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are prostitutes/escorts safe?

To cut a long story short, I'm in my late 20s and am still a virgin, I've had quite a lot of chances to lose my V to quite a few different girls but everytime I have failed to get it up. So I am now thinking of using an escort to get past the initial nerves.

I have found a site with girls offering their services for £150-250 for one hour incalls, which is about a weeks wage for me so it's quite a lot but this will be a one-off thing to help me in the long run so I don't mind spending it.

However are incalls safe? Could I be in risk of any danger? Am I in risk of STDS as I've been told condoms do not protect you from diseases like herpes, crabs, syphilis, genital warts/hpv etc..

Thanks.

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Reply 1
Also, with incalls as I would be turning up to a random address would you advise me telling someone about it just in case? and I assume they will have a bed for us to go in which I assume would have had hundreds of previous clients inside it so I can imagine it to be quite dirty and risk of diseases - any thoughts on this?
I don't know about the risk of STDs, but something you should consider is the fact that prostitution is illegal in the UK. Not assuming you didn't already know this but I'm pointing it out just in case.
Reply 3
Original post by mrsuperguy
I don't know about the risk of STDs, but something you should consider is the fact that prostitution is illegal in the UK. Not assuming you didn't already know this but I'm pointing it out just in case.


I actually didn't know this - thanks for pointing this out.

Do you know what the penalty is if caught hiring an escort?
Original post by Anonymous
I actually didn't know this - thanks for pointing this out.

Do you know what the penalty is if caught hiring an escort?


No sorry. I suggest you research it. Also, I don't know if this is true but it's possible I guess that UK law differentiates between prostitutes & escorts and maybe has different penalties for each, or maybe one's illegal and the other isn't. Just do some research before hiring and escort or a hooker.
The STI risk is minimal - very high levels of condom use see to that. If you're worried about a bed, a) there are these things called washing machines - one of the expenses of offering incalls is increased laundry, and b) there will typically be a fresh throw over the bed rather than literally getting between the sheets. It's simpler, less sweaty and easier.

Original post by mrsuperguy
I don't know about the risk of STDs, but something you should consider is the fact that prostitution is illegal in the UK. Not assuming you didn't already know this but I'm pointing it out just in case.


Sigh. In England and Wales, general prostitution is not and has never been illegal.

What's illegal is soliciting in the street or similar public place (especially if looking for it from a car); gaining from control of someone else's prostitution; and owning / running / allowing a brothel (somewhere two or more people are offering sex, not necessarily at the same time). But visiting or indeed working in a brothel are legal.

It's illegal to pay for sex with someone you don't reasonably believe is at least 18 (i.e. the age of consent for paid sex is effectively 18 not 16) and there's a bit of law that says it's an offence to pay for sex with someone who's been the victim of "exploitative conduct" (force, threats or deception), but as far as I can see, it's never been used.

Scotland is very similar, although the Acts concerned vary.

Northern Ireland has done another bit of gesture politics to criminalise paying for sex.

Original post by Anonymous
Do you know what the penalty is if caught hiring an escort?


A lighter wallet..

If you do your research properly and find someone working independently - and thus having an individual reputation to protect - you should be able to find someone offering what you want. Unless you want someone specific who charges that much, you should also be able to find it for less, even in London.
Reply 6
Save yourself for marriage


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Original post by unprinted
Sigh. In England and Wales, general prostitution is not and has never been illegal.

What's illegal is soliciting in the street or similar public place (especially if looking for it from a car); gaining from control of someone else's prostitution; and owning / running / allowing a brothel (somewhere two or more people are offering sex, not necessarily at the same time). But visiting or indeed working in a brothel are legal.

It's illegal to pay for sex with someone you don't reasonably believe is at least 18 (i.e. the age of consent for paid sex is effectively 18 not 16) and there's a bit of law that says it's an offence to pay for sex with someone who's been the victim of "exploitative conduct" (force, threats or deception), but as far as I can see, it's never been used.

Scotland is very similar, although the Acts concerned vary.

Northern Ireland has done another bit of gesture politics to criminalise paying for sex.


Huh, i did not know that. Do you hear a lot of people saying prostitution is illegal then? That sigh sounded like you do.

