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why do guys on here keep claiming that women lie about personality being important?

I have seen this here so many times so here I am just wondering...why is that?
In real life I have never heard a women saying she only care about personality. Personality may be the most important thing but it's not the only thing we look for. Personality is only important when it comes to friendship but when it comes to a partner we also look for attraction, intelligence, financial stability.
But yet on here you get some guys saying "Don't let women lie to you they also care about looks and money"...Well what women doesn't?? Some care a lot more than others whilst some don't care as much. Guys have high standards when it comes to looks too but women don't complain. But on here guys complain about this all the time which confuses me too.

I just find it weird as I am only seeing it here but why do guys on here keep saying this?
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Original post by loveleest
I have seen this here so many times so here I am just wondering...why is that?
In real life I have never heard a women saying she only care about personality. Personality may be the most important thing but it's not the only thing we look for. Personality is only important when it comes to friendship but when it comes to a partner we also look for attraction, intelligence, financial stability.
But yet on here you get some guys saying "Don't let women lie to you they also care about looks and money"...Well what women doesn't?? Some care a lot more than others whilst some don't care at all. Guys have high standards when it comes to looks too but women don't complain. But on here guys complain about this all the time which confuses me too.

I just find it weird as I am only seeing it here but why do guys on here keep saying this?


Normally unhappy guys that cant get a gf. They often believe they have the looks that make them a catch , but overlook their own personalities or effort in dating.
Theres also the guys who allegedly have a nice personality, but complain they are overlooked for the bad boys and it is so unfair.

They vent at women instead of looking at themselves and getting their game together.
Guys that use a student forum regularly are more likely to not be a hit with the gals, and guys who aren't a hit have a high chance of getting bitter about it and end up deciding that their lack of success is the women's fault, thus all women are evil for having normal expectations.
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Original post by loveleest
I have seen this here so many times so here I am just wondering...why is that?
In real life I have never heard a women saying she only care about personality. Personality may be the most important thing but it's not the only thing we look for. Personality is only important when it comes to friendship but when it comes to a partner we also look for attraction, intelligence, financial stability.
But yet on here you get some guys saying "Don't let women lie to you they also care about looks and money"...Well what women doesn't?? Some care a lot more than others whilst some don't care at all. Guys have high standards when it comes to looks too but women don't complain. But on here guys complain about this all the time which confuses me too.

I just find it weird as I am only seeing it here but why do guys on here keep saying this?


someone finally said it *claps*
Original post by Retired_Messiah
Guys that use a student forum regularly are more likely to not be a hit with the gals, and guys who aren't a hit have a high chance of getting bitter about it and end up deciding that their lack of success is the women's fault, thus all women are evil for having normal expectations.


Excuse me,
Im a hit with the ladies
My mum even said she loved me...most of the time
Because loads of the guys on here are creepy as ****.

It is best not to listen to them.
Reply 6
Original post by glad-he-ate-her
Excuse me,
Im a hit with the ladies
My mum even said she loved me...most of the time


your name makes me laugh everytime i see you post.
Original post by loveleest
I have seen this here so many times so here I am just wondering...why is that?
In real life I have never heard a women saying she only care about personality. Personality may be the most important thing but it's not the only thing we look for. Personality is only important when it comes to friendship but when it comes to a partner we also look for attraction, intelligence, financial stability.
But yet on here you get some guys saying "Don't let women lie to you they also care about looks and money"...Well what women doesn't?? Some care a lot more than others whilst some don't care as much. Guys have high standards when it comes to looks too but women don't complain. But on here guys complain about this all the time which confuses me too.

I just find it weird as I am only seeing it here but why do guys on here keep saying this?


