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Since when are Boys complicated

So, I was sick - tonsillitis, and it was day 4. By this point I had done as much as I could to keep myself busy. But my apartment is only so big. So one of my friends, let's call him James, was online and I told him that I had no idea what to do with myself, he said that he would come over to see me the next day. The next day in the afternoon he came over and we had tons of fun. Even though my voice was terrible and I wasn't feeling so hot. Later, it was like 6.30, we made dinner and watched a movie on my bed. After the movie we just lay there, talking - at which point I realized that he actually liked me as well...Just before he had to leave, because the busses were going to stop running for the night, and he had to work early the next morning - so there was no way he could sleepover, there was a kiss. It wasn't a peck - but also not a full on make out...

Now it's been over a week, and he's practically ignored me online, and at a party last night, my old roommate and i had a bathroom discussion, and she mentioned that he had talked to her and told her that "something had happened between us" and he was feeling confused.

So - what's going on...I thought girls were supposed to be the confusing ones. What should I do?

Reply 1

randomgirl

14

Text him? Ring him? TALK TO HIM. He was probably waiting for you to contact him, you have probably both been playing the waiting game and hence neither of you have contacted the other.

But yeah, speak to him. :smile:

Reply 2

Audrey Tautou

Ah

Reply 3

randomgirl

14

Audrey Tautou

**** him

LOL. How crude :biggrin:

Reply 4

Cocoa

OP

12

i have talked to him, i get short witty answers - which is normal, but it's the first time i've ever had to struggle to keep a conversation going with him...usually we can talk for hours.....

Reply 5

Cocoa

OP

12

i don't want to rush that...i actually like this one - a lot - otherwise i certainly wouldn't hesitate that kind of satisfaction :P

Reply 6

Tyler Durden

17

AnnaKatharina

So, I was sick - tonsillitis, and it was day 4. By this point I had done as much as I could to keep myself busy. But my apartment is only so big. So one of my friends, let's call him James, was online and I told him that I had no idea what to do with myself, he said that he would come over to see me the next day. The next day in the afternoon he came over and we had tons of fun. Even though my voice was terrible and I wasn't feeling so hot. Later, it was like 6.30, we made dinner and watched a movie on my bed. After the movie we just lay there, talking - at which point I realized that he actually liked me as well...Just before he had to leave, because the busses were going to stop running for the night, and he had to work early the next morning - so there was no way he could sleepover, there was a kiss. It wasn't a peck - but also not a full on make out...

Now it's been over a week, and he's practically ignored me online, and at a party last night, my old roommate and i had a bathroom discussion, and she mentioned that he had talked to her and told her that "something had happened between us" and he was feeling confused.

So - what's going on...I thought girls were supposed to be the confusing ones. What should I do?

You probably gave him tonsillitis...

Reply 7

Cocoa

OP

12

Sehnsucht

You probably gave him tonsillitis...

haha no - it was past the stage of being contageous...he's perfectly healthy :smile:

Reply 8

Mr Poopie Pants

Sehnsucht

You probably gave him tonsillitis...

I was going to say that. :hmmm:

Reply 9

PhantomBoggler

This james guy sounds a bit odd tbh. whats the attraction?

Reply 10

Cocoa

OP

12

What about him do you think is odd? Then I can better answer your question.

I don't think "attraction" can be explained, I can give you superficial things like, he's sweet, funny, kind, we get along really well, never a really dull moment, good looking......

we've known each other for over a year - we were in compsci together, before i changed programs

Reply 11

Cj-Tj

15

If you speak to him in front of others then get him alone again. Men have a "persona" or front to put forward when in public or groups.

Reply 12

Cocoa

OP

12

umm.... not this one, he's the same whether we're hanging out with a group of people or alone... there are very little changes in behaviour ... that i can see/tell

Reply 13

username93972

0

10

Try not stereotyping people based on their gender from the outset; that's part of your problem.

Reply 14

matt@internet

12

Ask him if he fancies going out for a drink/see a film or whatever. Yeeesh.

Reply 15

Crimson Black

13

What's so complicated about that? You kissed, he's probably confused as to a) whether he likes you that way or not, and b) whether he wants a relationship with you or not. What I imagine he's doing is weighing up what you do next so that he can make up his mind.

It's not some 'game' like you women play. :rolleyes:

Since when are Boys complicated

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