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    Am 22 year old girl. I have been masturbating from a very young age. I masturbate by humping against the pillow/bed or via clitoral stimulation.
    I watch making out videos straight ir even lesbian videos while masturbating. I have even had experience of making out with a girl when inwas younger,around 10yrs back.
    Despite all this,i identify myself as straight. I am attracted to boys and i have had crushes on boys. I have never been attracted to girls.
    I was in a year long relationship recently. I used to make out a lot with my bf..and i used to love it. However, he wanted to have sex and i just wasnt ready.. Even though i loved the making out part.. i never got around to actually having intercourse. Am neither against premarital sex nor i am scared about the penis entering my vagina. He even tried fingering me and giving me oral pleasure, but i dint get turned on as much as we thought i would. I coudnt figure out why i wasnt ready for sex.
    We broke up a while back because things wernt working out.
    But i am still confused as to why is dint want to have sex even thought i liked the foreplay? Is it normal to get turned on by lesbian videos ? Or am i one too? Why am i not ready for sex? Why doesnt fingering or oral give me pleasure?
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    (Original post by Confusedgirl21)
    Am 22 year old girl. I have been masturbating from a very young age. I masturbate by humping against the pillow/bed or via clitoral stimulation.
    I watch making out videos straight ir even lesbian videos while masturbating. I have even had experience of making out with a girl when inwas younger,around 10yrs back.
    Despite all this,i identify myself as straight. I am attracted to boys and i have had crushes on boys. I have never been attracted to girls.
    I was in a year long relationship recently. I used to make out a lot with my bf..and i used to love it. However, he wanted to have sex and i just wasnt ready.. Even though i loved the making out part.. i never got around to actually having intercourse. Am neither against premarital sex nor i am scared about the penis entering my vagina. He even tried fingering me and giving me oral pleasure, but i dint get turned on as much as we thought i would. I coudnt figure out why i wasnt ready for sex.
    We broke up a while back because things wernt working out.
    But i am still confused as to why is dint want to have sex even thought i liked the foreplay? Is it normal to get turned on by lesbian videos ? Or am i one too? Why am i not ready for sex? Why doesnt fingering or oral give me pleasure?

    First things first; watching lesbian porn isnt unusual. Lesbian porn tends to be more female centric and less of a threat than the P in V variety of porn and so appeals to women by showcasing female pleasure. So carry on. It's normal.

    If you're not feeling ready to have sex with someone that is fine. If your ex didn't turn you on that is fine. Maybe the vibe was wrong, maybe you didn't have enough foreplay - maybe you just didn't fancy him enough?
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    (Original post by Friffinghell)
    First things first; watching lesbian porn isnt unusual. Lesbian porn tends to be more female centric and less of a threat than the P in V variety of porn and so appeals to women by showcasing female pleasure. So carry on. It's normal.

    If you're not feeling ready to have sex with someone that is fine. If your ex didn't turn you on that is fine. Maybe the vibe was wrong, maybe you didn't have enough foreplay - maybe you just didn't fancy him enough?
    I did fancy him..a lot .. somewhere i was hoping he was the one..
    And i hoped he felt thr way about me too...but he was very sexually frustrated..and really wanted to have sex with me..
    But i was never ready...
    He did turn me on while we were making out.. just not by fingering or oral..
    I tried to give him a hand job and a blow job too.. but i was really bad at it..

    Our fights were really bad..like smallest of things could trigger a huge one.and they would turn ugly.with a lot of justifications and anger.... do you think that had anything to do with the bedroom stuff?
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    (Original post by Confusedgirl21)
    I did fancy him..a lot .. somewhere i was hoping he was the one..
    And i hoped he felt thr way about me too...but he was very sexually frustrated..and really wanted to have sex with me..
    But i was never ready...
    He did turn me on while we were making out.. just not by fingering or oral..
    I tried to give him a hand job and a blow job too.. but i was really bad at it..

    Our fights were really bad..like smallest of things could trigger a huge one.and they would turn ugly.with a lot of justifications and anger.... do you think that had anything to do with the bedroom stuff?
    If you were hoping he was the one then he wasn't the one. If he was the one you'd know.

    And if you weren't ready then that is totally fine. That's your choice and he should have respected that.

    You can't expect to be great at everything on the first go. Part of having a good sexual relationship is the learning curve of figuring out what works and what doesn't for each person. Don't get hung up on it.

    Any relationship with a lot of fights isn't worth it in my book. Life is too short for pointless drama.
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      (Original post by Confusedgirl21)
      Am 22 year old girl. I have been masturbating from a very young age. I masturbate by humping against the pillow/bed or via clitoral stimulation.
      I watch making out videos straight ir even lesbian videos while masturbating. I have even had experience of making out with a girl when inwas younger,around 10yrs back.
      Despite all this,i identify myself as straight. I am attracted to boys and i have had crushes on boys. I have never been attracted to girls.
      I was in a year long relationship recently. I used to make out a lot with my bf..and i used to love it. However, he wanted to have sex and i just wasnt ready.. Even though i loved the making out part.. i never got around to actually having intercourse. Am neither against premarital sex nor i am scared about the penis entering my vagina. He even tried fingering me and giving me oral pleasure, but i dint get turned on as much as we thought i would. I coudnt figure out why i wasnt ready for sex.
      We broke up a while back because things wernt working out.
      But i am still confused as to why is dint want to have sex even thought i liked the foreplay? Is it normal to get turned on by lesbian videos ? Or am i one too? Why am i not ready for sex? Why doesnt fingering or oral give me pleasure?
      Maybe you just weren't as into him as you thought you were.
     
     
     
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