I would say they have had negative experiences with women to do with this kind of thing IRL. Some women would lie about this stuff as well as men too. And not all guys have high standards, that is called generalising which makes you on the verge of becoming as bad as these men saying women lie about personality. (Just my opinion, but I would not complain it is not like you can do anything about others opinions, it is just how they are.) (I also don't get why people can't get along, always have to score points with the petty gender stereotypes.)
It's a thing ugly guys do to make them feel better, always argue that they've got a personality so why can't women love them for that. Then I turn around and say well ugly women have nice personalities too but you only seem to be interested in beautiful women liking you for your personality, what's up with that? Bloody hypocrites.

Most people know the score. Ugly people just say this stuff to delude themselves.
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Original post by monkeyman0121
I would say they have had negative experiences with women to do with this kind of thing IRL. Some women would lie about this stuff as well as men too. And not all guys have high standards, that is called generalising which makes you on the verge of becoming as bad as these men saying women lie about personality. (Just my opinion, but I would not complain it is not like you can do anything about others opinions, it is just how they are.) (I also don't get why people can't get along, always have to score points with the petty gender stereotypes.)


No, I mean like guys call women shallow or having "high standards" for basic things for relationships.
Like wanting a guy you find at least a little bit attractive and having a decent income is too much for men.
It's just weird because it's only on here I see guys claiming women are lying about only wanting personality but I've never met a women irl that have said this.

And btw,I meant that guys are allowed to have high standards without getting judged the way women do. I never said every guy has high standards...I hope you understand the difference.
Who cares what anybody writes here regarding women. Most are clueless. This obsession with trying to get girls is so boring and should stop.
Original post by Meany Pie
Because loads of the guys on here are creepy as ****.

It is best not to listen to them.


Oi! No need to be mean AGAIN! :cry2::cry2::cry2:

Listen to some things we say...:colondollar:
Original post by Kraggor
Oi! No need to be mean AGAIN! :cry2::cry2::cry2:

Listen to some things we say...:colondollar:


Really? That was one I had earlier.

You really are one annoying smug *****.

Go **** yourself.
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Original post by stefano865
Most women can’t spread their legs fast enough to take a homunculus load of pure thug semen. Women at the core are receptacles, and once they detect a thug in their vicinity they ache to be put in their place by the thug. They know that the thug will violate them much like they violate the rights of others via petty thefts, burglaries, robberies etc…

Women latch to thugs because they get substantially more sexual gratification from them when compared to average men. The enhanced sexual gratification is because of the added drama and the innate sociopathology of the thug—women are extremely turned on by the prospect of being seen and used as an object—thugs excel in this dimension. Women can also claim to be victims after the relationship ends. There is also the added factor that water seeks its own level—women at the core are thugs in a passive aggressive way. The only difference is that women connive while thugs confront. Both a thug and a woman are after your stuff/money.

A woman’s real dream in life is to spawn as many offspring as possible with a rich and successful thug. Women don’t care if their man is harming others to bring in money—they only care if their reputation is affected by their man’s actions (e.g. virtue signaling). The irony of course is that a rich and successful thug is a near impossible find, so most women will settle for thug semen and subsequently extract resources from men that are not thugs.

It is important to note however that many men will posture themselves to be like thugs just to get sex with women. This is why one can’t assume that a man is a thug just because he speaks/dresses like a thug. The woman’s intellect is easily bypassed, hence the popularity of thug-posturing. As a MGTOW, I don’t change my sense of self to get sex with women. Thug-posturing is indicative of a withered sense of self.

The beauty of MGTOW with regards to women and thugs is the gift of DGAF. 18 year old Daisy can spawn little Skeeter, Jamal Jr, and Dale II while I write a song and go mountain biking. After Daisy becomes a single mom her progeny will likely become thugs as they move into adolescence. It’s the circle of thugs.


This was so extra and doesn't make any sense...but okay.
Original post by loveleest
No, I mean like guys call women shallow or having "high standards" for basic things for relationships.
Like wanting a guy you find at least a little bit attractive and having a decent income is too much for men.
It's just weird because it's only on here I see guys claiming women are lying about only wanting personality but I've never met a women irl that have said this.

And btw, I meant that guys are allowed to have high standards without getting judged the way women do. I never said every guy has high standards...I hope you understand the difference.


