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Help!!! I stress too much

Please do not de-anon me as many of my friends go on this forum and this is a personal issue which i like to keep to myself but ask others for advice.
hi, I think i stress over every little things, this then leads me to not focus properly or do anything right. I am generally a stressed out person and even other people have said i stress to much. I find it really hard to cope with uni and other work and find that coz am doing law it is one of the hardest sucjects. I got too much reading to do and find that i never get it done due to me being stressed out all the time. I feel that its taking over my life and i cannot concentrate properly. Family problems also get in the way as my family expects too much of me to clean and tidy up and do the washing and that. I tell them i have work to do but they think i overdo it. I consider myself as thick sometimes as i can never understand anything properly it takes me ages to understand something or i have to keep going over it. I know am not dylexia or something as i did get full marks on spome of the modules in A levels i do not have a problem with spelling or handwriting. I really do not know what my problem is. I am quite inconfident and feel extremely shy around people and i think i tend to care what people think of me. And recently i notice if i have a opinion about something i tend to not say until someone says it as i think i will be wrong. I do want to be a good lawyer someday but i think this issue will get in my way i mean how can i fight peoples cases if i get stressed out myself and find it hard to cope. Some people think i tend to be hard on myself and i agree that most of my freinds think that as well but i really want to do good. I want to get good greades and even though i get ok grades i think they are not good enough. Please can you help me

Reply 1

people's confidence changes all the time i think. so if you try to think about it less then i think it could help, or its a bit of a vicious circle, yknow?

Reply 2

Anonymous
Please do not de-anon me as many of my friends go on this forum and this is a personal issue which i like to keep to myself but ask others for advice.
hi, I think i stress over every little things, this then leads me to not focus properly or do anything right. I am generally a stressed out person and even other people have said i stress to much. I find it really hard to cope with uni and other work and find that coz am doing law it is one of the hardest sucjects. I got too much reading to do and find that i never get it done due to me being stressed out all the time. I feel that its taking over my life and i cannot concentrate properly. Family problems also get in the way as my family expects too much of me to clean and tidy up and do the washing and that. I tell them i have work to do but they think i overdo it. I consider myself as thick sometimes as i can never understand anything properly it takes me ages to understand something or i have to keep going over it. I know am not dylexia or something as i did get full marks on spome of the modules in A levels i do not have a problem with spelling or handwriting. I really do not know what my problem is. I am quite inconfident and feel extremely shy around people and i think i tend to care what people think of me. And recently i notice if i have a opinion about something i tend to not say until someone says it as i think i will be wrong. I do want to be a good lawyer someday but i think this issue will get in my way i mean how can i fight peoples cases if i get stressed out myself and find it hard to cope. Some people think i tend to be hard on myself and i agree that most of my freinds think that as well but i really want to do good. I want to get good greades and even though i get ok grades i think they are not good enough. Please can you help me


is it ok if i ask you to PM me please ?
do you do anything which helps you to relax?

Reply 4

I also stress over everything too. I recommend Bach's Rescue Remedy and and a relaxation technique (I can give you my example if you'd like it)

Reply 5

Anonymous
Please do not de-anon me as many of my friends go on this forum and this is a personal issue which i like to keep to myself but ask others for advice.
hi, I think i stress over every little things, this then leads me to not focus properly or do anything right. I am generally a stressed out person and even other people have said i stress to much. I find it really hard to cope with uni and other work and find that coz am doing law it is one of the hardest sucjects. I got too much reading to do and find that i never get it done due to me being stressed out all the time. I feel that its taking over my life and i cannot concentrate properly. Family problems also get in the way as my family expects too much of me to clean and tidy up and do the washing and that. I tell them i have work to do but they think i overdo it. I consider myself as thick sometimes as i can never understand anything properly it takes me ages to understand something or i have to keep going over it. I know am not dylexia or something as i did get full marks on spome of the modules in A levels i do not have a problem with spelling or handwriting. I really do not know what my problem is. I am quite inconfident and feel extremely shy around people and i think i tend to care what people think of me. And recently i notice if i have a opinion about something i tend to not say until someone says it as i think i will be wrong. I do want to be a good lawyer someday but i think this issue will get in my way i mean how can i fight peoples cases if i get stressed out myself and find it hard to cope. Some people think i tend to be hard on myself and i agree that most of my freinds think that as well but i really want to do good. I want to get good greades and even though i get ok grades i think they are not good enough. Please can you help me


You sound exactly like me mate. I then end up stressing rather than working and it's just a vicious cycle. I also won't voice my opinion untill someone has said it becasue I am scared of looking stupid. I think we need to just think realistically, set smaller targets maybe and work on slef confidence within our studies...all easier said than done though isn't it!

Reply 6

I can relate to you. I want to be a lawyer one day just like you! Right now I'm in a program that is academically challenging. Thus as a result, stress is something I have as well. In the long term, stress can start to take effects on you physically not only mentally.

What you should do is find time, maybe an hour each day, just to get some R&R. Plan. Yes law is a hard course, but many have been in your position and got through it. I'm sure you will make a great lawyer but because you stress, you are only making things harder for yourself. When you do activities, try to only focus on that one activity. Take your time so you understand your work. It might be hard in the beginning but over time you will adjust.

I've lost a lot of weight due to stress, I'm not sure if you have, but if so eat more and I mean healthy of course. Believe it or not, exercising actually helps with stress.

We all have family problems, but of couse I don't know to what extent it is in your case. Just bare in mind that you are in university which is a vital part to establishing your career. If you miss them, there are ways to communicate. If there are any conflicts, focus all those negative emotions and put it into your work. You can also talk to that family member regarding the issue.

I am just as shy as you are and the truth is it's something I'm working on. Universty has just startd so I presume that you haven't made much friends yet. But uni has just begun. When you get time, socialize. You're not the only student feeling this way. As for being afraid to say what you think, I am also like that. Break the ice when meeting people. Learn to believe in yourself. You can't change your self-esteem overnight, but it wil happen gradually.

Wow this post is longer than I thought it would be. But I hope it helps. :smile: