Is my dad in the right or out of order?

This might sound over the top sorry about another dull depression thread but im not posting about this its something else. Ive had depression and panic disorder since I was 17 (im 22 now) and there have been periods where I have gone to uni, quit then worked, quit etc. Anyway to try and make a fresh start type of thing Ive been a member of a netball club for 5 months and I love it and go playing 2/3 evenings a week and have matches on saturday. I haven't yet made any friends as im quiet but I do get along with the people there they are about the same age as me.

The thing is my dad works with 2 people who go there and he doesn't understand why I keep quiting jobs, he thinks im just lazy and has told the girls there that I have done nothing but lie in bed all day and the past few years and that I never go out with friends or anything (Im trying to make friends). Now I have have told the girls I play with just that I have had several jobs and have exagerrated about what I do as I don't want them to know I have depression and panic etc :rolleyes:

Im really annoyed with him as he told me that when he told my team mates they said 'omg, ' 'she's quiet at netball she should go to such a place at night its fun'. He has told them all about me and now im embarrsed and feel like a liar fake when I go to practice, which I am. I suppose im just ashamed of my life and maybe I should be, part of me thinks that it serves me right.

I just hate my life and the fact that I find it hard to do anything but what would anyone else do in my position? I feel like quiting netball as the girls know some other people I used to know so might tell them but I doubt it.

Reply 1

hannah_dru

Don't quit. I'd have a word with your Dad and tell him that you weren't happy with what he did. Maybe he could have another word with them or you could just do it yourself.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Thanks, Ive told him but he said 'what else am I supposed to say?' Its just embarrasing, I don't know their business!

Reply 3

hannah_dru

Something like, "Excuse me for what I said, but that wasn't exactly true."

Reply 4

cpj1987

I can understand why your Dad's actions might've embarrassed you, but my recommendation is not to get too worried or annoyed at your Dad for what he did.

After all, from the reactions of your friends, it sounds as though they've not taken this as a bad thing - the fact that they suggested somewhere for you to go out tells me that they're not judging you by your past, and if anything, now understand you a little better. :smile:

Reply 5

loulouxx

aww thats so horrible & insensitive of your dad :frown:

you haveeveryright to be upset i know i would be

Reply 6

Vampyrcorn

You shouldn't use what your dad said as an excuse for quitting. I would be angry if i were in your situation as it wasn't his place to say that, but you never know - it might make it easier for you to make friends now that they have some sort of understanding about why you're so quiet.

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