Everyone has their preferences and standards. To really be in love you have to 100% experience it to know what it feels like. Once people have experienced it, Money and looks do not matter at all. (Looks may matter a small bit as some will fall in love with people because of looks as well as other things.)

I understand the difference, and it still applies that you're generalising about this stuff. People judge others all the time for having high standards. Just because you have not experienced it does not make it untrue. I have noticed some men who would not go out with another because of high standards. The person they did not fit their standards would fit most people's standards. They just don't see love in that person I guess.

All I am saying is that people will be judged differently all the time. Not all women are judged for having high standards, the same for men.
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Original post by stefano865
Most women can’t spread their legs fast enough to take a homunculus load of pure thug semen. Women at the core are receptacles, and once they detect a thug in their vicinity they ache to be put in their place by the thug. They know that the thug will violate them much like they violate the rights of others via petty thefts, burglaries, robberies etc…

Women latch to thugs because they get substantially more sexual gratification from them when compared to average men. The enhanced sexual gratification is because of the added drama and the innate sociopathology of the thug—women are extremely turned on by the prospect of being seen and used as an object—thugs excel in this dimension. Women can also claim to be victims after the relationship ends. There is also the added factor that water seeks its own level—women at the core are thugs in a passive aggressive way. The only difference is that women connive while thugs confront. Both a thug and a woman are after your stuff/money.

A woman’s real dream in life is to spawn as many offspring as possible with a rich and successful thug. Women don’t care if their man is harming others to bring in money—they only care if their reputation is affected by their man’s actions (e.g. virtue signaling). The irony of course is that a rich and successful thug is a near impossible find, so most women will settle for thug semen and subsequently extract resources from men that are not thugs.

It is important to note however that many men will posture themselves to be like thugs just to get sex with women. This is why one can’t assume that a man is a thug just because he speaks/dresses like a thug. The woman’s intellect is easily bypassed, hence the popularity of thug-posturing. As a MGTOW, I don’t change my sense of self to get sex with women. Thug-posturing is indicative of a withered sense of self.

The beauty of MGTOW with regards to women and thugs is the gift of DGAF. 18 year old Daisy can spawn little Skeeter, Jamal Jr, and Dale II while I write a song and go mountain biking. After Daisy becomes a single mom her progeny will likely become thugs as they move into adolescence. It’s the circle of thugs.


& where would you say the root of all this derived from? surely its not human nature to want the type of guy you just described. Would you say social media has put these beliefs subconsciously into the head of a woman? You say you are a MGTOW but don't you think you could benefit much more by "playing the game" like Alan watts said. (clearly he didn't mean woman, but life in general) to know it and to play it.
Original post by loveleest
This was so extra and doesn't make any sense...but okay.




Well it was a joke. :tongue:

I think where guys are coming from with this is witnessing women shacking up with unsavoury guys. Let's not deny that in the end a guy with a conviction and confidence will do better than a quiet nerdy guy with no confidence.

I suppose this is sort of where the idea that girls don't value kindness and intelligence etc as much comes from.
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Original post by monkeyman0121
Everyone has their preferences and standards. To really be in love you have to 100% experience it to know what it feels like. Once people have experienced it, Money and looks do not matter at all. (Looks may matter a small bit as some will fall in love with people because of looks as well as other things.)

I understand the difference, and it still applies that you're generalising about this stuff. People judge others all the time for having high standards. Just because you have not experienced it does not make it untrue. I have noticed some men who would not go out with another because of high standards. The person they did not fit their standards would fit most people's standards. They just don't see love in that person I guess.

All I am saying is that people will be judged differently all the time. Not all women are judged for having high standards, the same for men.


It matters to the vast majority of women to some extent. How does only being a nice guy work?
You contradicted yourself by saying everyone has their own standards and prefences (which is true) but then said that money and looks do not matter.
Original post by Meany Pie
Really? That was one I had earlier.


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