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He's breaking my heart...
Argh, I can't believe I'm posting this, feel like a lovesick teenager. We're both nearly 21, been friends for years, and get on famously. He asked me out when we were much younger, it didn't happen, but we still remained friends.Although we do flirt a lot sometimes.
And now, now I want him so badly! He just started at Oxbridge(rather not say which...), so understandably he was going to meet intelligent, pretty girls he is attracted to. Still, I didn't say anything.
Now he has met someone he could possibly have a relationship with. Nothing happened yet, but it's probably getting there. Should I tell him how I feel before it's too late, or would this sound like a desperate possessive thing to do?
Help...I feel so sad and hurt now.
And I can't tell any of our friends, since they'd most likely blab.
And now, now I want him so badly! He just started at Oxbridge(rather not say which...), so understandably he was going to meet intelligent, pretty girls he is attracted to. Still, I didn't say anything.
Now he has met someone he could possibly have a relationship with. Nothing happened yet, but it's probably getting there. Should I tell him how I feel before it's too late, or would this sound like a desperate possessive thing to do?
Help...I feel so sad and hurt now.
And I can't tell any of our friends, since they'd most likely blab.Scroll to see replies
are you sure you actually want him, or can you just not bear the thought of someone else having him?
^exactly... you wait until he begns a relationship? coincedence? no
he asked you out, you had his attention
now his attention is slipping, you want it back.
you probably don't want him, and need to get over the idea that its probably years too late for anything to happen. focus on what makes you annoyed about him, because I garuntee those are the things you would begin to notice if you were ever in a relationship. and pulling someone else is the generally accepted way of getting over someone.
he asked you out, you had his attention
now his attention is slipping, you want it back.
you probably don't want him, and need to get over the idea that its probably years too late for anything to happen. focus on what makes you annoyed about him, because I garuntee those are the things you would begin to notice if you were ever in a relationship. and pulling someone else is the generally accepted way of getting over someone.
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Argh, I can't believe I'm posting this, feel like a lovesick teenager. We're both nearly 21, been friends for years, and get on famously. He asked me out when we were much younger, it didn't happen, but we still remained friends.Although we do flirt a lot sometimes.
And now, now I want him so badly! He just started at Oxbridge(rather not say which...), so understandably he was going to meet intelligent, pretty girls he is attracted to. Still, I didn't say anything.
Now he has met someone he could possibly have a relationship with. Nothing happened yet, but it's probably getting there. Should I tell him how I feel before it's too late, or would this sound like a desperate possessive thing to do?
Help...I feel so sad and hurt now. And I can't tell any of our friends, since they'd most likely blab.
And now, now I want him so badly! He just started at Oxbridge(rather not say which...), so understandably he was going to meet intelligent, pretty girls he is attracted to. Still, I didn't say anything.
Now he has met someone he could possibly have a relationship with. Nothing happened yet, but it's probably getting there. Should I tell him how I feel before it's too late, or would this sound like a desperate possessive thing to do?
Help...I feel so sad and hurt now.
And I can't tell any of our friends, since they'd most likely blab.Because he was (falsely) diagnosed with a terminal illness, or because you said "no"?
Reply 4
Anonymous
Argh, I can't believe I'm posting this, feel like a lovesick teenager. We're both nearly 21, been friends for years, and get on famously. He asked me out when we were much younger, it didn't happen, but we still remained friends.Although we do flirt a lot sometimes.
And now, now I want him so badly! He just started at Oxbridge(rather not say which...), so understandably he was going to meet intelligent, pretty girls he is attracted to. Still, I didn't say anything.
Now he has met someone he could possibly have a relationship with. Nothing happened yet, but it's probably getting there. Should I tell him how I feel before it's too late, or would this sound like a desperate possessive thing to do?
Help...I feel so sad and hurt now. And I can't tell any of our friends, since they'd most likely blab.
And now, now I want him so badly! He just started at Oxbridge(rather not say which...), so understandably he was going to meet intelligent, pretty girls he is attracted to. Still, I didn't say anything.
Now he has met someone he could possibly have a relationship with. Nothing happened yet, but it's probably getting there. Should I tell him how I feel before it's too late, or would this sound like a desperate possessive thing to do?
