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Stuck in a rut and no idea were to turn next

Hey, i just want to ask for anybodys advice. I left school after 5th year (not quite sure what that is in england lol) with pretty good exam results. I have however managed to push anyone who I could ever call a friend as far away as possible. I have no motivation to do anything and the thought of just going out the front door is seeming pretty impossible. I don't really know why I'm feeling like this, I feel very sad all the time and just not wanting to do anything. I want to be able to pick myself up, get a job instead of sitting round the house all day but I just don't have the confidence or motivation to do anything about it. Im a very shy and nervous person and i want that to be gone, i want to feel worth something.
I could go on all day but I don't want to depress you too much lol. If anyone has any advice it would be very appreciated

Reply 1

SmuUsh

Anonymous

Hey, i just want to ask for anybodys advice. I left school after 5th year (not quite sure what that is in england lol) with pretty good exam results. I have however managed to push anyone who I could ever call a friend as far away as possible. I have no motivation to do anything and the thought of just going out the front door is seeming pretty impossible. I don't really know why I'm feeling like this, I feel very sad all the time and just not wanting to do anything. I want to be able to pick myself up, get a job instead of sitting round the house all day but I just don't have the confidence or motivation to do anything about it. Im a very shy and nervous person and i want that to be gone, i want to feel worth something.
I could go on all day but I don't want to depress you too much lol. If anyone has any advice it would be very appreciated

Firstly

Secondly, It can be a big world out there lots of corners lots of troubles lots of dangers, I know what its like. It can be scary but taking small seps at a time will help in the long run. Being shy complicates life a lot. Maybe contact some of your old friends ask them round, tell them how your feeling and maybe ask them for help. Having a friend nearby to fall back on is the greatest support you can get. Organise days out even if its just to a park, or to town or just out and about getting out will bring your confidence, go to small youuth clubs and maybe make some new friends.

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SmuUsh

Also If you want you can contact me through pm or msn if you wish i am willing to help if you need, no matter what the problem.

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Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Hey, i just want to ask for anybodys advice. I left school after 5th year (not quite sure what that is in england lol) with pretty good exam results. I have however managed to push anyone who I could ever call a friend as far away as possible. I have no motivation to do anything and the thought of just going out the front door is seeming pretty impossible. I don't really know why I'm feeling like this, I feel very sad all the time and just not wanting to do anything. I want to be able to pick myself up, get a job instead of sitting round the house all day but I just don't have the confidence or motivation to do anything about it. Im a very shy and nervous person and i want that to be gone, i want to feel worth something.
I could go on all day but I don't want to depress you too much lol. If anyone has any advice it would be very appreciated

Same situation.

It's a difficult rut to get out of. I have no clue what to do with myself.

Reply 4

Stealth-Mode

13

it sounds like depression. a doctor may have some suggstions :smile:

Reply 5

Sarahl89

15

Stealth-Mode

it sounds like depression. a doctor may have some suggstions :smile:

I've read a couple of threads lately where the OP has described their problem & someone or other has come up with the useful advice 'sounds like depression'.
Aside from the fact that from my experience, doctors are pretty crap with depression anyway, i think thats a stupid suggestion to make the the OP. its not gonna make them feel any better, pumping drugs into their system to 'cure' depression is absolutely no long term cure, and can make people think its not their responsibility so much to overcome their problems cause the illness is being treated. also hearing someone suggest you have depression is enough to panic anyone isnt it. :rolleyes:

OP i know how you feel. i get terribly illogically nervous sometimes, hate the prospect of exposing myself to new situations when theres loads of people, parties etc. i even start to feel physically ill when faced with things like that sometimes, more so in the past than nowadays.

i think its all about your attitude personally, i dunno how it happened but one day i just thought 'why should i have to feel like this?'. i decided i wouldnt let other peoples opinions / presence (or the thought of them) stop me from doing whati want to do, and although i still do worry about stuff like this sometimes its got alot better.

my advice would be to keep a positive attitude & take small steps to do more things that you want to do out of the house etc., make yourself face new & difficult situations and eventually they may not seem so difficult anymore. Pretend like you're confident & put on a front / show so people believe you are, and one day you'll realise youre not putting on a show anymore.
It is difficult but it really can help you to build up your confidence like that :smile:

i used to lack in motivation & all that too, but ive found that if i keep myself busy i kindve tend to forget about that now too :hugs:

on the other hand, maybe it is depression or something and seeing your doctor or having councelling may help.. people are different so you need to find the best way for you personally to solve this, though i cant vouch for councelling/drugs myself cause im simply too stubborn for my own good to admit i need help from someone else, i have to prove i can do things myself instead lol :rolleyes:

good luck OP, hope you can overcome this cause i know how horrible a situation it is to be in :frown:

xxxxxx

Reply 6

Stealth-Mode

13

Sarahl89

I've read a couple of threads lately where the OP has described their problem & someone or other has come up with the useful advice 'sounds like depression'.
Aside from the fact that from my experience, doctors are pretty crap with depression anyway, i think thats a stupid suggestion to make the the OP. its not gonna make them feel any better, pumping drugs into their system to 'cure' depression is absolutely no long term cure, and can make people think its not their responsibility so much to overcome their problems cause the illness is being treated. also hearing someone suggest you have depression is enough to panic anyone isnt it. :rolleyes:

