worried about how i look

i'm worried no one will ever find me attractive because i'm overweight... i'm a size 12/14 but my stomach is big, and tho i'm exercising and eating better its gonna be a long time till i lose it if i don't starve myself. i know people say being confident is all u need but how're u meant to be confident when people probably think you look gross?? i feel like i don't have any confidence and i'm scared of being mocked.

Reply 1

dream_theater

loads of people find loads of different things attractive. there are many overweight people happy in relationships, I don't really think how you look is much of an indicator on what your relationships are going to be like. or especially on whether they're going to work out or not.

just make the best of yourself like anyone of any weight would, buy some nice clothes to look as lovely as you can and you will probably feel a lot more confident. everyone has body hangups, including people who will find you attractive, and I reckon we're all busy enough panicking about our own flaws to be bothered about anyone elses as long as we find them attractive.

(cheese alter) the hottest thing for most people is being easygoing, happy and friendly, and comfortable within yourself.

Reply 2

hannah_dru

2

Not everyone values a person soley on their looks.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

At the moment I'm probably the same size as you (I'm 5'6, size 14) and I can honestly say I get so so much more attention and compliments now than I ever did when I was an emancipated wreck. Just love your body, it doesn't matter what size you are as long as you love yourself.

If you are trying to lose weight, don't set unrealistic goals, or think that everything is going to be great when you are thin. :hugs:

Reply 4

pink_lucie

14

OH PLEASE! im 5'2'' and a size 16 have have been with my bf for 8months! you have NOTHING to be worried about!!! :smile:

Reply 5

OnlyMe!

16

Anonymous

At the moment I'm probably the same size as you (I'm 5'6, size 14) and I can honestly say I get so so much more attention and compliments now than I ever did when I was an emancipated wreck.

You mean emaciated? :p:

And why are you on anon, if you're so proud of being who you are? Just wondered :p:

Reply 6

Ashes_to_Ashes

2

Anonymous

i'm worried no one will ever find me attractive because i'm overweight... i'm a size 12/14 but my stomach is big, and tho i'm exercising and eating better its gonna be a long time till i lose it if i don't starve myself. i know people say being confident is all u need but how're u meant to be confident when people probably think you look gross?? i feel like i don't have any confidence and i'm scared of being mocked.

So what. Size 16 is the average in this country anyway. Anyone who thinks size 12-ish is gross is an absolute narrow-minded idiotic sad act, and if you 'starve' yourself for this delusion of perfection then you're an idiot as well. Sorry for being short with you but I really hate this, when people's confidence are warped by unrealistic and dangerous perceptions.

Remember, there is no such thing as perfection, it's a horrible word, and remember that you're like a lot of teenage girls in that respect.

Enjoy your life! don't become a self-hating mess. :smile:

Reply 7

Poica

14

OP, try to remember that people don't look at you as much as you do. Also remember that people don't judge you as much as you do. The fact is that almost nobody else cares if you've got a bit of a belly, because they're worrying about their bits - their small boobs, their flabby arms, their big thighs, etc. etc. etc. I know it's hard to have body confidence when you don't feel like you look at your best, but you are the only one with a problem with your body. I can't tell you how to deal with it other than carry on with what you're doing now and try not to have an image of your head of the perfect woman you want to be, because she's never come into existence for any of the rest of us.

Reply 8

FreeBird

Haven't you posted this on here before??

Reply 9

Unregistered

Anonymous

i'm worried no one will ever find me attractive because i'm overweight... i'm a size 12/14 but my stomach is big, and tho i'm exercising and eating better its gonna be a long time till i lose it if i don't starve myself. i know people say being confident is all u need but how're u meant to be confident when people probably think you look gross?? i feel like i don't have any confidence and i'm scared of being mocked.

Firstly, while you might be slightly overweight it doesn't make you unattractive. Many people are carrying a bit of excess fat around and find themselves partners with ease, they even have sex!

Secondly, your paranoia over this will be making you unattractive. There's nothing worse than people with major body hang-ups. You need to relax.

And then, theres always the fact that most men will shag just about anything. So long as you have a strong personality, and don't look like quasimodo, you'll be fine.

Reply 10

Jadie.Babie

A size 12/14 isn't over weight my love.
I bet there are loads of people that find you attractive, the right person will come your way soon :smile:

xx

Reply 11

ph9

10

basically if you're overweight and unhappy then do something about it. i mean i can't give it to you any simpler than that. it's not as long and boring and complex as you think. just start counting calories, get 1200-1500 in you every day, increase your activity levels (go swimming maybe if you can't afford the gym? or go walking more/running...) and you'll see the fat drop off.

if you're a 12/14 and overweight then - it's hard without seeing a photo and knowing your stats (care to share? pm maybe?) - i'd say you probably need anything from 1 - 3 stone to lose (depending on your bone size - bigger your bones the less you probably have to lose) and that can be achieved as quickly as 6 - 18 weeks (1.5 months - 4.5 months).

i mean that may sound a long time to you but you just have to remind yourself when 6 weeks from today is - christmas? it's really not that far away... and you can make such a big difference

anyway, pm me if you want more help but that's my advice. be positive and don't think 'oh god this is going to take ages'

Reply 12

fallen_acorns

20

if its any consolation...my gf is a sise 12... and shes the most buitifull thing iv ever seen...,

Reply 13

campbell87

8

If a guy wont go out with you purely because of how you look then he is not worth your time or effort, he's shallow and narrow minded and you deserve better. You need to love youself, love the skn your in and smile :smile:

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