Is he interested?

I met this guy a few weeks ago at my mates birthday party and we really hit it off. He seems aloof but genuinely nice and friendly.

Anyway, ever since then we've been chatting on MSN and facebook. The thing is he suggested we meet up for a drink in a facebook message, and then when I replied that sounds good or whatever he never got back to me.

I emailed him asking how he was a few days later, and he emailed back saying he has been really busy with his sports club and work and he said: "Ill email you soon." Does this imply "Dont email me back"?

I'm so confused by the mixed messages, why does he suggest a meet up and then stop contacting me? Do you think I should leave it? Was he just seeing if he could get a date, but hes not actually intrested?

Reply 1

Ink

12

Maybe he's actually just really busy. Best you can do is wait and try not to think about it too much. I wouldn't write him again for a while if he said he'd e-mail you soon. Ball's in his court.

Reply 2

dh00001

16

its hard to say because well im not him :p:

if hes suggested meeting i would say he is interested. maybe he is genuinly busy.
if youve not replied yet say its fine and ask him to let you know when he wants to meet?

Reply 3

conservativebohemian

1

Nope. One always finds time for interesting people. I'd say don't waste your time thinking about him, as he's clearly not doing the same. If he's on facebook he might as well send you an email. And we all know how addictive facebook is.

Reply 4

Henerz

7

I bet he is. Of course, as was said above, we arn't him, but I rekon he was really busy, and now feels stupid that he's left it to long. Ideally, ring him, but Facebook will do.

Reply 5

TKnightrider

Mhhh hes probs just a busy guy but still wants you so give him a buzz and see whats going down :P

Reply 6

as cruel as school children

10

wait for him. not all of us lads string girls along.. sometimes we are actually busy / stressed out.

Reply 7

conservativebohemian

1

The only relevant question here really is: when did he say he'd "email soon"? How many days ago.

Reply 8

The Basilisk

Give me his facebook and I'll bully him for you.

Reply 9

john !!

14

yes its a nice way of saying "dont reply".. dont get obsessive on him, give it time.

Reply 10

Lilith666

Anonymous

I met this guy a few weeks ago at my mates birthday party and we really hit it off. He seems aloof but genuinely nice and friendly.

Anyway, ever since then we've been chatting on MSN and facebook. The thing is he suggested we meet up for a drink in a facebook message, and then when I replied that sounds good or whatever he never got back to me.

I emailed him asking how he was a few days later, and he emailed back saying he has been really busy with his sports club and work and he said: "Ill email you soon." Does this imply "Dont email me back"?

I'm so confused by the mixed messages, why does he suggest a meet up and then stop contacting me? Do you think I should leave it? Was he just seeing if he could get a date, but hes not actually intrested?

you need to STOP contacting this guy, i dont think he is interested and was trying to see if you were interested in him to boost his ego. Do not give this clown the time of day, preserve your self respect. If he does email you back do NOT reply. The mixed messages are a sign that this guy it a waste of space and not clever or talented enough to be a player.

Learn from it and move on.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Hmm thank you for being honest. He was probably out of my league anyway...

I spose I shouldn't contact him then? Well at least not until he contacts me?

Reply 12

Hylean

15

Lilith666

you need to STOP contacting this guy, i dont think he is interested and was trying to see if you were interested in him to boost his ego. Do not give this clown the time of day, preserve your self respect. If he does email you back do NOT reply. The mixed messages are a sign that this guy it a waste of space and not clever or talented enough to be a player.

Learn from it and move on.

can you feel the man-hate?

to be fair, i think he may just be busy but give it a week at most. at least he said he will email you soon. i am useless at replying to emails, etc.

it has taken me over 2 months to reply to emails before. it has taken me weeks to reply to my loved ones. doesn't mean i am less interested or whatever, just means i'm busy and that i hate writing emails, etc.

plus, not everyone is addicted to facebook. give the guy some time, don't appear too keen and wait. if you haven't heard after a week, email him again or move on.

Reply 13

jrt87

conservativebohemian

I'd say don't waste your time thinking about him, Nope. One always finds time for interesting people.s he's clearly not doing the same. If he's on facebook he might as well send you an email. And we all know how addictive facebook is.

I agree. If I like a girl, nothing gets in my way of hanging out with them. Then again, I'm an upfront direct guy who deplores all that stringing along/playing hard to get nonsense so don't take my word for it.

Reply 14

Lilith666

Hylean

can you feel the man-hate?

to be fair, i think he may just be busy but give it a week at most. at least he said he will email you soon. i am useless at replying to emails, etc.

it has taken me over 2 months to reply to emails before. it has taken me weeks to reply to my loved ones. doesn't mean i am less interested or whatever, just means i'm busy and that i hate writing emails, etc.

plus, not everyone is addicted to facebook. give the guy some time, don't appear too keen and wait. if you haven't heard after a week, email him again or move on.

So if you really liked a girl, you would ignore her? i dont think so, and if u do, you are in the minority, I do not hate men, I am just very wise :smile:

Reply 15

Hylean

15

Lilith666

So if you really liked a girl, you would ignore her? i dont think so, and if u do, you are in the minority, I do not hate men, I am just very wise :smile:

no, i wouldn't ignore her but i may not reply straight away.

he hasn't been ignoring this girl, he said he will reply soon. if he is lying, she can cut his nads off.

Reply 16

username142888

he might regret tyring it in the first place so wait and see wat happens

Reply 17

Yellowmarshmellow

Let him contact you first, he might be busy and he did suggest that he would email you so don't worry about it :smile:

Reply 18

minim

10

Maybe he's simply not interested. What do you mean he's out of your league? How?

Reply 19

dream_theater

don't bother contacting him until he does you.

he might have meant 'i'll email you soon' about the drink and be genuinely busy

or he might have changed his mind/have a gf or any number of things and not want the drink/you anymore.

there's no way of knowing, the ball is now in his court so just incase it's the latter, preserve your dignity and don't contact him again unless he does you.

personally if i was into someone i'd always make time for them, but some people are more laid back about relationships.

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