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Yesterday we were doing it and I woke up with bruises on my body because he's so rough. Then in the morning he started apologising and we had sex but this wasn't the first time it happened. Even when he kisses me he tends to be really rough. I think it might be something to do with me being petite and him...he's quite big and muscular. He can pull my whole body toward him with one hand. I don't know what to do because I'm scared he'll get rough again...I tried to tell him but he doesn't even notice when he's hurting me. I'm thinking about breaking up with him but im lost. Also I don't want to break up because of something like this...Any advice?
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Yesterday we were doing it and I woke up with bruises on my body because he's so rough. Then in the morning he started apologising and we had sex but this wasn't the first time it happened. Even when he kisses me he tends to be really rough. I think it might be something to do with me being petite and him...he's quite big and muscular. He can pull my whole body toward him with one hand. I don't know what to do because I'm scared he'll get rough again...I tried to tell him but he doesn't even notice when he's hurting me. I'm thinking about breaking up with him but im lost. Also I don't want to break up because of something like this...Any advice?
I don't know many ppl who don't like it rough.
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I agree this is not a good reason to break up with someone, maybe start touching him gently and being very gentle with him, try this but if he continues being rough talk to him about it, yea its probably because ur petit, tbh thats what u get when u have a ripped Bf, hoped I helped (I like rep)
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Uh you need to sit him down and tell him this. Whenever I feel uncomfortable with something I speak up during and afterwards. You need to get it through to him so he understands that it isn't your thing.
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If he's not respecting you and your body then he's not a good person to be with. If he's bruising you and you don't like it, that's abusive behavior.

Talk to him. Tell him you want him to be gentle. Don't ask. TELL HIM. If he doesn't oblige or argues about it, end it.
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Tell him he needs to stop being so rough? there's not really any other way around this unless he's more considerate of you. If he keeps consistently being rough, then you should ask yourself whether he's actually putting effort into trying not to hurt you. Then decide if you want to put up with this or not.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Yesterday we were doing it and I woke up with bruises on my body because he's so rough. Then in the morning he started apologising and we had sex but this wasn't the first time it happened. Even when he kisses me he tends to be really rough. I think it might be something to do with me being petite and him...he's quite big and muscular. He can pull my whole body toward him with one hand. I don't know what to do because I'm scared he'll get rough again...I tried to tell him but he doesn't even notice when he's hurting me. I'm thinking about breaking up with him but im lost. Also I don't want to break up because of something like this...Any advice?
stick a cucumber up his ass, see what he does then.
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In my opinion, you just need to get used to it and you'll enjoy it!
What kinda nonsense is this??? She clearly isn't happy or comfortable with this. Rough sex isn't her cup of tea and that's okay, her boyfriend just needs to acknowledge this and give it a rest.
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I'm not gonna lie I would be this type of guy tbh there is just something about dominating a nice petite body that makes us feel like lions (but also a thick one too )

I would be careful i wasn't going too OTT though don't want to hurt your partner hehe

Have a word with him and tell him to stop when it's not comfortable.
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stick a cucumber up his ass, see what he does then.
Giving excellent advice as per usual
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Break up so i can take him...

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I was going to say kinky but bruises? thats a little extreme in m opinion.
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Giving excellent advice as per usual
it is actually great advice when you think about it :rolleyes:
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I'm not gonna lie I would be this type of guy tbh there is just something about dominating a nice petite body that makes us feel like lions (but also a thick one too )

I would be careful i wasn't going too OTT though don't want to hurt your partner hehe
Why do guys get so carried away sometimes? (genuine question). I've been in a similar situation to the op and it wasn't nice at all. My boyfriend felt so bad about it afterwards, but he has been really careful since then.
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Ew these girls and guys who are telling her to put up with it are a) either physchologically disturbed or b) extreme sex animals. Rough sex is good, yes. But if he's bruising you then wtf? he obviously has anger issues or something for him to be bruising you.. because I'm quite petite too and the guys I've been with are around 6ft/same big build (but not that big) and i know what you mean by the petite thing but none of them have ever left marks on me physically (Only love bites). Once my ex tried to strangle me during sex (i think its to do with some guys trying to feel masculine and dominant) but i aint taking that bs, told him to go and F himself. Did not like it and there are limits to rough sex and when it seems close to abusive then i believe the line has been crossed no matter what he says because a real man would care about you and care about hurting you, be it physically, mentally or emotionally.
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Rough sex seems like a good idea until you wake up with bruises and can't sit down properly for a few days.
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on a more serious note, tell him that he's hurting you, if you're not okay with it, you shouldn't have to put up with it :|
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(Original post by phunky_fresh)
Why do guys get so carried away sometimes? (genuine question). I've been in a similar situation to the op and it wasn't nice at all. My boyfriend felt so bad about it afterwards, but he has been really careful since then.
I blame porn...

It's poisonous when you watch a lot of it. A lot of guys don't realise most girls like it a bit more gentle than others, then you have those that are just pain freaks lol then it gets a bit weird.
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I blame porn...

It's poisonous when you watch a lot of it. A lot of guys don't realise most girls like it a bit more gentle than others, then you have those that are just pain freaks lol then it gets a bit weird.

Lool that sounds about right. I really don't understand how people get pleasure out of getting bruised, but each to their own. Thankfully my boyfriend isn't a pain freak 😂
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it is actually great advice when you think about it :rolleyes:
The cold shower you recommended. That evening I did it and felt revived the whole night. I had a mental thought 'bless that guy's soul' lol
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I blame porn...

It's poisonous when you watch a lot of it. A lot of guys don't realise most girls like it a bit more gentle than others, then you have those that are just pain freaks lol then it gets a bit weird.
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