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    It happened earlier this year at about 2:30am. Every month on the date it happened I cry and struggle to concentrate and get through the day. When it comes to the time I normally would sleep, I can't, so I listen to music as loud as I can to try and drown out what I'm thinking. I go through what we were doing in the hours leading up to it (watching a film, eating, etc) over and over again. When it gets to midnight I feel sick so spend the next few hours, on and off, with my head down the toilet. I get a headache and feel sick until the day after.
    How can I just forget? How can I get through the day and night like normal?
    Thanks

    (P.s. I'm not reporting it so please don't suggest this. I told a few friends at the time but we haven't spoken about it in months and they've probably forgotten by now. I want to deal with this myself).
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    There's reporting to police / school / college, and there's getting some support. You can do the latter without the former.

    As a start, even if it wasn't 'rape', look for your nearest rape crisis group.
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    look up other survivors stories and how things have turned around. avoid that person forever if you knew them. cry about it for a while but soon understand you're worth so much more. lady gaga-till it happens to you. try to do something fun or make your day and night busy on the date of the month so you don't have as much time to think about it.
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    There's reporting to police / school / college, and there's getting some support. You can do the latter without the former.

    As a start, even if it wasn't 'rape', look for your nearest rape crisis group.
    I have just looked and there isn't a rape crisis near where I live.
    Thank you for replying
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    (Original post by nadiaLee)
    look up other survivors stories and how things have turned around. avoid that person forever if you knew them. cry about it for a while but soon understand you're worth so much more. lady gaga-till it happens to you. try to do something fun or make your day and night busy on the date of the month so you don't have as much time to think about it.
    Ok, i'll look them up and download that song. Luckily, we don't live or work that close so I don't see him. I thought about trying to do something that day and night but then thought I'd associate whatever I'm doing or whoever I'm with, with what happened. I do think that's the only way i'll get through it though, so I'm going to try and do that each month.
    This has been really helpful, thank you.
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    I have just looked and there isn't a rape crisis near where I live.
    Thank you for replying
    I'd suggest ringing the nearest.
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    I'd suggest ringing the nearest.
    I've found a rape drop-in centre which I'm planning on going to.
    thank you
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    Good luck.
 
 
 
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