OP i know how you feel. i get terribly illogically nervous sometimes, hate the prospect of exposing myself to new situations when theres loads of people, parties etc. i even start to feel physically ill when faced with things like that sometimes, more so in the past than nowadays.

i think its all about your attitude personally, i dunno how it happened but one day i just thought 'why should i have to feel like this?'. i decided i wouldnt let other peoples opinions / presence (or the thought of them) stop me from doing whati want to do, and although i still do worry about stuff like this sometimes its got alot better.

my advice would be to keep a positive attitude & take small steps to do more things that you want to do out of the house etc., make yourself face new & difficult situations and eventually they may not seem so difficult anymore. Pretend like you're confident & put on a front / show so people believe you are, and one day you'll realise youre not putting on a show anymore.
It is difficult but it really can help you to build up your confidence like that :smile:

i used to lack in motivation & all that too, but ive found that if i keep myself busy i kindve tend to forget about that now too :hugs:

on the other hand, maybe it is depression or something and seeing your doctor or having councelling may help.. people are different so you need to find the best way for you personally to solve this, though i cant vouch for councelling/drugs myself cause im simply too stubborn for my own good to admit i need help from someone else, i have to prove i can do things myself instead lol :rolleyes:

good luck OP, hope you can overcome this cause i know how horrible a situation it is to be in :frown:

xxxxxx

get a grip please. I didn't mean that the OP should be pumped with drugs :rolleyes:

doctors have moved on quite a lot since the victorian times dear. I was actually thinking of counselling and perhaps some groups that the doctor could put the op in contact with (other people in similar situations/frames of mind- make friendships and swop advice).

It's no use just saying 'take some baby steps', 'just try harder' and giving cyber hugs, the OP isn't stupid, nor a litlle child- the OP really sounds as of he'she could be depressed which is a real disorder that plagues a lot of people either from time to time, or moreso in some cases,- that doesn't mean the end of the world, it is not meant to scare the OP just to let him'her no there are professions more qualified to deal with his/her problems (if indeed there really is any) than a bunch of teenagers on a internet messageboard.

Reply 7

Sarahl89

15

im sure they have moved on since the victorian times yes :rolleyes:

but from my experience they are often more willing to simply prescribe something or dismiss it as nothing than to bother with referrals etc., and i know we dont like to think it nowadays, but doctors do still occasionally prescribe drugs they know v little about, and/or make educated guesses of diagnoses. =/.

i realise the OP isnt stupid. you might also like to note that they HAVE come to a bunch of teenagers on an internet messageboard for advice. so i was giving them my advice. And seeing as you have already pointed out how they arent stupid, im sure the OP knows that we arent professionals & that professionals do exist. i did also say that different things work for different people, and maybe councelling etc. would work better for them.

Reply 8

Stealth-Mode

13

it seems that you have experienced some below par doctors, they are not all like that.

OP- you can always ask to see a different doctor if you feel yours isn't receptive or helpful :smile:

- but please do try and speak to your parents/family members about your feelings- i know thats probably the lst thing you want to do but it's uasually cathartic. A counselor/group may be helpful. Whatever you do be pro-active in finding help/solutions

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Hey thanks for replying, It is all very good advice :smile:

Stop your argueing tho lol :p:

I have thought about going to the doctor recently but never really got round to doing it coz I am too nervous too and would have no clue what to say! And I would be too embarassed to tell my mum why i was going, coz she would deffo ask!

I do want to tell someone what I'm feeling but i just can't - I never have been very open and nobody has ever really known the real me I don't think, I guess I'm too scared to show that 4 some reason :s-smilie:

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I think meeting people in a similar situation to me would be very benificial actually..because then I would be around people that totally understand me. So maybe trying to get some counselling or whatever would be a good thing. I guess it's taking that first step that's gonna make things change ( and the first step is the hardest one) Maybe I should just put on a brave face and get over it! (Haah wishfull thinking)

Dya know what.. I actually feel a bit better already, just by getting it off my chest, I know its just on some online forum but hey better than nothing!

Btw Ive decided i will take my dog on a walk tomorow, get out the house, and maybe I'll bump into someone I know! (That sounds so pathetic, that taking the dog on a walk is a hard thing for me to do :frown:

)!

xxxxx

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