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Why does she have friends and not me?! Also just rant about friendship and people....

in general.

For ages now, my partner and I have waves where we're quite close and then don't speak for weeks. I can count the amount of times we've argued on the fingers of one hand.

I was nosing on her Facebook profile (I log on daily) and she'd been tagged in lots of photos. Stupid as this sounds, I got really jealous.

Although she doesn't go out ALL the time, she seems to go out more than I do and have more friends than I do.

Both of us have Aspergers' Syndrome; are not exactly straight and are technically best pals.

All my friends from home are quite different to me, I get on really well with my flatmate from last year and I talk with the other one, but we're not especially close. On my course, I speak a bit to one guy and another one is quite friendly with me.

I also - seem to have - a friend from Myspace at uni, but I get the impression they want ME to do all the work and take them out... when I have no clue as to what is best in Liverpool (Bear in mind I've only been out to a small selection of clubs there)!

I had a few people from my course last year as Facebook friends, but deleted them all when somebody else on my course (Who I was foolish enough to be infatuated with) said her first word to me and I deleted all the course friends as a result. I added one back.

One girl from my current course is a Facebook buddy and asked me for a drink. However I had to sort something out with the teacher (And I was kinda tuned out about what she was saying at the time). We've never spoken since and although she's shy as well, she's made her own friends. I get the impression that since I mentioned I'm Aspie on my Facebook, she's been avoiding me.

If she is, then it was my partner's stupid fault for telling me I should say I'm Aspie online! I've just deleted this fact... should be interesting to see how others react.

Finally, how can you tell if somebody really wants to be friends with you for who you are regardless; and why are normal people such ******s?!
Reply 1
Grow up, son.
Reply 2
Want to try that again?
Reply 3
Errr.... I'd like posts that are actually HELPFUL!
Reply 4
Seriously, I dont think you being an aspie would bother her. If it did, then she isnt worth being friends with. :smile:

You can tell if they ask you out for drinks or talking to you intently, etc. You can jsut tell. :wink:
Anonymous
in general.

For ages now, my partner and I have waves where we're quite close and then don't speak for weeks. I can count the amount of times we've argued on the fingers of one hand.

I was nosing on her Facebook profile (I log on daily) and she'd been tagged in lots of photos. Stupid as this sounds, I got really jealous.

Although she doesn't go out ALL the time, she seems to go out more than I do and have more friends than I do.

Both of us have Aspergers' Syndrome; are not exactly straight and are technically best pals.

All my friends from home are quite different to me, I get on really well with my flatmate from last year and I talk with the other one, but we're not especially close. On my course, I speak a bit to one guy and another one is quite friendly with me.

I also - seem to have - a friend from Myspace at uni, but I get the impression they want ME to do all the work and take them out... when I have no clue as to what is best in Liverpool (Bear in mind I've only been out to a small selection of clubs there)!

I had a few people from my course last year as Facebook friends, but deleted them all when somebody else on my course (Who I was foolish enough to be infatuated with) said her first word to me and I deleted all the course friends as a result. I added one back.

One girl from my current course is a Facebook buddy and asked me for a drink. However I had to sort something out with the teacher (And I was kinda tuned out about what she was saying at the time). We've never spoken since and although she's shy as well, she's made her own friends. I get the impression that since I mentioned I'm Aspie on my Facebook, she's been avoiding me.

If she is, then it was my partner's stupid fault for telling me I should say I'm Aspie online! I've just deleted this fact... should be interesting to see how others react.

Finally, how can you tell if somebody really wants to be friends with you for who you are regardless; and why are normal people such ******s?!


life sux mate, people are retards
Reply 6
jadegoodyfan22032009
life sux mate, people are retards


You need a new username.
I sometimes feel a little jealous when I see my guy's friends on facebook. I don't make friends, but at the moment I'm in a good patch and feel fairly secure. Still he has thousands more friends than I do. Anyway we both know that it is silly to be jealous of people we're going out with - they like us so we can't be all that miserable.. lets just leave it at that.

About friendship generally. Gah! get it out of you :smile: sometimes people are a bit flaky, and you've been a tad unfortunate. I don't really know what asperger's entails, but jep people might well not understand etcetc I'm sure you'll meet the many many decent people out there who are worth befriending. good luck with that :smile:
Reply 8
If I read you have aspergers I'd think no differently of you.
+ who cares if you don't know the best places to go, just go somewhere and you might have a good time, might not, you might even change your mind along the way and mutually decide to go somewhere else.

Just don't worry so much. Keep trying and eventually things will pick up.
Don't sit back and wait.