He's cheated....but were going on hol!

Ok so my boyfriend has cheated on me a few weeks ago and i found out yesterday. I really want to finish him and everything but we are going on holiday together for christmas and new year! What shall I do? I think iv got 2 options....

1) Go as friends...which is going to be extremely difficult and awkward.
2) Try and make things work for the sake of the holiday and decide what to do when I get back.

HELP!

xx

Reply 1

qubog

12

3) Dont go on holiday with him?

Reply 2

Llamaaa

15

could you take his ticket off him and take a friend instead if you don't want to lose your money?

Reply 3

JanuaryGirlxx07

OP

No because he is the one who booked it and then later booked for me to go with him so its all in his name etc. I can't not go because my parents are away the same time and I cant spend xmas at home on my own! Lol.

Reply 4

thebarmaidsmiles

I stayed with a guy because of a holiday once, the ****er got one of his rages on and hit me in a party a month or so before and I hated him but didn't want to drop the holiday so we went anyway (I still don't think my parents have quite forgiven me for this hah...).

It basically lengthened our shi**y relationship another year, because the holiday was great, idyllic. Two of us alone in Paris, away from reality. Yeah well reality starts when you're back! The number of times we used the phrase 'Yes but remember Paris...' during another fallout...

Please please don't stay with this guy if it's just the holiday that's keeping you in the same place, and definately don't go with the intention of being 'friends'. You honestly think that once you're alone together, away from normal life and restrictions you're both going to be platonic? Sharing a room?

My mother offered to take this guy's place on the holiday and I freaked out thinking it would be awful, I really wish I had!! (Though she is a crazy lady and snores like a tractor) Holidays are one offs, but a relationship still has to go up and around the trip. Think really hard. My cranky I-don't-want-to-go-to-lectures bad mood opinion right now is don't go, or go with a friend, but it is your call.

And give the git hell from me.

Reply 5

h82think

14

Go on holiday, look amazing, then infront of your (ex)bf (on holiday) make out with the fittest guy you can find!

Reply 6

JanuaryGirlxx07

OP

Yeah but like I said, not going is not an option at all. I have to go whether its as friends or relationship. I was thinking of going as a couple then finishing him when we got back just to avoid the awkwardness of 'friends' which we have tried in the past and failed.

We have said before that if we split up we wouldnt be able to see each other because when we are around each other its impossible to be friends if you get what Im saying. But as we are going on holiday and have to spend 2 weeks together....I just think it would be easier to be together.

I cant forgive him for it though and put it this way...it's not the first time. But on the other hand, I dont want him to think Im being a mug and taking him back AGAIN..!

Reply 7

JanuaryGirlxx07

OP

h82think

Go on holiday, look amazing, then infront of your (ex)bf (on holiday) make out with the fittest guy you can find!

Thats exactly what his mum has told me to do! :smile:

Reply 8

$loth

1

helenkr

could you take his ticket off him and take a friend instead if you don't want to lose your money?

Agree with you. If I were I wouldn't go on holiday with him.

Reply 9

Varsity

13

Why would you want to go on holiday with him? Dump the prick.

Reply 10

D-Day

10

JanuaryGirlxx07

Thats exactly what his mum has told me to do! :smile:

I like the way his mum thinks ;yes;

Reply 11

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JanuaryGirlxx07

Yeah but like I said, not going is not an option at all.

If you are old enough to go on holiday with your boyfriend, then you are old enough to manage a week or two at home alone, whether it's Christmas or not. You're a mug to consider going on the holiday at all, and it is a sign that you can be walked all over.

Reply 12

Varsity

13

3232

If you are old enough to go on holiday with your boyfriend, then you are old enough to manage a week or two at home alone, whether it's Christmas or not. You're a mug to consider going on the holiday at all, and it is a sign that you can be walked all over.

Read that to yourself 5 times before bed. And kick your boyfriend in the balls for giving us blokes a bad name!

Reply 13

sweetfloss

15

Either take his ticket and go with a friend, or make him pay for your ticket and go on another holiday with a friend. Don't go with him - he sounds like a right ******

Reply 14

JanuaryGirlxx07

OP

3232

If you are old enough to go on holiday with your boyfriend, then you are old enough to manage a week or two at home alone, whether it's Christmas or not. You're a mug to consider going on the holiday at all, and it is a sign that you can be walked all over.

But Im 16 I dont want to spend christmas at home on my own!

And people..! I said...i cannot take his ticket or whatever...he is the one who booked it aaages ago and then in September invited me to go. So its in his name...hes going with family and I am now going. Yeah?

Reply 15

Varsity

13

Why would you be alone? Do you not have any family to spend xams with?

Its your choice, but if someone cheated on me, I would not be going on holiday with them.

Reply 16

D-Day

10

Bad idea to go, but it sounds like your mind is set. Arguing you on it is somewhat of a moot point. Have fun :smile:

Reply 17

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JanuaryGirlxx07

But Im 16 I dont want to spend christmas at home on my own!

So find somewhere else to be, there are two months left. There must be somewhere else you can spend it, family, friends etc? It is a little sad to simply be going on holiday with someone you probably hate and want to break up with, yet will still pretend to be in a relationship with, just so you don't have to be alone. You're 16, it's time to start growing up.

Reply 18

thebarmaidsmiles

Hmm I'm not sure what more can be said, did you say HIS mother suggested you pull someone? Or did I misread that...? So are you going with his family, because they should have some idea of what's happened before you go I'd imagine, I'd hate to be stuck for two weeks pretending their son was an angel...

Reply 19

Donald Duck

15

sweetfloss

Either take his ticket and go with a friend, or make him pay for your ticket and go on another holiday with a friend. Don't go with him - he sounds like a right ******

Now if the guy payed for the tickets, why should he give his ticket away or buy another for someone else? He might be a prick, but thats still rediculous

He's cheated....but were going on hol!

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