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I used have a job at a sex work project and, yes, a large majority of the public think prostitution is illegal. I suspect it's because the most visible form is street work, and the soliciting there (from workers and clients) is criminalised.

My other pet argh is hearing 'living on immoral earnings', a crime that has never existed - lots of rich people would go to gaol if it did, for "What is the crime of robbing a bank compared to the crime of owning one?" - and the one they are thinking of, 'living off the earnings', was abolished in the Sexual Offences Act 2003.
Original post by unprinted
I used have a job at a sex work project and, yes, a large majority of the public think prostitution is illegal. I suspect it's because the most visible form is street work, and the soliciting there (from workers and clients) is criminalised.

My other pet argh is hearing 'living on immoral earnings', a crime that has never existed - lots of rich people would go to gaol if it did, for "What is the crime of robbing a bank compared to the crime of owning one?" - and the one they are thinking of, 'living off the earnings', was abolished in the Sexual Offences Act 2003.


Oh ok then. Thanks for schooling me about that. But to clarify, when you say "street work" is illegal, does that mean both the prostitute & the client have committed offences? And in the earlier comment, you said something about owning/running a brothel being illegal but using or working in one isn't. I just wanna make sure I understand everything properly.
The offence, for both, is soliciting: offering or looking for commercial sex. If it's done from a vehicle, or one you've just got out of, it's kerb-crawling which is separately criminalised.

Yep. Provided you don't control it - decide who works when, that sort of thing - you can work in or visit a brothel.

Thanks to a bit of 1920s classism, no money need be involved which means that lots of places are 'brothels'. When the penalties for running one were increased, owners of places like gay saunas (where men go to be sexual with each other) went 'eek' and started doing some lobbying. So there are now two offences: owning/running a brothel (almost never prosecuted), and owning/running a brothel involving prostitution (depends on where you are in the country - some police forces will invite you onto a committee to discuss how to run them better, others will prosecute anything they find).
Original post by unprinted
The offence, for both, is soliciting: offering or looking for commercial sex. If it's done from a vehicle, or one you've just got out of, it's kerb-crawling which is separately criminalised.

Yep. Provided you don't control it - decide who works when, that sort of thing - you can work in or visit a brothel.

Thanks to a bit of 1920s classism, no money need be involved which means that lots of places are 'brothels'. When the penalties for running one were increased, owners of places like gay saunas (where men go to be sexual with each other) went 'eek' and started doing some lobbying. So there are now two offences: owning/running a brothel (almost never prosecuted), and owning/running a brothel involving prostitution (depends on where you are in the country - some police forces will invite you onto a committee to discuss how to run them better, others will prosecute anything they find).


Ahh. You know I heard a while ago that nomore than (i think, I'm not entirely sure) 3 women could live in the same house because that constitutes a brothel. Does that come from that 20's classism you were talking about, if it is in fact true?
The 1920s case was one in Cambridge where a group of students (i.e. posh men) were using someone's cottage to have sex with - gasp - 'town girls' (i.e. lower/middle class women). There was never a suggestion that any money changed hands, but the owner was convicted for running a brothel.

The critical number is two, each being sexual with a variety of people. Since the 60s, men have counted too. As I say, quite a lot of places are brothels.
If you're failing to get it up, then an escort won't help. Seek therapy or have a chat with your doctor about medication you can possibly take.

This is not a good method of resolving your problem.
^^^What this guy said.
No, too risky to have STD(HIV,HPV) infections, although you use a condom.
Original post by Anonymous
To cut a long story short, I'm in my late 20s and am still a virgin, I've had quite a lot of chances to lose my V to quite a few different girls but everytime I have failed to get it up. So I am now thinking of using an escort to get past the initial nerves.

I have found a site with girls offering their services for £150-250 for one hour incalls, which is about a weeks wage for me so it's quite a lot but this will be a one-off thing to help me in the long run so I don't mind spending it.

However are incalls safe? Could I be in risk of any danger? Am I in risk of STDS as I've been told condoms do not protect you from diseases like herpes, crabs, syphilis, genital warts/hpv etc..

Thanks.


can u give me the site
If you can't search for 'independent escort (wherever you are)', you're not old enough to have sex.
Reply 18
Escorts are addictive once you start it's hard to stop seeing them! You will always want a piece of them
Yep, it can make taking cocaine look like a cheap hobby.

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