can i improve his kissing?

anon as he knows who i am on here.

i've just been seeing a guy for a while now, and it's good in general. the only problem is, he is a really bad kisser! really overenthusiastic and almost painful and suffocating. i hate too much tongue and well...there is a lot too much. i have tried subtly pulling back and kind of holding his face and being more gentle but he always manages to overpower me. :frown:

what can i do? is this a dealbreaker?

Reply 1

prb

talk to him?

Reply 2

Saffie

11

talk to him. it's all about biting anyway.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

he's really inexperienced and i'm worried i'm going to offend him. i think he might take it badly...but is there really no other way? what do i say?

Reply 4

Kagutsuchi

20

try to guide him through it - but very sexily.

Therefore, he'll be too aroused to care about being offended, and you get a good kisser... hopefully. :p:

sexily as in the sexy eyes and the licking of lips and the constant flicks or rub to the chest area. Tight jeans or something slightly revealing is good too.

Have a blast.

Reply 5

Saffie

11

"can we slow it down please?"
"i prefer less tongue"

I don't think there's any other way

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Hayate

try to guide him through it - but very sexily.

Therefore, he'll be too aroused to care about being offended, and you get a good kisser... hopefully. :p:

sexily as in the sexy eyes and the licking of lips and the constant flicks or rub to the chest area. Tight jeans or something slightly revealing is good too.

Have a blast.

Anon - cause people I know use this. :redface:

I agree though, just slightly distract him, or get him really aroused, and eventually he'll end up following suit when you kiss. And it'll be much better. :smile:

Hopefully anyways. :p:

I don't see my boyfriend that often, but quite often there's just too much tongue. And I get all "dngdhnodh :s-smilie:

" about it. But hey. Hayate's way works for me. :wink:

Reply 7

Kagutsuchi

20

Anonymous

Anon - cause people I know use this. :redface:

I agree though, just slightly distract him, or get him really aroused, and eventually he'll end up following suit when you kiss. And it'll be much better. :smile:

Hopefully anyways. :p:

I don't see my boyfriend that often, but quite often there's just too much tongue. And I get all "dngdhnodh :s-smilie:

" about it. But hey. Hayate's way works for me. :wink:

Also! Slip a sweet into your mouth before kissing, it helps to train the tongues movements when alerting the taste buds, but that may be too much. :p:

Just go with your very talented seductive ways. :wink:

Reply 8

andrew.awad

tell him to not move his tongue too much-simple

Reply 9

Stevey_W

Just ask him not to be so enthusiastic etc, tell him to respond to how you kiss him?

Reply 10

zDjM

Ask him to kiss you gently because you would really like to feel his lips and if he does what he does now you can't and you are upset and depressed or just the first part :wink:

wtf ppl can't just talk with each other?? sometimes really helps. cheers

Reply 11

ph9

10

this isn't really related to the thread but i have to say this.. i don't understand when people make their threads anon and say something like 'anon because he/she knows who i am on here'... well surely they're going to read the post and put two and two together anyway?? :p:

anyway, yeah as has been said, just be straight with him. you know that's all you can do really, i mean what other choice is there? it's just how you say it isn't it...

Reply 12

Fairy.Dust.Forever

I was into a guy a while ago... it wasn't serious but we were seeing each other... he was an AWFUL kisser.... I tried to train him.... holding his chin (trying not to appear to be doing anything) ... but he overpowered me too.... really forceful.... passionate kisses... but exceedingly sloppy and not very nice.... because he only had one style. I just told him that I prefer lots of little kisses rather than long, passionate snogs. Explain to him how you feel... but be diplomatic with the truth.... passionate... rather than overpowering and icky.... There's something really sexy about talking through what you like... whether it be related to sex, or kissing.... touching.... just try not to make it clinical.... reward him for doing something you like.... or give him a sign.... whatever works for you! Hope you guys get over this hump... :smile:

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

OP im in the same position, im with a guy who just cannot kiss! :frown:

theres always way too much tongue so i end up with slobber round my mouth :s:

and sometimes he's just too rough so i feel like im being suffocated- why cant i ever pick guys who can kiss? :sad:

Reply 14

Anonymous #4

when i first got with my latest ex he has never 'snogged' anyone before. the first time we did he almost choked me how deep his tongue went :s-smilie:

i just pulled back and was like whoa and he was like whats up and i said just a little less tongue and stuff, then he just followed my lead. he appreciated learning how to do it obviously and didnt get embarrassed too much cos he just wanted to get back kissing! hes really good now! when u tell him dont make a big fuss and a big deal about it, just start kissing him again and then say ''oh my god'' that was good!

Reply 15

Bedshaped

14

Suck his fingers instead.

:smile:

Reply 16

Zoecb

11

Just suggest gently, "It would be really sexy if..." or "Why don't you try/Why don't we try..." and then describe/demonstrate what you do want.

Reply 17

Cushti

10

Haha eew, I know what you mean, bad kissing is a massive turn off. Don't sit him down and talk about it, you'll just embarrass him and crush his self-esteem. Instead, just drop in little tips as you're going at it, like "less tongue...", and smile and show you appreciate it when he gets it right!

Reply 18

blahbloo

15

My boyfriend always leaves his saliva around my mouth but it doesnt matter, I know he's got big lips anywya. :P

Reply 19

.:Emmy:.

I had a boyfriend like that kept quiet about it then we had a fight and well i told him i didnt feel like having his tounge stuck down my throat and he said well amybe if i'd use some he wouldnt have to use so much. Needless to say we broke up!! after that i trained them, you just slowdown verytinme they get too energetic and they slowly get the picture!

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