Help...I feel so sad and hurt now.
And I can't tell any of our friends, since they'd most likely blab.On ther surface it does seem desperate and possessive, let him know in a subtle way that you are interested and take it from there. If it goes wrong remember love makes fools of us all. Oh and that most people are hyprocrites and rise above any unkind remarks that people make.
I do not not normally advocate women do any chazing but in this case it seems different.
good luck to you, and if he is not interested then have a cry and move on, life is to short to stress about someone that does not want you back.
If it is one thing I learnt, no matter how much you love a person you cannot make them loved you back.
Lilith666
On ther surface it does seem desperate and possessive, let him know in a subtle way that you are interested and take it from there. If it goes wrong remember love makes fools of us all. Oh and that most people are hyprocrites and rise above any unkind remarks that people make.
I do not not normally advocate women do any chazing but in this case it seems different.
good luck to you, and if he is not interested then have a cry and move on, life is to short to stress about someone that does not want you back.
If it is one thing I learnt, no matter how much you love a person you cannot make them loved you back.
I do not not normally advocate women do any chazing but in this case it seems different.
good luck to you, and if he is not interested then have a cry and move on, life is to short to stress about someone that does not want you back.
If it is one thing I learnt, no matter how much you love a person you cannot make them loved you back.
Well, that's stupid, for one.
Reply 8
I think it's a bit of a cliche to say 'she only likes him now because she can't have him'. It sounds like you liked him before this new girl was even on the scene, but it's just now you're finally realising you need to say something because she could really jeopardise this.
I think you need to say something, and quick. It sounds like you get on really well, and if you don't do it now, then you could be missing out on something really great! You only live once!
Good luck
I think you need to say something, and quick. It sounds like you get on really well, and if you don't do it now, then you could be missing out on something really great! You only live once!
Good luck
Reply 9
Just to clarify, he asked me out when we were 16. I didn't know him too well at the time, and I was too shy/naive/not ready for a relationship etc. So it has been a long time, we were so young.
It took us a while to build up this friendship and to move on from that. As a consequence, neither of us would have said anything even if we still liked each other, for fear of making things awkward again. Especially not him.
And yes, I do like him a lot,maybe even love, hence the slightly overdramatic title. I am just scared he now doesn't feel the same, and I doubt our friendship could survive something like that again, would be too weird.That's the reason I have been hesitant until now.
But now I feel threatened, and I'll admit, a teeny bit jealous, since this could slip away forever. Meh, it's complicated.
It took us a while to build up this friendship and to move on from that. As a consequence, neither of us would have said anything even if we still liked each other, for fear of making things awkward again. Especially not him.
And yes, I do like him a lot,maybe even love, hence the slightly overdramatic title. I am just scared he now doesn't feel the same, and I doubt our friendship could survive something like that again, would be too weird.That's the reason I have been hesitant until now.
But now I feel threatened, and I'll admit, a teeny bit jealous, since this could slip away forever. Meh, it's complicated.
Reply 11
whats chazing?
Reply 13
You missed your chance.........
There's an old saying . . . (so old I can't remember where I got it from)
If you love someone, set them free, if they come back they're yours for keeps, if they don't they were never yours in the first place.
You could do as I do and believe that God's got someone for you, the right person at the right time, and just get on with other things that are good for you in the meantime.
If you love someone, set them free, if they come back they're yours for keeps, if they don't they were never yours in the first place.
You could do as I do and believe that God's got someone for you, the right person at the right time, and just get on with other things that are good for you in the meantime.
Reply 17
Profesh
Well, that's stupid, for one.
Nope, women that chase usually lose
NJA
There's an old saying . . . (so old I can't remember where I got it from)
If you love someone, set them free, if they come back they're yours for keeps, if they don't they were never yours in the first place.
You could do as I do and believe that God's got someone for you, the right person at the right time, and just get on with other things that are good for you in the meantime.
If you love someone, set them free, if they come back they're yours for keeps, if they don't they were never yours in the first place.
You could do as I do and believe that God's got someone for you, the right person at the right time, and just get on with other things that are good for you in the meantime.
OP- is there any chance you could have a relationship with him now? If so, persue it.. if not, you have to move on.
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