bfs dog might die

my bf LOVES his dog soooo much and last night it was brought into the vets cos it was weeing blood etc and now theres a chance it could die.

what do i say, what do i do? because i really have no idea :frown:

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Reply 1

HereFishyFishy

Be there for him.

What else can you do?

Reply 2

TOD100

take his mind of it.

Reply 3

toffeesweets

Aww that's so sad :frown:

but I agree that all you can do is be there for him. :hugs:

Reply 4

sarcasticallysincere

Be there for him but also be prepared to give him space - be really flexible with him and try and occupy him by for example getting him out of the house so that he has less time to notice the lack of his dog in the house. Be willing to talk to him but don't get frustrated if he closes up a bit. Just be yourself with him because he will be stressed already without worrying about people fussing over him.

Reply 5

Angrybanana

I'm afraid there's not much you can do. A dog isn't a person, just comfort him and be there for him like other people have said? :s-smilie:

Reply 6

*Stargirl*

we had to let our rabbit be put down and it was actually friggin traumatic because of the circumstances. i dont think he'll want to talk much, just stay with him

Reply 7

M.A.H

be there for him, and perhaps buy him another one after a while? (tactless perhaps)

Reply 8

abc101

That's very sad. I've just lost my dog and it's one of the most painful things in the world, she meant far more to me than anyone outside my close family. Hopefully the vet may be able to do something or he/she may get better on his/her own - whilst sometimes the very difficult decision to have a pet put to sleep has to be taken because it's not fair on the animal, sometimes, vets are too quick to suggest this option and owners too quick to agree. I was advised to have my rabbit put down numerous times, but because he was a real little trooper and we were so devoted to him he got better and lived for another 2 and a half years! So it's just something for your boyfriend to bear in mind, depending on what the situation is, he/she may get better!

I would say just be there for him, let him know that if he wants to talk you're all ears, and perhaps share experiences about your own pets, past and present. He may not want to talk about it all, or he may want to talk about it a lot, you will be able to gauge from how much he says. If he wants to talk, talking about happy times with his dog may help. Try to be positive and don't assume too much until you know exactly what the dog's condition is.

I hope his dog gets better!

Reply 9

dh00001

just tell him youre there for him if he wants you. dont pry for him to talk or anything though. let him grieve how he wants to

Reply 10

thebarmaidsmiles

If it dies, let him go crazy and mourn just like it was a human. If he's youngish (I'm assuming majority of us on here are 16 to 25?) he's probably not going to have had much experience with death. Tolerate him if he gets a bit cheesy - yeah to everyone else it's just a dog, but to the person in question, it's huge. There's nothing worse than someone belittling a death, anybody/thing's death.

Reply 11

campbell87

Just hold his hand and let him know your there for him, dont insist on talking about it and dont force him to either. Just be there for him best you can.

Reply 12

xx-Samantha-xx

like other people have said, let him know that you will be there for him.

Reply 13

pink_lucie

his dog died, hes crying :frown:

i really want to be with him but he says no because he might be rude etc i really wana hug him and make him feel better :frown:

Reply 14

xx-Samantha-xx

he probs just needs space for a bit, he'll be ok, can i ask how old is he ?

Reply 15

pink_lucie

xx-Samantha-xx

he probs just needs space for a bit, he'll be ok, can i ask how old is he ?

the dog or my bf? my bf is 19 and the dog was only 5 or 6 in normal years which i dont think is too old in dog years

Reply 16

xx-Samantha-xx

aww he'll be ok i know hes probs been with the dog for that long too and if it was hes first then he'll feel it more

just give him space and let him no that u will be there if he needs u

Reply 17

southernlight

that's so sad! i don't know how i'd survive without my dog, he's helped me through so much.

just respect his wishes, but be there for him if he needs it - he might not know exactly what he wants right now because he'll be grieving

Reply 18

Joanna May

pink_lucie

the dog or my bf? my bf is 19 and the dog was only 5 or 6 in normal years which i dont think is too old in dog years

According to a site I found off google, it's around 35. So no, not that old really. Just be there for your boyfriend, it's all you can do.

Reply 19

Dream_Catcher

pink_lucie

the dog or my bf? my bf is 19 and the dog was only 5 or 6 in normal years which i dont think is too old in dog years

Your boyfriend seems fairly young and at that age most people haven't experinced death within the family to an extent. The dog seems to have played a big role in his life. What I mean by that is: your boyfriend has gone through puberty and grew up with his dog. Now it's gone he'll need his space to think. But also he'll need to know that he has someone there for him.

Hope this helps.

Note:Who ever said about getting a new dog, that wasn't the best suggestion. You can't bring back the memories.