you should be able to find people that have the same interests as you and such?

Reply 4

ObsidianExon

Don't worry about it, settling in to a new environment is always difficult. Just make sure you keep in touch with your family so you don't feel totally alone, and then be more forward and try and make new friends where you are. You'll be fine when you settle in.

Reply 5

nanananabatman

10

What uni are you at?

It's hard, I thought I would make a load more friends in the 4 weeks I've been here but I haven't, but the ones I've made apart from my hallmates...they're because I steppped out and did the hard work of finding them.

P.S. We're all running out of money, it's simply ridiculous. :biggrin:

Reply 6

Bubbly_blonde

OP

Im trying soooo hard its just really difficult im considering transferring next year.

Reply 7

user name taken

You transferring closer to home?

Reply 8

Tianbao

1

which uni are u?????

Reply 9

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

13

OP - I am in my 7th week of my first year and at the beginning I hated it. Felt like I was different to everyone and was finding it so hard to connect with people. All the people I spoke to in the first couple of days turned out to be really into drugs etc, which I'm not, so kind of lost touch with them. But! A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a few people and admitted how I felt and they all said the same. Even though it looks like people are in these close-knit groups and completely happy, many others feel lost and lonely, just like you. I still miss home, and my 'real' friends, but I am starting to settle in much more now, and have met some really great people. You need to relax and talk to as many people as you can, and I am sure you will feel better. Don't make a decision as huge as leaving so early on; at least wait til Christmas!

Reply 10

Ellie1989

everyones in the same position hun. before u start uni u get it in ur head that ur flat mates are gonna be ur best mates throughout and ull make friends straight away, but its not true. its harder to make friends yes, but u soon will. get to know more people on ur course, if u open up and say like ''do u mind if i sit here, i dont really know anyone ...''etc etc then u can get to know people, they could even be livin in the same acomodation as u.

ive been goin home quite alot recently but now im forcing ymself not to go home untill christmas because in the end i know its only gonna make it worse for my life here in liverpool. uni is hard, no matter how much the media say its a doddle, and we're on all this free money etc, thats all crap, i have no loans, grants tuition fees yet! therefore i dont eat much.

Reply 11

Thud

17

How are you running out of money if you have no mates? Most people run out because they go out too much...

Secondly, you're there to study not to make thousands of friends and go out getting pissed out of your head everynight.

Reply 12

Juwel

18

Bah, don't worry about not making so many friends at uni. Students are so banal!

But to be more helpful, I was like this all those years ago. No friends up here, longing to have the laughs with the friends I left behind. But it worked out, I made some friends on my course and eventually got comfortable enough to be myself. So I guess you should just hang in there. And don't give up before you've even begun.

Reply 13

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

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Thud

How are you running out of money if you have no mates? Most people run out because they go out too much...

Secondly, you're there to study not to make thousands of friends and go out getting pissed out of your head everynight.

That's true, but you still need friends, for support and a social life. The OP didn't say she wanted someone to get pissed with every night, she just wants to have people to talk to. Besides, you can still study without staying in your room all the time!

Reply 14

Ellie1989

ur not at uni to be lonely and hate it though .. im sorry but ur post came across a bit unfair

Reply 15

evil groove

You have to stick it out, as Juwel said.

Reply 16

Thud

17

NobodyReally

That's true, but you still need friends, for support and a social life. The OP didn't say she wanted someone to get pissed with every night, she just wants to have people to talk to. Besides, you can still study without staying in your room all the time!