Who is right?

Last four thursdays I have been trying to have a meeting with the two people who I share the role of Sub Warden/Senior Resident. Basically we work shifts and are there as a back up for the secuirty people if they need to enter rooms or if a student is upset etc.
I live with the girl and the other guy lives a few floors up.
We never see either other, even the girl I lie with as she never comes out of her room unless to go toilet or make food, but still eats in her room even though we have a huge living room with kitchen table.

Right so I have emailed, text, spoke to face to face, wrote it in our diary and our boss has had words saying we need to pull our act together and write it in the book.

Only she confirms she will be going, he must not of read the book, but I thought he was away. Anyway I write in the book at 7.30 that neather turned up and I have left my notes about what I wanted to discuss.

She writes back saying she did not know where it was so its my fault I never knocked on her door to tell her where it was! We frigging live together and where else would the meeting be... common room, our flat or the guys flat (who did not say he was going meeting). She was in her room then lied and said her boyfriend's grandad was ill he was upset therfore she would not spend ten seconds saying she had a family crisis and would be a while.

Who is in the wrong, me trying to arrange a meeting via the diraty (two times), email, text face to face or me because I did not tell her where the meeting would be held even though she made no effort to come out of her room, knock on my door or check possible places????

This is a serious thread, pelase do not be horrible.

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Reply 1

love_mojitos

why is no one answering???

Reply 2

Secret_F

for a start i don't know what you are talking about since my uni life is not going to start utill next year, but any way i hope you will find the solution to the problem soon

Reply 3

matt@internet

They're in the wrong, not you.

Reply 4

love_mojitos

Thanks. We had another argument, really upset!

Reply 5

love_mojitos

Shei snot a friend!
I have to work with her.

Reply 6

love_mojitos

She is not a friend, I have to work with her.
She is lying hoe, she reckons I should knowck on her door!

Reply 7

Secret_F

... try calm your self down first

Reply 8

Secret_F

thrid maybe you can try to talk to her ... i mean ... maybe she has some problem .. but communication will put you into a position where you can have more information about her and the satuation then with more information you can anylize things more correctly... try to think with a cool mind in your head ...

Reply 9

love_mojitos

Hi, I was not having a go at anyone, she is the most stupid person I know.
I have told you the sitaution and just wanted to know if anyone sided with her, that I should of knocked on her door?

Reply 10

Purple

They probably dont like working with you

Reply 11

love_mojitos

Yeah can understand that as I was having issues with them in the first week and I told them. BUt i was not nasty and would they rather I just shut up? I went to see my boss and see what he suggested and then I acted on his suggestions.
But if they do not make contact with me and ignore me how does that feel?

Reply 12

Helenia

Becky_Sheffield

Hi, I was not having a go at anyone, she is the most stupid person I know.
I have told you the sitaution and just wanted to know if anyone sided with her, that I should of knocked on her door?

Well, if you were in the same flat, and you thought she might be there, and you wondered why she hadn't come to the meeting, I can hardly see how it would have been a massive effort for you to walk a few steps and knock on her door. Sure, you shouldn't have needed to, but if you had it wouldn't have hurt.

I'm afraid I don't really understand what your job is meant to be or what you were meant to be sorting out, but basically you lot need to make more effort to communicate - and someone needs to initiate it.

Reply 13

love_mojitos

Ok, but I have been trying to arrange a meeting by text, email, face to face, write in our diary for the last 4 weeks! At one time neither have them appolgised for not attending or tried to make effort by email, text or knocking on my door.
She OK'ed the meeting so i assumed she was happy with everything, she had 2 days to ask!

Reply 14

love_mojitos

What does anyone else think?

Reply 15

Juno

Becky_Sheffield

She is not a friend, I have to work with her.
She is lying hoe, she reckons I should knowck on her door!

calling her names is hardly going to help the situation.

Reply 16

love_mojitos

What to make people reply?

Reply 17

Donald Duck

Secret_F

for a start i don't know what you are talking about since my uni life is not going to start utill next year, but any way i hope you will find the solution to the problem soon

QFT

Reply 18

Kagutsuchi

just forgive her - nothing angers them more.

plus, it makes you seem like the better person - which links to the aforementioned.

Reply 19

Nally

I think you need to chill out a bit, yes you tried your hardest to get the meeting together and she didn't turn up but if you were sat waiting for her to come to the meeting in your common room and you knew she was in your room, a quick knock on her door to enquire if she was coming to the meeting wouldn't have hurt. As a subwarden I would guess teamwork is important so I would suck it up, stop calling her names and try and arrange another meeting.